Comment by Donna

September 20, 2006 @ 1:46 am

Thank you! I bought and read the book and I find that looking at relationships from the mans point of view - really has helped me in my own. It was a great eye opener, because all we really know as women is what WE think or feel.
I’m glad Christian has laid it all on the line - yes, some of it is hard to take and swallow, but sometimes girls - we need that wake up call too.
Thanks for the Great Review. I think I’m going to get the DVDs!

Comment by Janis

September 20, 2006 @ 7:58 am

Amy… I’m probably one of those functioning BabyBoomers many women wish they were (& that’s not bragging… ask them… some of us settled for the family thing… others, like me preferred freedom… cool) I just think that women should respect the fact that they Have a Choice at Any stage of their life… THEY must respect that choice, nobody else can do it for them.
However, small towns may think they have a problem…
Absolutely Wrong!! Women are awesome… as a Group, they are downright feared :)) Don’t u think that the women of every small town (we call them do-orpies here in South Africa) needs to consider where she can make a difference to help other women…
Men. my darling, are the same the world over… AS WOMEN, we need to ID & Really Screw the Bad ONES..
Shame hey…. I love men to bits

Comment by Suzay

September 20, 2006 @ 6:23 pm

Christian Carter is how I found Amy Waterman.-BOTH Christian and Amy, all of their resources, books and other people that they utilize and recommend-I’ve been buying, reading, studying avidly, like I can’t get enough.
All phases of my life and relationships have dramatically improved, not just ones with the opposite sex,although that has gotten better as well.
For instance-both authors refer to Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages- I just receive my copy-what an incredible book-tears streamed down my face reading it–you’ll never see live the same way, and just have to get your own copy…
I think both of them, Christian and Amy, together form the pinnacle, the quintessence-yet it is ever growing-each with their own featured specialists with insights that simply are life changing, and immediately usable information based soundly on what works.- Because culturally as women we were taught such crap about men and relationships, if we were taught anything at all with any substance–Is there any wonder why the divorce rate is so high,50%.
Now is your chance to get real. Get BOTH-share them at girls night, share with your daughters-we all need solid information especially in this core area of life.

Comment by JT

October 23, 2006 @ 8:06 pm

Where can we see a picture of the elusive CC? I’ve tried to google him and read a bio but all I keep getting is results leading to how to buy the book.? I trust he is also writing a book for guys on all of the BIG MISTAKES they make with women.? Relationships are a two way street and noone should walk on eggshells for the other. As a couple’s therapist I can tell you that men must compromise and put themselves in the women’s shoes in order for their to be a quality relationship. Just like it wouldn’t be fair for a woman to demand a guy always go shopping with her and watch chick flicks… a guys should not demand he gets his way all the time too. The happiest guys I know have learned to compromise and put themselves (frequently) in their women’s shoes. The most unhappy men and women are in relationships where the man only thinks of himself and his point of view.

Comment by hala koleilat

October 30, 2006 @ 1:58 am

where can i find the book in lebanon and how much does it cost

Comment by Yabbi

November 22, 2006 @ 6:49 pm

Hala: the book is only available from the author’s web site. It isn’t a printed book, it’s a computer document you can only download from the author’s web site.

I think it’s a bit expensive, though.

Comment by Justine

March 2, 2007 @ 8:11 am

Christian Carter great catch? is he single? and if yes…how come still single and why? hasnt he yet sorted it out? lol And yeah, great book great c.d.’s very good psychological insight. Read it at least twice girls!

Comment by Gina

March 5, 2007 @ 8:44 am

RE:Because culturally as women we were taught such crap about men and relationships,

This is so true. And all men are taught is that a woman is “hot” if she puts her vagina on a silver platter and has a hot little body. It’s sick and I’m finished.

Comment by carol

May 18, 2007 @ 3:51 am

How much does the book cost? I know there should be no price associated with being able to have this information (smile!), but obviously Christian has placed a price on it, and I would like to know it before I start entering my credit card info online.

Comment by Amy

May 18, 2007 @ 10:34 am

At the moment, it’s priced at $29.97.

Comment by nay

June 18, 2007 @ 5:09 am

what stops me from buying this ebook is i dont trust to use my cedit card online …

Comment by BillieJean

August 9, 2007 @ 9:35 pm

I must say that I did buy the book over a year ago. It really is great and most of the tips in the book do work. If you order the kit and recieve articles sent by mail sometimes its worth a second listen. It was the best thing I ever bought on the net! I am in a wonderful relationship now and its going great!

