Comment by Jodi

October 24, 2007 @ 2:47 pm

From my experience with men, guys look less for the dumb bimbos and more for women they consider to be their equal.

A woman that knows who she is and believes in herself is far more sexy than someone who thinks they have to be something different for a man.

Smart, intelligent women every time, it works for me!

Comment by Greg Slade

October 24, 2007 @ 2:48 pm

I believe a womans smile is the best quality, especially she has smiling eyes.

Comment by Stella T

October 24, 2007 @ 2:53 pm

I used to think a push-up bra and a good set of heels got them, but men are starting to look past that. It really depends if they are just looking for a hook-up or a relationship. If men are looking for a relationship, they want someone they can introduce to their friends and family, and someone that can hold a conversation. Personality and some brains first, I say! Looks come a close second though!

Comment by mia

October 24, 2007 @ 2:55 pm

Confidence - I think men find confidence sexy because if a woman is already a full complete person, they do not feel as if they have to fill her up. It’s less work for them and men do not like to put the work into a relationship, so a good woman, who is smart, independent and knows who she is can be an asset.

Comment by Sherelle

October 24, 2007 @ 2:56 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality a woman can have is self confidence.

Comment by Annette

October 24, 2007 @ 2:56 pm

Confidence — men don’t want a clingy pushover. They want a woman that respects herself. They also want a woman that takes care of herself mentally, physically and financially — not some lazy slob.

Comment by Nic

October 24, 2007 @ 2:57 pm

I think CONGFIDENCE. They love it they thrive on it.

Comment by freda

October 24, 2007 @ 2:57 pm

I think its mostly that innate confidence that goes along with brains and a great personality.

Comment by Kris G

October 24, 2007 @ 2:57 pm

Men look for women with confidence, because if a woman feels good about herself, he will too. Men are all about the “hunt”, and a woman with confidence is more of a challenge than an insecure and needy woman.

Comment by Linda S.

October 24, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

If a man is looking for a serious relationship one of the best qualities is that the woman has the same goal or values they do in order to make a commitment. I do think that for a serious relationship looks come second. Personality comes first in these cases.

Comment by Lynne McAuley

October 24, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

A man looks for a smile and eye contact that’s real. He likes to know that she’s happy when she’s around him.

Comment by Keshnee

October 24, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

the most attractive quality in a women is their self confidence in themselves and relects the way they value themselves and view the world and people they meet along the way!

Comment by Gwen

October 24, 2007 @ 2:59 pm

I think a man is looking for a happy woman. One that knows how to be happy with herself with or without a man, therefore, taking the burden or feeling of responsibility to make her happy off of the man. Then he feels free to give love and just enjoy being with her.

Comment by Joan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

Men definitely look for self-confidence: a woman who knows who she is, where she’s been and how she’ll use her experience, intuition and wit to get where she wants to go.

Comment by Charisse

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is confidence. When a woman exudes confidence, she does not NEED a man. She is sure of herself and will not settle for a boy, she requires a MAN. This creates a challenge for men worthy of her attention. The chase makes a man want her even more and there is no time for drama with a woman with confidence! =)

Comment by margaret

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

A woman who know what she want in a relationship and is able to voice it out. It is important and the man will feel he is dating a mature person who is not going to waste his time.

Comment by Marygrace

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

Confidence is the best thing woman can have to offer. You can be a brain surgeon or a supermodel, but if you have no confidence, none of that matters.

It says you have your own life, don’t need him, are fine independent of him, and are not some sappy, needy girl. You will be with him bc you want to, and bc he treats you well.

Confidence says you run the show, your show and if he doesn’t comply and is a jack -ass, you are out of there.

Comment by Cynthia

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

Being emotionally stable. If one is calm, collected and positive, it shows that she is in control and confident of herself.

Comment by Eve

October 24, 2007 @ 3:01 pm

I believe most men are attracted to a woman who is self assured or has self confidence. If a woman appears to be needy or whiney it will scare a man away… they just won’t go there. Women with confidence appeal to men because there is less drama and a man can expect that she knows what she wants and is willing to tell him how to please her.

Comment by Cyn

October 24, 2007 @ 3:01 pm

Confidence without a doubt.

Confidence

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Great smile, great eyes, sense of humor, great figure or any part of that figure is a big zero - it might get you a second look, but it won’t mean a thing without confidence.

Comment by Edna

October 24, 2007 @ 3:01 pm

I believe even if men don’t admit it, they’re looking for self-assuredness in women. Because deep down inside, I don’t believe they want to be needed (as in the clinging way)…but they want to be wanted. If they believe they are wanted, by a woman who doesn’t need him to feel good about herself, then they have succeeded in finding what could very well be "the One."

Comment by Pat

October 24, 2007 @ 3:02 pm

Confidence with a capital “C.” Anyone who lacks self confidence is unattractive - to either sex.

Comment by Judy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:02 pm

This is a TRICK QUESTION, isn’t it???!!!
As well as one of the Seven Wonders of the World?
Looking forward to reading the best answer!
Good Luck, Girls!
Judy

Comment by Susan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:02 pm

I believe that men are seeking women who genuinely like men and value what men bring to and offer in a relationship.

Comment by Gwen J.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

Confidence - This is definitely the most attractive quality in a woman. A confident woman is also secure, strong and intelligent. Once he is attracted, he finds out she is even more beautiful, witty and funny.

Comment by Judy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

Confidence and the way a woman carries herself. Smart and independence.

Comment by Paula Winchel

October 24, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

Men notice confidence in a woman first - there is nothing sexier than someone who feels attractive, smart and is a bit sassy!

