Comment by Jodi

October 24, 2007 @ 2:47 pm

From my experience with men, guys look less for the dumb bimbos and more for women they consider to be their equal.

A woman that knows who she is and believes in herself is far more sexy than someone who thinks they have to be something different for a man.

Smart, intelligent women every time, it works for me!

Comment by Greg Slade

October 24, 2007 @ 2:48 pm

I believe a womans smile is the best quality, especially she has smiling eyes.

Comment by Stella T

October 24, 2007 @ 2:53 pm

I used to think a push-up bra and a good set of heels got them, but men are starting to look past that. It really depends if they are just looking for a hook-up or a relationship. If men are looking for a relationship, they want someone they can introduce to their friends and family, and someone that can hold a conversation. Personality and some brains first, I say! Looks come a close second though!

Comment by mia

October 24, 2007 @ 2:55 pm

Confidence – I think men find confidence sexy because if a woman is already a full complete person, they do not feel as if they have to fill her up. It’s less work for them and men do not like to put the work into a relationship, so a good woman, who is smart, independent and knows who she is can be an asset.

Comment by Sherelle

October 24, 2007 @ 2:56 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality a woman can have is self confidence.

Comment by Annette

October 24, 2007 @ 2:56 pm

Confidence — men don’t want a clingy pushover. They want a woman that respects herself. They also want a woman that takes care of herself mentally, physically and financially — not some lazy slob.

Comment by Nic

October 24, 2007 @ 2:57 pm

I think CONGFIDENCE. They love it they thrive on it.

Comment by freda

October 24, 2007 @ 2:57 pm

I think its mostly that innate confidence that goes along with brains and a great personality.

Comment by Kris G

October 24, 2007 @ 2:57 pm

Men look for women with confidence, because if a woman feels good about herself, he will too. Men are all about the “hunt”, and a woman with confidence is more of a challenge than an insecure and needy woman.

Comment by Linda S.

October 24, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

If a man is looking for a serious relationship one of the best qualities is that the woman has the same goal or values they do in order to make a commitment. I do think that for a serious relationship looks come second. Personality comes first in these cases.

Comment by Lynne McAuley

October 24, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

A man looks for a smile and eye contact that’s real. He likes to know that she’s happy when she’s around him.

Comment by Keshnee

October 24, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

the most attractive quality in a women is their self confidence in themselves and relects the way they value themselves and view the world and people they meet along the way!

Comment by Gwen

October 24, 2007 @ 2:59 pm

I think a man is looking for a happy woman. One that knows how to be happy with herself with or without a man, therefore, taking the burden or feeling of responsibility to make her happy off of the man. Then he feels free to give love and just enjoy being with her.

Comment by Joan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

Men definitely look for self-confidence: a woman who knows who she is, where she’s been and how she’ll use her experience, intuition and wit to get where she wants to go.

Comment by Charisse

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is confidence. When a woman exudes confidence, she does not NEED a man. She is sure of herself and will not settle for a boy, she requires a MAN. This creates a challenge for men worthy of her attention. The chase makes a man want her even more and there is no time for drama with a woman with confidence! =)

Comment by margaret

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

A woman who know what she want in a relationship and is able to voice it out. It is important and the man will feel he is dating a mature person who is not going to waste his time.

Comment by Marygrace

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

Confidence is the best thing woman can have to offer. You can be a brain surgeon or a supermodel, but if you have no confidence, none of that matters.

It says you have your own life, don’t need him, are fine independent of him, and are not some sappy, needy girl. You will be with him bc you want to, and bc he treats you well.

Confidence says you run the show, your show and if he doesn’t comply and is a jack -ass, you are out of there.

Comment by Cynthia

October 24, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

Being emotionally stable. If one is calm, collected and positive, it shows that she is in control and confident of herself.

Comment by Eve

October 24, 2007 @ 3:01 pm

I believe most men are attracted to a woman who is self assured or has self confidence. If a woman appears to be needy or whiney it will scare a man away… they just won’t go there. Women with confidence appeal to men because there is less drama and a man can expect that she knows what she wants and is willing to tell him how to please her.

Comment by Cyn

October 24, 2007 @ 3:01 pm

Confidence without a doubt.