Comment by Kat

August 11, 2007 @ 2:20 pm

Thanks to JT for her comment - I can’t help but wonder when reading these types of dating books - isn’t this just glorified ‘what can I do for you (oh glorious man) now’ advice? What’s the difference between this and telling me to wear an apron, be quiet and supportive and look beautiful 24/7 aka 50s Woman’s magazines?

What I mean is that the subtext is that we should center our life around the mission of making a man ‘ours’ -

Obviously, to anyone who has had trouble finding that forever person - and read any of the dating books - this is the same type of criticism leveled against ‘The Rules’. Speaking of which - I don’t see a lot of differences between that book and this one by CC.

Anyway, maybe if we were reading more books on business, marketing and how to make money fast - there would be a ‘Catch Her and Keep Her’ book here instead of this one.

Comment by amy

August 13, 2007 @ 8:29 am

Kat, I completely agree that the title of Christian Carter’s book is unfortunate. A relationship is not about “catching” someone else; it’s not about “getting” a man or “hooking” a man. It’s about creating something together that’s bigger than two individuals. In fact, Dr. Harville Hendrix believes that relationships are about healing one another, so that we can grow to our fullest emotional and spiritual potential as human beings.

That’s why, in my course, I teach women that the only person you can REALLY do anything about is yourself. You can’t “make” a man do anything; manipulation will only yield short-term rewards. But what you CAN do is become the sort of person who is so naturally loving, so accepting of herself and others, and so wise in seeing who truly is right for her, that she’s irresistibly attractive to EVERYONE.

But, with all that said, I don’t believe that it’s fair to characterize Christian Carter’s book based on the title alone. His goal is to help women see men from a man’s point of view. For example, he talks about the dangers of seeing yourself as the “victim” of bad relationships, and of getting so wrapped up in your emotions that you fail to see the situation from an objective point of view.

Too, he’s perfectly happy admitting that he has learned much of what he knows from the amazing women in his life, and that he’s speaking from a place of sharing his take on the differences between the genders, RATHER than dictating what women should do.

We’re lucky today that we have SO many options when it comes to dating and relationship advice that suits US, rather than a cookie-cutter idea of what women in general should be like. It really is up to you whose advice you decide to take!

Comment by morphy agatha

October 18, 2007 @ 12:15 am

i appreciate ur effort and all all ur couragement to both sex. god bless u all.

Comment by Lauren

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

Hi Christian,
I’d like to know if your relationship tools helped you find a “mate.” Thanks for letting us know.

Comment by Bobbie

November 6, 2007 @ 9:57 am

I was skeptical of “Catch Him & Keep Him” when I saw it several months ago, because the title has such a Cosmo Cover ring to it - Christian is doing a huge disservice to himself with that title. He’s really substantive. Also, I’m a midlifer and I felt a lot of his original stuff was too geared to the Gen X type young/singles/dating scene. However, I read his eBook (worth the 30 bucks) to see if I could learn anything - I was just getting interested in guys after a lengthy dry spell following a broken engagement and I was open to reading all kinds of things. I did find some good stuff in his eBook but it was limited. But being on his listserv I began to notice the tone of his emails started to appeal to a broader segment of women, and when he started “Ready to Love” and really got into how many women’s relationships fail time and again, it really started to click - he was on to something with women who have had enough relationship experience to start to ask the really important questions, enough life experience to realize that what is important is within first. Christian has grown himself. His work goes far beyond how to just have a successful dating life for some duration of time - to really getting into your own self-sabotage, old garbage-y messages floating around in your psyche and how we are so often prone to operate from fear. Most of our troubles lie within ourselves - and I don’t mean there is anything wrong with us. I mean, we need more confidence, build our own lives up more, recognize that we want a loving relationship but that doesn’t fix all the stuff within us that we should work on ourselves to be confident, whole, loving, loveable women. I’m ready to give it another go and much of what I have learned from Christian is keeping me from making the same mistakes I made in the past. I met a fabulous guy around a year ago, and we are just close friends now, and I am in no hurry to get to some other level with it - but I see good things coming of this. I am growing myself first and taking time to exercise some of my newfound insights and watching what I am doing as much or more as what he is doing. Christian Carter? Read this guy, ladies. I too, however, wish we had some background on this guy - or maybe he is just one of those people that found his bliss and he’s learned in the trenches of life. Maybe you don’t need a PhD in psychology, after all.