Comment by Sandra V

October 24, 2007 @ 3:06 pm

Self-Confidence. Not arrogance or a “no, I can do it myself” attitude, but rather, a sense of knowing your own worth as a wonderful woman and the worth of the life you’ve created for yourself. This is what will catch a man’s attention and keep it, because a woman who knows her own worth has a great life because she’s made it that way, she has great friendships and relationships with her family because she’s worked on them, she’s cultivated her intelligence and her interests and brought some culture into her world, her life is one of fullness and joy, not neediness and despair. How attractive is that!?

Comment by sigi weiss

October 24, 2007 @ 3:06 pm

I think a man will find a woman who loves herself and is comfortable in her own skin - regardless of her dress size or if she fits the beauty standards of our society - to be very sexy, magnetic and irresistable!!

Comment by kim

October 24, 2007 @ 3:06 pm

Beauty with brain !

Comment by Rhonda DeFrieze

October 24, 2007 @ 3:07 pm

Men are looking for a lady on the streets and a freak in the bedroom…Sounds like a song doesn’t it?

Comment by Dawn

October 24, 2007 @ 3:07 pm

I think men are most attracted to a positive attitude.

Comment by Pamela

October 24, 2007 @ 3:07 pm

I believe the single most important quality men look for in a woman is confidence.

Comment by Tea

October 24, 2007 @ 3:08 pm

The attractive trait is being able to carry herself confidently, gracefully and femininely.

Comment by Charlotte

October 24, 2007 @ 3:08 pm

Self Confidence in who she is! Makes everyone in a crowded room wonder who she is! Her eyes sparkle from the comfort of her soul! If your spirit is happy, everyone else can see it through the eyes! After all the eyes are the dooway to the soul!

Comment by Connie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:08 pm

I believe it’s self confidence. It gives you the guts to be who you are and have your own life no matter what anyone else is doing or saying(or not doing or saying).

Comment by Jeannine

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Men like to feel comfortable with a woman right off and want some interesting conversation.

Comment by Diana

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Self Confidence for sure. If a woman is confident she comes across as genuine, happy and is easy to hang out with.

Comment by Paul Chaves C.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Tons of Smiles, sense of humour, Confidence, dress well, are critical things.

Comment by Heather

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

I think its playfulness.

Having an easygoing nature, being able to laugh and play which makes him feel more comfortable.

Comment by karen knutzen

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

i think it’s a woman’s smile you can tell a lot by a person’s smile if it’s real or fake also honesty trust and being faithful and if you have that you have love and if you don’t have love in your life you have nothing

Comment by Joy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

A woman with a good head on her shoulders. Someone he can relate to

Comment by Constance

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

Confidence. A man hates to play the guessing game of “what a woman wants” and a confident woman tells him with certainty what she wants. He feels secure that he’s pleased her and she gets what she needs. It’s a win win situation.

Comment by Leslie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

Of all the dating advice I’ve read, it seems to me that the SINGLE most attactive quality men look for in a woman is her smile. It lets him know that you’re secure, accessible AND happy. Men like women who are happy. It makes them happy. Smiles are contageous. How can you not smile at someone who’s smiling at you? A woman can have great hair, a beautiful outfit, and well manicured hands and feet, but it’s all wasted on a grumpy-looking woman.

Comment by Jen

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Sanity/emotional stability. As is a woman who won’t freak out and have a mental meltdown at the first disappointments and won’t act as if they’re engaged after a couple of dates.

Comment by Gianna

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Happiness! It says confidence, warmth, success, and that she enjoys being with him. The feelings she makes him feel will be what attracts him. That’s what I think!

Comment by Delores Wolkowicz

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in a women is her happy smile. The smile shows that she is a happy person,and that would make the man feel comfortable to approach her to start conversing. If she is smiling with her friends then she would smile with him. A good disposition, a fun person.but basicly a happy smile

Comment by Sahlee

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Someone who has her own life and living to the fullest. Makes the best of what she has. Someone who is happy with or without a man in her life.

Comment by Susie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:14 pm

Her self confidence!

Comment by Barbara

October 24, 2007 @ 3:14 pm

I believe the single most quality that attracts a man is similarity. Like attracts like.

Comment by Niza

October 24, 2007 @ 3:15 pm

Men looking for a real relationship finds a woman who can be at ease with herself to be her most attractive quality. That means a woman who can genuinely smile, laugh and be ‘in-the-present’. Men love to have a good time and to feel good about themselves. Only a woman who is at ease can bring about these good feelings in a man.

Comment by elizabeth

October 24, 2007 @ 3:16 pm

First of all it is not a hot body, great boobs, a successful career or how sexy you dress. Those things are like accessories that are enhancements but not the main attracting quality. An actress once said that the best “make-up” you can wear to make you instantly look attractive is a CONFIDENT ATTITUDE AND A SMILE and I agree. It evokes the feeling of poise, self-assurance, acceptance, warmth, love and kindness. A smile makes everyone more attractive. It doesn’t cost anything and works like magic.

Comment by Roe Diddy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

I think that the quality men are most attracted to in a woman is confidence. If you love yourself he will want to know just what it is to love and will want to find out more, more, more!

Comment by Pam

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

I believe the biggest thing a “good” man will look for his confidence. If she believes in herself and feels good in her own skin, she is irresitible. Having a love for oneself also helps a love grow stronger.

Comment by Jessica

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

I believe that when a woman has SELF CONFIDENCE then along with that comes independance and self worth. This woman holds her happiness in her own hands. So it is SELF CONFIDENCE that is number one on my list.