Confidence

Confidence

Confidence

Great smile, great eyes, sense of humor, great figure or any part of that figure is a big zero – it might get you a second look, but it won’t mean a thing without confidence.

Comment by Edna

October 24, 2007 @ 3:01 pm

I believe even if men don’t admit it, they’re looking for self-assuredness in women. Because deep down inside, I don’t believe they want to be needed (as in the clinging way)…but they want to be wanted. If they believe they are wanted, by a woman who doesn’t need him to feel good about herself, then they have succeeded in finding what could very well be "the One."

Comment by Pat

October 24, 2007 @ 3:02 pm

Confidence with a capital “C.” Anyone who lacks self confidence is unattractive – to either sex.

Comment by Judy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:02 pm

This is a TRICK QUESTION, isn’t it???!!!
As well as one of the Seven Wonders of the World?
Looking forward to reading the best answer!
Good Luck, Girls!
Judy

Comment by Susan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:02 pm

I believe that men are seeking women who genuinely like men and value what men bring to and offer in a relationship.

Comment by Gwen J.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

Confidence – This is definitely the most attractive quality in a woman. A confident woman is also secure, strong and intelligent. Once he is attracted, he finds out she is even more beautiful, witty and funny.

Comment by Judy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

Confidence and the way a woman carries herself. Smart and independence.

Comment by Paula Winchel

October 24, 2007 @ 3:03 pm

Men notice confidence in a woman first – there is nothing sexier than someone who feels attractive, smart and is a bit sassy!

Comment by Sandra V

October 24, 2007 @ 3:06 pm

Self-Confidence. Not arrogance or a “no, I can do it myself” attitude, but rather, a sense of knowing your own worth as a wonderful woman and the worth of the life you’ve created for yourself. This is what will catch a man’s attention and keep it, because a woman who knows her own worth has a great life because she’s made it that way, she has great friendships and relationships with her family because she’s worked on them, she’s cultivated her intelligence and her interests and brought some culture into her world, her life is one of fullness and joy, not neediness and despair. How attractive is that!?

Comment by sigi weiss

October 24, 2007 @ 3:06 pm

I think a man will find a woman who loves herself and is comfortable in her own skin – regardless of her dress size or if she fits the beauty standards of our society – to be very sexy, magnetic and irresistable!!

Comment by kim

October 24, 2007 @ 3:06 pm

Beauty with brain !

Comment by Rhonda DeFrieze

October 24, 2007 @ 3:07 pm

Men are looking for a lady on the streets and a freak in the bedroom…Sounds like a song doesn’t it?

Comment by Dawn

October 24, 2007 @ 3:07 pm

I think men are most attracted to a positive attitude.

Comment by Pamela

October 24, 2007 @ 3:07 pm

I believe the single most important quality men look for in a woman is confidence.

Comment by Tea

October 24, 2007 @ 3:08 pm

The attractive trait is being able to carry herself confidently, gracefully and femininely.

Comment by Charlotte

October 24, 2007 @ 3:08 pm

Self Confidence in who she is! Makes everyone in a crowded room wonder who she is! Her eyes sparkle from the comfort of her soul! If your spirit is happy, everyone else can see it through the eyes! After all the eyes are the dooway to the soul!

Comment by Connie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:08 pm

I believe it’s self confidence. It gives you the guts to be who you are and have your own life no matter what anyone else is doing or saying(or not doing or saying).

Comment by Jeannine

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Men like to feel comfortable with a woman right off and want some interesting conversation.

Comment by Diana

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Self Confidence for sure. If a woman is confident she comes across as genuine, happy and is easy to hang out with.

Comment by Paul Chaves C.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

Tons of Smiles, sense of humour, Confidence, dress well, are critical things.

Comment by Heather

October 24, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

I think its playfulness.

Having an easygoing nature, being able to laugh and play which makes him feel more comfortable.

Comment by karen knutzen

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

i think it’s a woman’s smile you can tell a lot by a person’s smile if it’s real or fake also honesty trust and being faithful and if you have that you have love and if you don’t have love in your life you have nothing

Comment by Joy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

A woman with a good head on her shoulders. Someone he can relate to

Comment by Constance

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

Confidence. A man hates to play the guessing game of “what a woman wants” and a confident woman tells him with certainty what she wants. He feels secure that he’s pleased her and she gets what she needs. It’s a win win situation.

