Comment by Cathy Ortiz

October 29, 2007 @ 2:59 pm

My not so highly confidence issue is that I need a tummy tuck and embarassed to get into a new relationship with this issue which would be brought to light big time with intimacy. How do you work that one with having self confidence? Cuz I do not have $5,000 bucks to fix it right off. Are guys that understanding? can I just strut my confident “behind” around the room without a 2nd thought? That’s what I need some answers on. Thank you for your time..

Comment by Stella T

October 29, 2007 @ 3:26 pm

I have some morbidly obese friends that have no problems picking up men, either for sex or relationships. The same goes for a friend of mine that is in a wheelchair. As long as your tummy is an issue for you, it will be a problem for others that meet you.

Self-confidence might not make your ass small, but it will improve how you let it affect you. Every single one of us have a handicap that we believe stops us from finding love. I’m going to buy the book in the hope that a change of attitude can change my dating success.

Thanks Amy for all your help in bringing this matter to our attention.

Comment by Bunny

October 29, 2007 @ 8:47 pm

Hello,

I really could do with some tips as to how to recover from a romantic disappointment.
I met great man (or so he seemed) on an internet dating site.Our first converstion and date were amazing. He lived about 700 miles away from me. He invited me to go on holiday with him. Told me the flights to book.
Then after our second date dumped me via e-mail.
How would you recommend I get over my disappointment?

Comment by mina

October 30, 2007 @ 2:04 am

i wish i could be spared a copy…as much as i would lile so much to buy a copy..i just couldnt..all my income is spend for dialysis of my mother and nothing is left for me and i have not experienced the luxury of life since my mother got sick..anyway, its fine with me, so long as i see my mother still alive

thank you so much

Comment by Amethystmoon

October 30, 2007 @ 2:11 am

Hello,

I am in a relationship with a man 20 years younger. Although I was very confident when I met him, there’s always that naggging feeling he’ll find someone younger and prettier as is true with all men, but of course, the age difference here just accentuates that fear. The fact that he is incredibly hot and successful at a young age (29) adds to the attraction! Any advice?

Comment by gina

October 30, 2007 @ 8:10 am

hey guys some of you will probably think that i am crazy when i share my story. I have been dating a guy for 6 months and when he is good he is awesome but when he is not good he is awful. He is always telling me he needs “alone time” he’s independent and doesn’t need me to do anything for him. He will go 3-4 days without talking to me or e-mailing me then he calls and wants me back in his life. I am overweight and I am trying to lose weight. SO far i have lost 39pounds and have about 100 more to go. He is constantly telling me i am unattractive, not sexy to him because i am overweight but get this (He is overweight also)
I really care alot for him but maybe he doesnt feel the same for me???

Comment by Sandra

October 30, 2007 @ 8:26 am

I think that a huge part of self-confidence is SELF-RESPECT. Gina, don’t let this guy DO that to you! He’s not good - he’s a complete and total jerk. (Bunny, your guy sounds like a total jerk, too!)

Here’s the best way to get your self-confidence back: DUMP THE GUY. There’s nothing worse than watching your friends hook up with guys who psychologically abuse them (and telling you you’re not attractive is abuse as far as I’m concerned) and make their self-esteem dependent on whatever crumbs the guy throws at them.

A big part of self-confidence is being PICKY about who you date and having STANDARDS about how people treat you. If we let guys get away with bad behavior, we’re just training them to be jerks for the next woman they hook up with.

Comment by asha

October 30, 2007 @ 10:48 am

For those of you who question your relationship with a particular man I believe, the idea that you believe you must change yourself to be found attractive or possess certain qualities to keep your man is a huge drawback. Each and every woman is worthy of true and decent man, and somebody who is constantly putting you down is definately not him! Self-confidence truly is the key to so many things in life, and you should never let one man snatch it away. You are all beautiful and inteligent woman who know even within yourselves that you can do better than him! And mina I am very sorry to hear about your mother you sound like such a loving and sweet woman.

Comment by Jen

October 30, 2007 @ 1:45 pm

Sometimes I think the experiences with the jerk-offs are there so that maybe when we meet the right one it is clear as day. I have gone out with countless numbers of men. I am in my early 30s and I am attractive, smart, fit, and successful. I think for a while I put up with bs from one guy and finally got out of that situation. Over the summer I met another a-hole that I dumped when I realized I didn’t want to be treated how he was treating me– last minute phone calls, “crumbs”, etc. I got the “I’m not ready for anything serious blah blah blah.” He had been divorced for 3 years and has a kid and wanted to get his custody issues squared away. I said “ok then.” He’s still tried to get together with me a couple of times since then but I won’t have contact with him/go out with him. I am so proud of myself. I have been seeing another guy for about 3 months now. He is absolutely fantastic. He treats me so well, calls me beautiful, likes to take me out, asks me out in advance and wants to spend more time with me. I wasn’t expecting this at all given what I’ve been through and now I’m so thrilled! So it can happen, don’t give into the crazymakers or those a-holes. Remember that you are better off alone than having your life complicated by some total jerk! (at least that’s how I see it)

Comment by nano

June 20, 2008 @ 12:26 am

hi,
actually i find myself pretty and attractive but it turns miserable when i date a guy, i dont find myself attractive anymore, sometimes guys dumb me for no any reason, im sure that there is a reason but i dont know what is it, i really wish to find a true love ,but i usually make mistakes without knowing it,i wish i can get over with that.