Comment by Lynn

October 24, 2007 @ 3:22 pm

I believe a positive and caring attitude is the most important thing. By positive attitude, I mean having a sense of humor, the ability to laugh at oneself, and good self image. The caring part means being empathetic and a good listener, not a caretaker or mother replacement.

Comment by MARYinTN

October 24, 2007 @ 3:22 pm

A woman with CONFIDENCE!!!!

Comment by MO

October 24, 2007 @ 3:23 pm

I believe it is confidence.

Comment by Daryl

October 24, 2007 @ 3:24 pm

A woman’s confidence and independence, i think is the answer.

Comment by Andrea

October 24, 2007 @ 3:24 pm

I believe that the single most attractive quality that a man looks for in a woman is acceptance, he wants the woman to be non-judgmental about him.

Comment by jill eisenberg

October 24, 2007 @ 3:25 pm

confidence

Comment by Sue

October 24, 2007 @ 3:26 pm

Admiration - because it makes them feel important.

Comment by Melinda

October 24, 2007 @ 3:27 pm

Men are attracted to women who are confident. They have a positive attitude and have confidence and don’t need a man to make them happy!

Comment by Lisa Ellen

October 24, 2007 @ 3:28 pm

I would have to by far say it’s a woman’s positive attitude in life that attracts most men.
Example: A women who is thouroughly enjoying herself at any event is more apt to draw postive attention from men vs one who is just sitting there looking bored, not speaking to anyone & not living for the moment.
I have been told that my most attractive quality is the above many times by men & that in itself made me the most attractive women in the room over women far better looking than myself.

Comment by Mary

October 24, 2007 @ 3:28 pm

I think men want a woman who is confident in herself. If she doesn’t have a good self-image, he will mirror that attitude toward her.

Comment by brooke

October 24, 2007 @ 3:28 pm

CONFIDENCE, because its sexy! Simple as that.

Comment by Martha

October 24, 2007 @ 3:29 pm

I think men go for flaky women.

Comment by Tabitha

October 24, 2007 @ 3:30 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is a woman who is confident and knows what she wants out of life and has a unique personality about herself it may be the way she carries herself, her smile, eyes, she really listen, holds a conversation, how she acts around others and sense of humor

Comment by Roby

October 24, 2007 @ 3:32 pm

confidence, not the I’m all stuck on myself kind. Just plain and simple confidence, nothing attached to it.

Comment by Karen Lusk

October 24, 2007 @ 3:34 pm

Single quality is her sense of humor.

Comment by Meghan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:34 pm

Every man wants a woman who brightens his day! The ideal woman is one who brings him up, not puts him down. She’s stable and secure, and always respects and loves herself. She is someone that he always has fun with, just like he would with any other friend. Men vary in their preferences for hair color, height, and weight, but there are certain traits which run across the board: confidence, stability, and happiness. You don’t have to look like Giselle Bundchen to be a fun-loving, down-to-earth friend and lover. You just need to love yourself!

Comment by Joanie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:35 pm

It’s the inner joy/happiness radiating outward. That she is in love with life, herself, capable of being open and loving with other people. People who are in love are beautiful and attractive.

Comment by Pamela Mason

October 24, 2007 @ 3:37 pm

loving attitude,easy to smile, even his cheerleader sometimes, all the things that our best friends bring. “It is said; be his friend first“, you’ll have plenty to talk about later in life..

Comment by Lori

October 24, 2007 @ 3:38 pm

I think the most attractive quality a girl has is how she makes a man feel. If she can make him feel good about himself, she’ll have guys flocking to her!

Comment by Carla Baker

October 24, 2007 @ 3:38 pm

Men want an EQUAL-someone who is as strong as them emotionally or even a little bit more.

Comment by Rosemary

October 24, 2007 @ 3:38 pm

Confidence,smile,good sense of humor.

Comment by Virginia

October 24, 2007 @ 3:39 pm

I think the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is trustworthiness.

Comment by Jan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:40 pm

I think a man enjoys being with a woman who shows genuine interest in him and his life and interests.

Comment by Jonnie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:42 pm

Authenticity.

A woman who is real and honest in presenting who she is and what her values are. With authenticity comes confidence in oneself and a kind of generosity of spirit which is open to another’s authentic self. With such a woman a man can relax and be himself.

Comment by ErinMarie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

Ummm….let’s be honest girls. Yes, men like a confident woman—-men do not like needy ones—-but ask any man you know, and if he is a true friend, he will tell you. The things they look for are an attractive FACE and an attractive BODY. If she is confident, intelligent, etc etc, so much the better, but I think biology may have the best of them.

Comment by Veronica

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

I am guessing here…I think men find sexy in women who are “AT-HOME” with themselves. Not too needy, not too clingy. It is a combination of self-confidence, independence and but with an openness towards others. It is a combination of head and heart.

Comment by Michelle

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

I think the answer is a number of things combined. I truly believe that a man who is looking for a long term partner wants to be with a woman who is intelligent, fun, successful, self-confident and feminine… she doesn’t give up being a woman to be “just one of the guys” to get his attention. She’s strong, yet still lets him know that he’s needed.. that he can be “the man”.

Comment by Iqa

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

The single most attractive quality? Yeah, it’s her flexibility to carry herself around. Either she is just a young girl or a single mother with kids, but the way she carry herself when mixing up with different people…is the best attraction ever. Managing herself by words or actions will make men to look at her and start wondering if he could have more chance to be with her.