Comment by Bobbie

November 6, 2007 @ 10:08 am

PS Reply to Kat’s point of view. Christian Carter’s work is about as far away from The Rules as you can get. He is realistic about both men and women, and unlike The Rules, he straightforwardly tells you NOT to sacrifice your values or anything else that is important to you to be with a man. He says, for example, when a mature woman wants to call a man, she will call him. Be real, don’t play stupid games, don’t be into manipulative strategies. If you get one thing from Christian that’s really worth it, it is the difference between a Man and a Boy, and the difference between a Woman and a Girl. That’s a real eye opener. A mature man does not want a Girl, and a mature woman does not want a Boy. The Rules is to Christian as the funny papers are to Shakespeare. Christian is the best on relationships that I have ever encountered - and I have pretty much read them all. The only other thing - if you are constantly in relationships that really break you down, either abusive or borderline abusive, then read Howard Halperin’s How to Break Yourself of an Addiction to a Person. It’s a classic - and if you are in pathology, that’s the kind of book you need. If you’re pretty normal and just don’t quite have the hang of it, Christian’s work will put you light years ahead. He really wants to see women succeed - writers like the authors of The Rules want to see the old ways perpetuated, and ladies, we deserve better than that.

Comment by Donna J Burrows

December 26, 2007 @ 10:57 am

is it possible to buy the actual book “Catch him and Keep him” by Christian Carter on audio? cd or cassette?

Comment by amy

January 7, 2008 @ 7:10 am

Hi, Donna! From what I know, the book itself is not available in an audio version. However, the package does include (as bonuses) audio interviews with dating experts, which I highly recommend!

Comment by Jae

January 8, 2008 @ 10:37 am

I recently purchased CC, Catch him and Keep him book. I will say that originally, I was in a new relationship where the “honeymoon” phase started to fade out and I noticed that this guy started to become “distant”, so I thought to utilize the book solely to mend this relationship. But at the end of the day, the book has taught me so much more about the thoughts that men have when women take on certain actions when dating overall. It is a look from the outside in, with a real man’s perspective on how men perecieve dating. To be sure that I wasn’t just in agreement with CC’s book due to my own desperation and naievity, I spoke with a few of my guy friends about it for their own feedback, and they completely agreed!!!
Unfortunately women and men do think alike. And if you are repeating patterns that result in rejection and negativity through your dating style, then why not give this a chance to use some of the exercises he gives you to use in your next dating experience, and experiment with the result. If it is better…then hey…what did you have to lose? I also love that you can download it and revisit the book anytime you need to, creating a “practice makes perfect” repetition and either enhance or edit your dating style, actions and beliefs.
I don’t hear him saying to lose yourself as a woman, or to fully succumb to men in full, but how to easily compromise or refurbish your actions and thoughts to make it easier for a man to deal with you, and in turn help you to build and gain more confidence over insecurity because you are now seen as someone a guy wants to be with, rather than someone he is just “ho hum” about. I mean at the end of the day, you have just been given 183 pages on the ingsights and thoughts of a man, and when put to use, the man you are dealing with has no clue what has made him start falling for you….WHO WINS HERE? You have literally been given the magic potion that you’ve been asking for to help you create a better you, while also appealing to MEN. …

Comment by mj

July 6, 2008 @ 11:21 am

I purchased CC’s e-book about a year and a half ago. A few reviews I have read of the book have emphasized the fact that it tells women the “obvious”. I felt the same way when I read it - the advice and insight was obvious, and yet sometimes the obvious escapes us. The book got me over my last relationship and helped me to realize that I was not crazy, that I needed to wake up and date the right person. I entered my current relationship with no pretenses, with high (but realistic) expectations, and it has been really great for a year now. I think what CC’s book taught me was how to choose a man to date, and not to settle. It also taught me to avoid acting on my fears. Just because I have been cheated to and lied to in the past does not mean I need to place those paranoias on my current boyfriend. Sure, keep an eye out (because you just never know) but keep your mouth shut - showing your deep insecurities to men, even the greatest ones, causes all sorts of trouble. Anyway, I’m going on and on. Point is: CC’s book is worth the read. And hell, if you don’t like it after a week or whatever, you can return it at no cost (at least that was the deal when I bought it - but I kept it.) Good luck!

Comment by Sexy Girl

July 9, 2008 @ 9:59 am

I agree. Christian Carter’s book is for women who want to catch a great catch. It is not for women who want A guy, any guy. Any guy would be happy to find A woman, any woman and snatch her before anyone else does. Christian’s book is for those who want to find and catch one the best most sought after men.

