Archive for April 2006

A Lightness of Being

Thursday, April 27th, 2006

Like most children, I grew up in a world where weight mattered.  My mother was self-conscious about her weight, and how much weight others had gained or lost was always a ripe topic of discussion. As a teenager I believed that if I weighed less I'd be loved more.  I knew that the only reason […]

Time Running Out

Tuesday, April 25th, 2006

Is time running out for us? So many women I talk to, no matter how young they are, have the sense of a ticking hourglass.  They feel, deep inside, that if they don't find the right man soon to marry and settle down, the bloom of their youth will have passed and all the single […]

Invisible Women

Monday, April 24th, 2006

Last Saturday, I went to a birthday party for a friend.  It was in a lovely house in a quiet cul-de-sac in the outermost suburb, the sort of peaceful environment that you'd imagine full of kids and dogs, wine and dinner parties, healthy living and marital bliss. As the guests arrived, I stood and shook […]

Fun at the Mexican Cafe

Wednesday, April 19th, 2006

Last weekend, my colleague Andrew (co-author of Save My Marriage Today!) and I had a fabulous night out at a local hotspot, the Mexican Cafe.  We were attending a mutual friend's birthday party, and we got into the Mexican spirit by trying on some hats.     Sometimes it is great to simply act silly […]

Five Rules for Happiness

Tuesday, April 18th, 2006

A friend recently sent me five simple rules to be happy, and I found them so beautiful that I wanted to share them with you. Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less. Although these five rules are simple, they can be so difficult to practice.  Take […]

Dr. Phil on Dating

Monday, April 17th, 2006

My colleague Andrew loves Dr. Phil for his no-nonsense, get-real approach to relationships.  Friday, as I was leaving the office, I passed Andrew's desk.  My attention was caught by a book with a big red heart on the cover and a familiar smiling face.  It was Dr. Phil's Love Smart: Find the One You Want […]

Being in Control

Thursday, April 13th, 2006

I got my hair cut last night at my favorite hair salon, the one where all the stylists are quirky over-30s with piercings and a vast knowledge of the latest celeb and local gossip.  As the stylist blowdried my hair with practiced flips of the brush, she told me about a woman who had come […]

Are You Getting Nowhere?

Tuesday, April 11th, 2006

Today while I was at the gym, I was suddenly struck with amusement at the thought of how an outsider to our culture would see this.  Here is a room full of scantily attired people puffing and sweating as they work energetically to move plates of metal and run on spinning belts that take them […]

What is Attraction?

Monday, April 10th, 2006

Like most women, I always thought that becoming more attractive to men was about improving my appearance.  As a teenager I was desperate to lose weight, get the perfect haircut, and wear the styles in the latest magazines.  I wanted boys to pay attention to me, and I knew that the girls to whom they […]

Attitude

Sunday, April 9th, 2006

On Friday night a friend and I went out on the town.  In my city, the nightclubs and bars don't really start humming until 1am, so we waited until nearly midnight to head out. Our taxi dropped us off on the Strip, a series of bars along the river, with outdoor seating warmed by gas […]