Comment by ManKei

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

A healthy body, mind and spirit exhibit a true feminine you that attracts men. The brilliant sparks in your eye when you smile and the lively spring in the air when you walk is so sexy and attractive. The vibrant energy and aura that you possess attracts only good men you desserve like a magnet. It shows up on your outer-self of how you look and feel about yourself. Until you look and feel great, you inner-self of confidence and courage takes a second place.

Comment by Lily

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

I think all the above answers are right on, but since we’re talking one single thing I have to agree that it is self-confidence.

Comment by Susan Richardson

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is acceptance. Acceptance makes him feel that a woman will be understanding, supportive and kind. Acceptance makes a man feel good about himself because he does not have to be anything other than what he already is. And THAT is what it’s all about to a man. Feeling good about himself and his choice in a life partner.

Comment by Pamela Mason

October 24, 2007 @ 3:45 pm

loving attitude, easy to smile, his cheerleader sometimes, all the things that our best friends share. “It is said; be his friend first“, you’ll have plenty to talk about later in life..

Comment by Jessy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:46 pm

The most attractive quality a man looks for in a woman is hands down a self assured confident woman. He doesn’t want to constantly hear “do I look fat in this” and hear about your low self esteem. From my knowledge and experience it’s a big turn off and I use that everytime I run into a guy who I want to dicth. Works everytime ladies!!

Comment by amy d

October 24, 2007 @ 3:47 pm

men prefer women who are thin and can wear a bikini, who are flirty and make the first move. i say this because, i am a positive, happy, kind, genuine, funny person, with great hair, and a good personality, as well as real, boobs that are “big” and great legs. am told i come across as confident, easy to be around, and beautiful. i am 39, but am usually guessed to be late 20’s or early 30’s… and most people are floored that my oldest child is 16. yet, i have never been the one who men buy a drink from across the room for, or the one men are gaga for… it is and always has been one of my friends, who always happen to be petite, or skinny. no hard feelings, just stating the facts as i have witnessed.

Comment by Tracey

October 24, 2007 @ 3:48 pm

Confidence…to know that you love yourself makes him know and feel that you are worth loving.

Comment by mandy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:48 pm

A man finds a woman compelling as she displays not just confidence but a sense of herself. Grooming, listening, good conversation skills with a well developed point if view, a personal style, good posture, easy-going energy, no evidence of being a push over, many varied interests and lots of great relationships with others…in other words solid self-esteem.

Comment by Charlotte

October 24, 2007 @ 3:48 pm

Substance, stability and self esteem. A woman who values herself enough to take care of all aspects of her life but does not constantly focus only on herself. She is attractive because she does the best with what she has but her thoughts are not with how she is being perceived. She is genuinely interested in others and the world around her. People just feel good in her presence. Men are drawn to her because she is an attractive person inside and out.

Comment by Anna

October 24, 2007 @ 3:49 pm

Large breasts..? Just kidding, a lot of guys I’ve spoken to have pretty much ALL said the same thing regarding their ideal woman. They want someone who is down to earth and natural, and happy! (as opposed to high maintenance, bitchy and superficial).

Comment by Gabriela

October 24, 2007 @ 3:52 pm

I firmly believe the main quality a man is looking for in a woman is femineity. Why? First of all, because women in America (or New York at least) are not feminine. They drink like men, they talk like men and they approach men like men (to women). Therefore, a man does not feel manly with a woman who behaves like a man. He gets confused about the role he should take. Nowadays a feminine woman is a rare find.

Comment by Brenda

October 24, 2007 @ 3:53 pm

I know when we set our minds to do anything, we can do it! We are confident that we will succeed. With that being said, men love that type of confidence in women. Confident women have the cutting edge with men. Knowing what you want and having the confidence to project that you know and believe in yourself is a big turn on to men. The right kind of man doesn’t want a needly woman, he wants a women that knows she is the best that she can be! CONFIDENCE holds the key and unleashes every women to be the best that they can be!

Comment by Kylie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:56 pm

Self-confidence I think is by far the most attractive quality in a woman. If men know that their woman can stand on her on two feet when she has to and has confidence in her self image then she will be a far more attractive person to spend time with. Someone who is constantly requiring compliments and seeking feedback is hard work, men aren’t in to hard work…for obvious reasons.

The way you look helps but the way you hold yourself helps even more…

Comment by Melanie Seymore

October 24, 2007 @ 3:57 pm

I think the single most attractive quality that makes a woman attractive to a man is her ability to make him feel manly or masculine when he is with her. This should not be confused by having sex with him anytime he wants. Men are more attracted to women who “allow” them to open doors, pay for dinner or allow them to call us first.In other words, let them be the pursers and the hunters. When this occurs a woman becomes extradinarily attractive over anyone else.

Comment by Sheryl

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

Attitude…it can be spotted and responded to very quickly. There are attractive attitudes and not so attractive attidudes.

Comment by Cindy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

I believe men look for Women that are confident and comfortable with themselves. A woman that knows who she is and what she wants, it’s kind of like a constant chase for men because a Woman with self confidence has her own opinion, will not settle, has her own life, does not wait around for anybody, and lives her life with integrity. Men know she’ll always keep the relationship interesting, and they have to be good to her or she’ll move on without hesitation because she knows what she’s worth, and what she wants.

Comment by zahid

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

Her responsibility with confidence.

Comment by Melissa

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

I personally believe that no matter what your looking for in a relationship it will find you as long as you have Confidence. Put what you want out there; picture it in your mind and KNOW that it will come to YOU. In the meanwhile be yourself and have fun. Wherever you go, whatever you do take that Confidence with you…. Good News: ALL types of men will be drawn to you… Bad News: ALL types of men will be drawn to you…lol

Comment by eljay

October 24, 2007 @ 4:00 pm

being independent.. not lean on guy in all aspect.. that makes a single lady most attractive.