Comment by AW

July 23, 2008 @ 12:43 am

I was intrigued but wouldn’t buy this e-book as its too expensive. I have also read of people being ripped off with things they didnt order after registering with Christians site. Its seems like a scam to me.

Comment by Edith

November 19, 2008 @ 4:36 pm

The reason why there is not a picture of Christian Carter is because I think he is in reality, David de Angelo. A popular author of dating e-books for men. I have read his “Double your Dating” e-book, and it’s good. So I’m interested in buying this one and see what he has to say to us women now.

I think it’s David because of the e-books “sell sheet”, the writing style is very similar to David’s.

Comment by Scot McKay

November 21, 2008 @ 10:49 pm

I stumbled upon this site while looking for a logo of the CC “Dating Experts” series, as Amy is a dear friend and frequent collaborator of ours here at X & Y Communications.

Having read some comments above, I wanted to clear up a few items because I believe we’re in the unique position to do so.

My wife, Emily McKay (of course), is going to be on Christian’s interview series for December. We were actually on site in LA last week to record the interview face-to-face with Christian.

(BTW, if you get in on the CD series this month, that means you’ll hear Christian and Emily’s conversation next month.)

I can not only assure you he’s a real guy, but that he’s the real deal. Very much in real life as he appears in his videos.

We spent the whole day with him and some members of his production team and everyone was a class act all around.

As Emily and I similarly have dating advice books and programs that we provide via Internet, I’d suggest that any who have had issues with ordering, etc. remember that e-commerce is far from perfect and there are inevitable glitches.

I’m all but sure that CC and his team are, like us, committed to making sure any issues are resolved if/when given the chance.

Cheers,

Scot McKay
X & Y Communications

Comment by Maggi

December 30, 2008 @ 5:32 am

I’m not sure what people mean by saying that “The Rules” advocates a woman give up her values and make her life revolve around a man. That is not true at all. The authors repeatedly recommend that women have a career, interests, friends, and goals of their own, even after they are married. Although they do suggest that a man’s willingness to be as generous as he is able is often symbolic of his desire for her, they also say women should not be in it for a caretaker and that she should be able to take over and take care of them if something happens to a man.

That being said, I object to Christian’s book being exclusively an e-book. This seems that it almost eliminates the ability to lend the book to someone to read before deciding to buy it. Also, the fact that the follow-up CD’s are so praised here makes it seem that this is just about making money for Christian, since those CD’s are 20 bucks a pop. I also worry that Christian will tell me to do things that actually take a lot of skill and I won’t have it, so it will just end up frustrating me. And, by the way, from what I can tell from the outside, I think I have done a lot of what is recommended. I’ve been seeing a man for 7 months and we have not had sex, though he has told me I am sexy and we have kissed and cuddled. He has told me that he laughs more with me than with anyone and that 5 minutes with me is an adventure. He brought me flowers recently and told me that he rarely got flowers for his wife, but he got me nothing for Christmas and didn’t even call. He is now off with another woman for a cross country trip and with either her or another one for a cruise over New Year’s! I don’t know if I should just give up because I am so obviously not the woman who makes him want to settle down, or if I should hang in there concentrating on continuing our having fun together and allowing him to reveal himself emotionally, as I have been doing.

Comment by Anonymous

January 21, 2009 @ 11:18 am

I’m considering buying the e-book to download on my laptop. My wireless service allows a certain amount of downloading before you are charged. Can anyone tell me how much memory space the book takes up.

Thanks

Comment by Richard

February 5, 2009 @ 2:36 pm

Christian Carter is indeed David Deangelo, real name Eben Pagan. I know because im an avid fan of his! Found out he was doing dating advice for women called catch him and keep him so thought i’d take a look! And sure enough i see all the hallmarks of David D.

This guy really knows his stuff. He is also a marketing and business guru who gets paid big bucks for his expertise in that field.

Comment by CATHY

February 13, 2009 @ 8:58 am

If you do a search on youtube.com for both Christian Carter and then David De Angelo, you will see that they are 2 different people. There are excerpts from their seminars to watch.

Comment by Barbara Farkas

May 13, 2009 @ 11:35 am

It was the greatest thing I did was to order Christian’s tapes. I wish I had them sooner in order to have save my relationship of 10 years. Even at my age or any age we need to learn about men and how they are different from the women of today.