Comment by Leslie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:10 pm

Of all the dating advice I’ve read, it seems to me that the SINGLE most attactive quality men look for in a woman is her smile. It lets him know that you’re secure, accessible AND happy. Men like women who are happy. It makes them happy. Smiles are contageous. How can you not smile at someone who’s smiling at you? A woman can have great hair, a beautiful outfit, and well manicured hands and feet, but it’s all wasted on a grumpy-looking woman.

Comment by Jen

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Sanity/emotional stability. As is a woman who won’t freak out and have a mental meltdown at the first disappointments and won’t act as if they’re engaged after a couple of dates.

Comment by Gianna

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Happiness! It says confidence, warmth, success, and that she enjoys being with him. The feelings she makes him feel will be what attracts him. That’s what I think!

Comment by Delores Wolkowicz

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in a women is her happy smile. The smile shows that she is a happy person,and that would make the man feel comfortable to approach her to start conversing. If she is smiling with her friends then she would smile with him. A good disposition, a fun person.but basicly a happy smile

Comment by Sahlee

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Someone who has her own life and living to the fullest. Makes the best of what she has. Someone who is happy with or without a man in her life.

Comment by Susie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:14 pm

Her self confidence!

Comment by Barbara

October 24, 2007 @ 3:14 pm

I believe the single most quality that attracts a man is similarity. Like attracts like.

Comment by Niza

October 24, 2007 @ 3:15 pm

Men looking for a real relationship finds a woman who can be at ease with herself to be her most attractive quality. That means a woman who can genuinely smile, laugh and be ‘in-the-present’. Men love to have a good time and to feel good about themselves. Only a woman who is at ease can bring about these good feelings in a man.

Comment by elizabeth

October 24, 2007 @ 3:16 pm

First of all it is not a hot body, great boobs, a successful career or how sexy you dress. Those things are like accessories that are enhancements but not the main attracting quality. An actress once said that the best “make-up” you can wear to make you instantly look attractive is a CONFIDENT ATTITUDE AND A SMILE and I agree. It evokes the feeling of poise, self-assurance, acceptance, warmth, love and kindness. A smile makes everyone more attractive. It doesn’t cost anything and works like magic.

Comment by Roe Diddy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

I think that the quality men are most attracted to in a woman is confidence. If you love yourself he will want to know just what it is to love and will want to find out more, more, more!

Comment by Pam

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

I believe the biggest thing a “good” man will look for his confidence. If she believes in herself and feels good in her own skin, she is irresitible. Having a love for oneself also helps a love grow stronger.

Comment by Jessica

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

I believe that when a woman has SELF CONFIDENCE then along with that comes independance and self worth. This woman holds her happiness in her own hands. So it is SELF CONFIDENCE that is number one on my list.

Comment by Lynn

October 24, 2007 @ 3:22 pm

I believe a positive and caring attitude is the most important thing. By positive attitude, I mean having a sense of humor, the ability to laugh at oneself, and good self image. The caring part means being empathetic and a good listener, not a caretaker or mother replacement.

Comment by MARYinTN

October 24, 2007 @ 3:22 pm

A woman with CONFIDENCE!!!!

Comment by MO

October 24, 2007 @ 3:23 pm

I believe it is confidence.

Comment by Daryl

October 24, 2007 @ 3:24 pm

A woman’s confidence and independence, i think is the answer.

Comment by Andrea

October 24, 2007 @ 3:24 pm

I believe that the single most attractive quality that a man looks for in a woman is acceptance, he wants the woman to be non-judgmental about him.

Comment by jill eisenberg

October 24, 2007 @ 3:25 pm

confidence

Comment by Sue

October 24, 2007 @ 3:26 pm

Admiration – because it makes them feel important.

Comment by Melinda

October 24, 2007 @ 3:27 pm

Men are attracted to women who are confident. They have a positive attitude and have confidence and don’t need a man to make them happy!