Comment by Kimberly Clemons

October 24, 2007 @ 4:03 pm

I wish we all knew the “magic formula” to this, but even if we did, we couldn’t “act” these two qualities out unless we have cultivated them within ourselves.
I think that a man who is ready and searching for a meaningful, lasting relationship is looking for two basics, wether they realize it or not. Number one, from my experience, is *confidence. Men like to know that a woman knows who she is and likes herself. Having confidence and liking ourselves also means that we are dependable and honest, otherwise how could we TRULY like ourselves? A man wants to know that a woman knows how to take care of herself in every way, one way or another. A healthy, available man doesn’t want to feel that a woman and her happiness is soley dependant upon him, his actions or his abilities, etc. They don’t want to feel that a woman would crumble if they’re not completely, 100% on thier best game. They want to know that a woman can be strong for them, when the need arises.
At the same time, #2, a man DOES want to feel that he is needed. This is the balancing act! Too much confidence or false confidence can translate into cockiness or arrogance and will build an emotional “wall” between a woman and her man.
Too much independance in a woman will inevitably leave her man feeling that he is disposable an/or replaceable. Although gender roles are changing, men still naturally need to feel that they are needed and thus appreciated.
So, my answer:
1. confidence
2. humility/appreciation ( if I were to give the 2nd a “name”) WOW!!! I think that is what we are looking for too!

Comment by Karen

October 24, 2007 @ 4:04 pm

I believe it is self-confidence that attracts men, and I think that it helps to keep them around, as well. If a woman is self-confident, she knows who she is. She relies on herself. She has faith in herself and has spirit. Men really like that.

I have noticed that men who are hunters of game, react very similar to a confident woman. Hunters who have an easy kill don’t talk quite as enthusiastically as the one they had to work for, really work for. Men like the challenge, you know. So, first the confident woman will attract them, and then she will keep them interested.

Karen

Comment by cherry

October 24, 2007 @ 4:04 pm

Her femininity and spirituality.

Comment by Fatima Le Breton

October 24, 2007 @ 4:05 pm

A positive attitude towards life and herself

Comment by Karen

October 24, 2007 @ 4:06 pm

I believe the quality most attractive to men is confidence followed closely by a warm smile.

Comment by Gilly

October 24, 2007 @ 4:07 pm

I think that it’s definitely women who are both outgoing and confident. I remember some of my not so glamorous classmates (not endowed with either a great figure or looks), but who were both confident and outgoing, who would strike up meaningful friendships with guys hands down over the really gorgeous ones. So I thinking that knowing who you are, what you want and just going after it are very sexy and powerful tools in the hands of any woman.

Comment by Rachel

October 24, 2007 @ 4:14 pm

Well like most of the other women who have posted here I was going to say confidence, but now I’m not so sure. That answer would be right for a woman to give to the question, but you asked what MEN look for, a big difference there. So I am going to say the initial attraction for any man is the waist-hip ratio of a woman. If she has what he perceives as the right ratio (obtained from a mere glance) then he will be attracted instantly before he is even aware of it. Then he will ‘assess’ other qualities such as smile confidence eyes etc. You have to attract his subconscious before anything else.

Comment by Debbie J

October 24, 2007 @ 4:14 pm

My very best eligible bachelor friend gave me the idea that the quality in question is a sharp mind, a.k.a. intelligence. With this mind, a woman is able to do things for herself, yet she can also decide to invite a friend to help her, even if just for the company. She has the ability to gain knowledge in any arena, allowing her to exude the self-confidence that many are mentioning. She can learn anything she chooses to! Doing that which she loves best will make her heart happy, and that happiness will shine through under any circumstance.

Comment by Anita

October 24, 2007 @ 4:16 pm

I believe that the number one thing a
man is looking for in a woman is self confidence.

Comment by Jane Smith

October 24, 2007 @ 4:17 pm

Confidence in self,emotional stability,personality,looks, the way she carries herself,smile,humor,character, (not jumping into bed with the first man that pays attention to her),honesty,loves herself enough to not let anyone use her,control her, or take advantage of her.

Comment by elaine

October 24, 2007 @ 4:18 pm

Confidence is what a man is most attracted to because needy women scare men….as well women who put it all out there dont foster a mans natural need to pursue and conquer a woman. Confident women provide men with the challenge they crave and require to feel like men.

Comment by Paula

October 24, 2007 @ 4:19 pm

I’ve read a lot of relationship-related material over time from different authors. They always seem to stress that the most attractive quality a woman can possess is to have a well-formed life and interests outside of a relationship. She should also have a good circle of friends-this acts as an endorsement of her character to a man and gives her others to spend time with when her man isn’t available. She should be able to consider her relationship a part of her life, not all of it.

Comment by Diane

October 24, 2007 @ 4:21 pm

I think a woman who has her act together. She is her own person. Not dependent on a man to feel all of her needs

Comment by Elizabeth

October 24, 2007 @ 4:22 pm

Her femininity will bring out a man in him.

Comment by Lee

October 24, 2007 @ 4:25 pm

I think men like confidence, comfort in one’s own skin, direct eye contact, a nice smile, and intelligence..and true genuineness.

Comment by Peony

October 24, 2007 @ 4:26 pm

In my opinion, the single most attractive quality in a woman that attract a man is a Positve and Cheerful Attitude !

Comment by jee

October 24, 2007 @ 4:29 pm

the single most attractive quality that attracts a man is if she’s able to make him feel just as attractive.

Comment by Linda Mu dr y

October 24, 2007 @ 4:33 pm

A positive attitude which includes happiness and confidence.

Comment by Maryanne Laird

October 24, 2007 @ 4:35 pm

I feel the most attractive quality men find in a woman is the woman’s ability to honestly make a man feel good about himself. And I do mean honestly–mentioning things he does that we appreciate, being interested in the things about himself that he shares. Why?-we all really appreciate someone who makes us feel like the things we share about ourselves are listened to and appreciated, feel supported in our endeavors, and feel good about ourselves.

Comment by Penny

October 24, 2007 @ 4:35 pm

A woman who is carefree…you know easy-breezy. Men love that. Takes the pressure off.

Comment by sug

October 24, 2007 @ 4:36 pm

honesty and self-confidence

Comment by Nina

October 24, 2007 @ 4:37 pm

The single most attractive quality that men
look for in a woman is happiness!!! Or that peaceful atittude and beautiful smile that a woman has when is in touch with her deepest feelings, in peace with herself.

Comment by Raelene

October 24, 2007 @ 4:41 pm

I think a woman who is knowledgable, confident, feminine and possess good behavior is attractive. A man doesn’t want a girl who purposely act dumb to make herself look cute. Who on the earth would want to be with a dumb, low self esteem, clumsy and worst behavior lady? Another important thing is, she must be understanding and caring towards her man.

Comment by Nhadz

October 24, 2007 @ 4:43 pm

I believe that great confidence of a woman is what really attracts a man. being able to carry herself well plus an exuding personality, grace, and beauty can definitely catch a man’s attention. coming from the inside out she can standout, brought about by the sense of knowing oneself and being able to improve more and more will put up admiration towards the one possesing it…and actually tis not just men who are attracted by it women do envy it as well.

Comment by Patti

October 24, 2007 @ 4:44 pm

I think men are looking for a confident, independent outgoing woman. Who’s looking for someone to share their life with. Not to complete them or be with them because they don’t want to be alone.

Comment by Debby

October 24, 2007 @ 4:46 pm

Of course, confidence. But I think it’s a woman who is fun and can laugh at herself!!

Comment by Sandra

October 24, 2007 @ 4:48 pm

The ability through her own self-confidence to make a man feel good about himself and want to be with her.

Comment by Kate

October 24, 2007 @ 4:52 pm

A genuine smile, someone whose face lights up when they smile, and pleasant demeanour

Comment by Nicola

October 24, 2007 @ 4:55 pm

The Smile.

Above and beyond all else a genuine smile. It lights up your face and shows your true beauty, in and out. This does NOT mean grinning like the Mad Hatter all the time, they will think you are bonkers if you do. Just be yourself, relax andsmile more.

Comment by Dodes

October 24, 2007 @ 5:02 pm

Personality and sense of humor…it’s the way a woman carry herself; anywhere, anytime!

Comment by Rose

October 24, 2007 @ 5:05 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is that she genuinely likes men. She may not be the most confident, smart or most beautiful woman in the room but if she likes and respects men they will sense it. Women who don’t like men often appear closed and guarded. Pull down those walls and the men will come!

Comment by Thorp

October 24, 2007 @ 5:05 pm

Men look for a lady that lights up the room with her smile,has the love of life,the ability to laugh,has a sense of humor,can listen with her eyes,her heart and make you believe that she really cares. She must have that unmistable aire of confidence without being a snob.Is a lady that you can’t wait to see again and again. She has that one thing that you just can’t put your finger on,but you know that you want to find out what it is.

Comment by BJ

October 24, 2007 @ 5:06 pm

Being Cool
Knowing how to appreciate men, who they how hard they work, acceptance that their man has free time and security for their man to drop their persona to frolick and just be to enjoy what each day has to offer

Comment by Arline

October 24, 2007 @ 5:06 pm

A man must delieve that you think he is very special and a turn on. THAT turns him on.

Comment by jenifer spase

October 24, 2007 @ 5:09 pm

Positive attitude win men everytime Men watch a woman’s ability to act and conduct herself maturely and professionally with a possitive attitude.Men look for possitive attitude specifically and more closely than anything else!!!!!!Her honestly and assertiveness comes next.

Comment by Leicia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:10 pm

I’m saying a womans eyes because that is the window to your soul. The next best thing would be a down-t0-earth attitude

Comment by Rachel

October 24, 2007 @ 5:10 pm

Independence - because women that can stand on their own are all that much more sexy and attractive. Knowing that you won’t become a clingy, non-opinionated, tag-along is very reassuring!

Comment by Stella

October 24, 2007 @ 5:11 pm

Single most number one quality i believe is self confidence and the reason being is the more confident we are the better they will feel around us and is that not why they stay or leave..usually for the most part.is how we make them feel when they are with us?! S

Comment by Patricia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:15 pm

i think men look for warmth. they want someone who will treat them well. they want someone they will love to come home to and be with. that’s why i think warmth is the quality they want.

Comment by Pinky

October 24, 2007 @ 5:17 pm

Her 3′Cs - confidence,character,charm. Without it, everything falls apart. A confident woman can carry herself,speaks her mind, assert herself in any conversation. Every woman can have her own special way of being sexy.

Comment by cynthia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:17 pm

a womans eyes and smile and being honest and show respect

Comment by Linah

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

i think they look for someone has has he act together someone who is responsible and knows how to manage her emotions regardless of waht she feels when with a man.