Comment by Lisa Ellen

October 24, 2007 @ 3:28 pm

I would have to by far say it’s a woman’s positive attitude in life that attracts most men.
Example: A women who is thouroughly enjoying herself at any event is more apt to draw postive attention from men vs one who is just sitting there looking bored, not speaking to anyone & not living for the moment.
I have been told that my most attractive quality is the above many times by men & that in itself made me the most attractive women in the room over women far better looking than myself.

Comment by Mary

October 24, 2007 @ 3:28 pm

I think men want a woman who is confident in herself. If she doesn’t have a good self-image, he will mirror that attitude toward her.

Comment by brooke

October 24, 2007 @ 3:28 pm

CONFIDENCE, because its sexy! Simple as that.

Comment by Martha

October 24, 2007 @ 3:29 pm

I think men go for flaky women.

Comment by Tabitha

October 24, 2007 @ 3:30 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is a woman who is confident and knows what she wants out of life and has a unique personality about herself it may be the way she carries herself, her smile, eyes, she really listen, holds a conversation, how she acts around others and sense of humor

Comment by Roby

October 24, 2007 @ 3:32 pm

confidence, not the I’m all stuck on myself kind. Just plain and simple confidence, nothing attached to it.

Comment by Karen Lusk

October 24, 2007 @ 3:34 pm

Single quality is her sense of humor.

Comment by Meghan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:34 pm

Every man wants a woman who brightens his day! The ideal woman is one who brings him up, not puts him down. She’s stable and secure, and always respects and loves herself. She is someone that he always has fun with, just like he would with any other friend. Men vary in their preferences for hair color, height, and weight, but there are certain traits which run across the board: confidence, stability, and happiness. You don’t have to look like Giselle Bundchen to be a fun-loving, down-to-earth friend and lover. You just need to love yourself!

Comment by Joanie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:35 pm

It’s the inner joy/happiness radiating outward. That she is in love with life, herself, capable of being open and loving with other people. People who are in love are beautiful and attractive.

Comment by Pamela Mason

October 24, 2007 @ 3:37 pm

loving attitude,easy to smile, even his cheerleader sometimes, all the things that our best friends bring. “It is said; be his friend first“, you’ll have plenty to talk about later in life..

Comment by Lori

October 24, 2007 @ 3:38 pm

I think the most attractive quality a girl has is how she makes a man feel. If she can make him feel good about himself, she’ll have guys flocking to her!

Comment by Carla Baker

October 24, 2007 @ 3:38 pm

Men want an EQUAL-someone who is as strong as them emotionally or even a little bit more.

Comment by Rosemary

October 24, 2007 @ 3:38 pm

Confidence,smile,good sense of humor.

Comment by Virginia

October 24, 2007 @ 3:39 pm

I think the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is trustworthiness.

Comment by Jan

October 24, 2007 @ 3:40 pm

I think a man enjoys being with a woman who shows genuine interest in him and his life and interests.

Comment by Jonnie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:42 pm

Authenticity.

A woman who is real and honest in presenting who she is and what her values are. With authenticity comes confidence in oneself and a kind of generosity of spirit which is open to another’s authentic self. With such a woman a man can relax and be himself.

Comment by ErinMarie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

Ummm….let’s be honest girls. Yes, men like a confident woman—-men do not like needy ones—-but ask any man you know, and if he is a true friend, he will tell you. The things they look for are an attractive FACE and an attractive BODY. If she is confident, intelligent, etc etc, so much the better, but I think biology may have the best of them.

Comment by Veronica

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

I am guessing here…I think men find sexy in women who are “AT-HOME” with themselves. Not too needy, not too clingy. It is a combination of self-confidence, independence and but with an openness towards others. It is a combination of head and heart.

Comment by Michelle

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

I think the answer is a number of things combined. I truly believe that a man who is looking for a long term partner wants to be with a woman who is intelligent, fun, successful, self-confident and feminine… she doesn’t give up being a woman to be “just one of the guys” to get his attention. She’s strong, yet still lets him know that he’s needed.. that he can be “the man”.

Comment by Iqa

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

The single most attractive quality? Yeah, it’s her flexibility to carry herself around. Either she is just a young girl or a single mother with kids, but the way she carry herself when mixing up with different people…is the best attraction ever. Managing herself by words or actions will make men to look at her and start wondering if he could have more chance to be with her.