Comment by Allie

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

I believe that men find confidence the most attractive quality. A woman that believes in herself gives off a special vibe that just attracts men.It doesnt say rescue me, I’m needy, or fix me.By valuing herself, she is capable of giving freely of her love and talents ..a woman who does not live in fear or take her self worth from someone else but rather from inside herself

Comment by lisa mcafee

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

A woman’s smile is what attracts men the most. A woman who smiles is seen as happy and confident. A woman who smiles is seen as prettier, even if she isn’t that pretty.

Comment by myword

October 24, 2007 @ 5:23 pm

I believe most of these comments hit the nail right on the head. Men do want women who are confident, which does put less pressure on them to make her feel whole. Also, if she is confident she is definitely comfortable with who she is and feels sexy and good about herself regardless of what his impression of her is. I think men love this. It’s definitely sexy!

Comment by edner

October 24, 2007 @ 5:27 pm

i think its self confidence as more as self-discipline and good characters.Also the real truly love and a principled with boundaries woman, a woman who is responsible and reasonable and sure about what she real do and think about.

Comment by Asavari

October 24, 2007 @ 5:27 pm

I think it is a womans love and caring nature. She should me able to pamper the man like a mother and love him like a girlfriend she should be sexy and ravishing

Comment by deb Benshoof

October 24, 2007 @ 5:30 pm

A man looks for honesty in a women, he wants a women he can trust, whether hes trustworthy or not.

Comment by kay

October 24, 2007 @ 5:33 pm

umm… i think its the trust u place on him n e fact dat u accept him 4 who he is!! because it isnt usually easy 2 accept men 4 who they’re.. n findin a women who does isnt easy as well!!

oh well.. its a tricky question!! bottom line is.. i have no idea!!

Comment by Flora Laflo

October 24, 2007 @ 5:33 pm

The single most attractive quality in a women is the inner beauty and assurance that comes from self confidence. Men love independent women - men are competitive by nature and love a challenge.

Comment by Teri

October 24, 2007 @ 5:34 pm

Men are looking for someone they can communicate with, on every level. They want a well-rounded woman that is not full of herself. Because when the looks go down the drain, all that’s left is conversation…and things you like to do together…and if you don’t have that, the rest is all crap… You must have the basics. (Although you have to have some type of attraction in the beginning..) It’s an animal thing. Please send me the book!!! Love you site!!

Comment by Glenda

October 24, 2007 @ 5:34 pm

Self Confidence - Without a doubt.

in my opinion, a women who is self assured stands out more and draws so much more attention than your beauty queen with no or less self confidence. Men want to be with a woman who knows where she is at and where she is going.

Comment by Alex

October 24, 2007 @ 5:35 pm

Feminity ? …

A confident woman is a powerful woman and that excites them, stir them up, provoke them !

And a woman who is the combination of sassy, smart, selective, kind , intelligent, is simply irresistible !

Comment by Elvira

October 24, 2007 @ 5:35 pm

COMMENTS BY BELLE

Men loved women who are honest and trustworthy..Being one, it is more than the outward looks of a woman. They simply idolize women who can understand them, cared for them, loving them and can satisfy them in their wants.She in turn could be a friend, a mother ,and a lover..but the most important of all is to be honest..when she said she loves him and have committed with him …then show all the reality, the love, the care , the understanding, the inner and outward beauty being a woman..let God be the center of your life and bingo!! there will be peace, love and harmony throughout……

Comment by Ramak

October 24, 2007 @ 5:35 pm

TO BE HAPPY ALWAYS . This is the most important quality that can attract and keep your right man .

Comment by Debbie

October 24, 2007 @ 5:36 pm

A man looks for honesty in a women, he wants a women he can trust, someone that is not needy of him, that will allow him space to spend time with his friends and family, and this makes her more attractive to him.

Comment by comment by debbie

October 24, 2007 @ 5:38 pm

A man looks for honesty in a women, he wants a women he can trust, someone that is not needy of him, that will allow him space to spend time with his friends and family, and this makes him more attracted to her.

Comment by Amy

October 24, 2007 @ 5:39 pm

I see a lot of comments on Confidence. Important for every mentally stable partner we are as humans fairly attracted to this trait. However, something not all of these overly confident people may have is SELF WORTH, a different subject from self confidence. Something that I do not think you can be taught or schooled in, you have to attiain it through trails of life, self worth is what you make of yourself and your drive to maintain it at all costs and it drives your confidence in this world. Can you maintain your self confidence in 3rd world villages digging wells for starving disease infested towns, knowing that their education will never be enough to get this generation well enough in the next decade, maybe not, but your self worth is what makes you seek higher powers that helped you in your quest to develop your own self worth and knowing those people can help you make a difference because it speaks to their own self worth to make it happen. Self Worth, something I am more interested in attaining, cultivating and sheltering for life. Self Confidence tells others that you are not hesitant to get what you want out of life, Self Worth tells others you care more about what you get for others out of life simply for the benefit of having been the highest power of yourself possible. This is an absolute magnet to all sexes. Passionate, driven, resolved, humanitarian, humility, intellectually advanced. Maybe not your correct answer but it is one I have hit on through years of study of the human connection and why we follow leaders. They, after all, are the epitomy of attraction for a wide base of viewing public, what makes them so….with all their faults and quirks.

Comment by moda

October 24, 2007 @ 5:42 pm

I think that the most attractive thing and sexy about a woman is being CONFIDENT!!If a woman is confident and comfortable in her own skin, she can move mountains………………

Comment by Heidi Smith

October 24, 2007 @ 5:43 pm

What a man looks for in a woman is warmth. When he feels her warmth and trust, he will want to be the best man he can be. He is looking for authenticity, hers and also his. It is how he FEELS when he’s with this woman that will make him feel that he wants to stay.

Comment by Eva

October 24, 2007 @ 5:44 pm

NATURAL SEXINESS!!!!
Men enjoy looking at women who display a positive and natural sexy character, without a doubt…

I know from experience…smile

Comment by Sylvia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:48 pm

Men want a woman who makes them feel good about themselves, the relationship, and life in general.. they will remember that feeling, miss her when she’s not around, and want to be with her always.

Comment by Wai

October 24, 2007 @ 5:52 pm

Dear Amy,

a meaningful relationship is just like flying a kite - you should know when to pull and when to let go the kite at appropriate time.

i have been having this single problem of getting any man to leave me alone. most men like straight, clever conversation and therefore my principle of “i want what i want when i want” works perfectly to me..

Comment by AMANDA

October 24, 2007 @ 5:52 pm

Self assurance … but since that one’s quite obvious as everyone has mentioned it, I’ll say femininity. Poise and grace are incredidibly overlooked by women these days as being desirable to a man.

Comment by Candice

October 24, 2007 @ 5:52 pm

Men are looking for confident and positive women with a bit of independance. If a woman loves herself its easy for her to love others and men sense that.

Comment by keri

October 24, 2007 @ 5:53 pm

The best quality a woman could have is just liking herself. If you like yourself and treat the man in your life the way you would treat yourself, with respect, a good man will see that.

Comment by Aileen

October 24, 2007 @ 5:54 pm

Being responsible. If a woman is responsible, everything follows. She thinks of her responsibility as a woman, as girlfriend, a mother, a sister and so on. As a woman, she has the responsibility to make herself attractive (proper hygiene, best body, good exercise, good brain). As a girlfriend, she has the responsibility to make her boyfriend happy, contented, proud…. (means she should be physically attractive, emotionally stable, faithful). As a mother, she has the responsibility to feed her children, clothe them, provide them shelter….. So the bottomline is…..if the woman is responsible, it follows that she is desirable, attractive and admirable for having portrayed the responsibilities expected of her.

Comment by Beejay

October 24, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

A man needs a woman who can be herself around him; a woman who is comfortable with who she is - in other words a fulfilled and CONFIDENT woman. Because she is comfortable with who she is, she does not need to pretend or to change herself for him. Men also like women who make it easy for them to be themselves - it is only when men can feel free to be themselves are they able to strive to improve because the basics are already accepted by their woman!

Comment by Anna

October 24, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

Someone who is happy and balanced. Someone who has their own ideas and opinions, without needing to change or agree with everything the man says. Someone who is mature and doesn’t play mind games.

Comment by Lise

October 24, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

The most attractive quality in a woman is her self confidence.She is happy within herself and knows who she is. She knows what she wants and how to go about getting it. She has a mind of her own and works toward her goals. She is comfortable with herself and is not afraid to let others know who she is. This makes her fun to be around and makes people feel at ease. Men do not feel like they have to “fix” her in any way.

Comment by Susan

October 24, 2007 @ 6:05 pm

I believe the quality that men find most attractive is honesty:fair and straightforward in your conduct and being upright of character and action.

Comment by anita

October 24, 2007 @ 6:05 pm

Definitely confidence, this air of confidence as she walks by shows him she likes herself, and is pleased with who she is. Not only men but everyone notices a person who carries themselves with this air of positive affirmations about themselves. It’s an immediate turn on,sexually and otherwise, and you don’t have to be 24-36-24, blonde or beautiful. Self assertiveness is always noticed.

Comment by Tatevik Gharibyan

October 24, 2007 @ 6:05 pm

I think that men appreciate femininity in a woman.

Comment by Lonni Ferguson

October 24, 2007 @ 6:06 pm

A smiling face!

Comment by Ruslana

October 24, 2007 @ 6:12 pm

Men want a woman that is not embarrased about who she is and shows her true self not tries to show of somebody else. Confidence is very important but also to show your true self.

Comment by Sawarn Kaur

October 24, 2007 @ 6:12 pm

Men always look for beauty at the first glance but at the end it is their feminity or “womaness” in a woman that they will feel atracted to. This allows them the macho feeling of being the stronger one. Deep dowm all men want to be pampered and feel strong and “be the man of the house”.

Comment by MARGARET

October 24, 2007 @ 6:17 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in women is top notch confidence and self awareness plus a very high degree of selectivity. Just show a man you know what you want out of life and you are charting your way there and he is hooked for life.

Comment by nancy

October 24, 2007 @ 6:18 pm

think the most attractive thing to a man in a woman is her self confidence and poise along with her wit

Comment by Jessica

October 24, 2007 @ 6:24 pm

I think the first thing that men find attractive in a woman is the sense that she is open to being approached. Sure she can have a nice smile and appear confident, but if she isn’t in a good place emotionally, they can pick up on it.

Comment by Jane

October 24, 2007 @ 6:26 pm

Having read from different and matured writers like you, Amy, and several others, and by true life experiences of others, I have come to understand that matured and responsible men look out for women with good personlities. Women that can love and respect and make them feel great.

Comment by mina

October 24, 2007 @ 6:28 pm

kindness

Comment by Arlene

October 24, 2007 @ 6:32 pm

A smiling face that shows a positive attitude.

Comment by Sofia

October 24, 2007 @ 6:32 pm

It is a misconception that men look for beautiful women, beauty gets you noticed but cannot keep a man interested