Comment by ManKei

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

A healthy body, mind and spirit exhibit a true feminine you that attracts men. The brilliant sparks in your eye when you smile and the lively spring in the air when you walk is so sexy and attractive. The vibrant energy and aura that you possess attracts only good men you desserve like a magnet. It shows up on your outer-self of how you look and feel about yourself. Until you look and feel great, you inner-self of confidence and courage takes a second place.

Comment by Lily

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

I think all the above answers are right on, but since we’re talking one single thing I have to agree that it is self-confidence.

Comment by Susan Richardson

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is acceptance. Acceptance makes him feel that a woman will be understanding, supportive and kind. Acceptance makes a man feel good about himself because he does not have to be anything other than what he already is. And THAT is what it’s all about to a man. Feeling good about himself and his choice in a life partner.

Comment by Pamela Mason

October 24, 2007 @ 3:45 pm

loving attitude, easy to smile, his cheerleader sometimes, all the things that our best friends share. “It is said; be his friend first“, you’ll have plenty to talk about later in life..

Comment by Jessy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:46 pm

The most attractive quality a man looks for in a woman is hands down a self assured confident woman. He doesn’t want to constantly hear “do I look fat in this” and hear about your low self esteem. From my knowledge and experience it’s a big turn off and I use that everytime I run into a guy who I want to dicth. Works everytime ladies!!

Comment by amy d

October 24, 2007 @ 3:47 pm

men prefer women who are thin and can wear a bikini, who are flirty and make the first move. i say this because, i am a positive, happy, kind, genuine, funny person, with great hair, and a good personality, as well as real, boobs that are “big” and great legs. am told i come across as confident, easy to be around, and beautiful. i am 39, but am usually guessed to be late 20’s or early 30’s… and most people are floored that my oldest child is 16. yet, i have never been the one who men buy a drink from across the room for, or the one men are gaga for… it is and always has been one of my friends, who always happen to be petite, or skinny. no hard feelings, just stating the facts as i have witnessed.

Comment by Tracey

October 24, 2007 @ 3:48 pm

Confidence…to know that you love yourself makes him know and feel that you are worth loving.

Comment by mandy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:48 pm

A man finds a woman compelling as she displays not just confidence but a sense of herself. Grooming, listening, good conversation skills with a well developed point if view, a personal style, good posture, easy-going energy, no evidence of being a push over, many varied interests and lots of great relationships with others…in other words solid self-esteem.

Comment by Charlotte

October 24, 2007 @ 3:48 pm

Substance, stability and self esteem. A woman who values herself enough to take care of all aspects of her life but does not constantly focus only on herself. She is attractive because she does the best with what she has but her thoughts are not with how she is being perceived. She is genuinely interested in others and the world around her. People just feel good in her presence. Men are drawn to her because she is an attractive person inside and out.

Comment by Anna

October 24, 2007 @ 3:49 pm

Large breasts..? Just kidding, a lot of guys I’ve spoken to have pretty much ALL said the same thing regarding their ideal woman. They want someone who is down to earth and natural, and happy! (as opposed to high maintenance, bitchy and superficial).

Comment by Gabriela

October 24, 2007 @ 3:52 pm

I firmly believe the main quality a man is looking for in a woman is femineity. Why? First of all, because women in America (or New York at least) are not feminine. They drink like men, they talk like men and they approach men like men (to women). Therefore, a man does not feel manly with a woman who behaves like a man. He gets confused about the role he should take. Nowadays a feminine woman is a rare find.

Comment by Brenda

October 24, 2007 @ 3:53 pm

I know when we set our minds to do anything, we can do it! We are confident that we will succeed. With that being said, men love that type of confidence in women. Confident women have the cutting edge with men. Knowing what you want and having the confidence to project that you know and believe in yourself is a big turn on to men. The right kind of man doesn’t want a needly woman, he wants a women that knows she is the best that she can be! CONFIDENCE holds the key and unleashes every women to be the best that they can be!

Comment by Kylie

October 24, 2007 @ 3:56 pm

Self-confidence I think is by far the most attractive quality in a woman. If men know that their woman can stand on her on two feet when she has to and has confidence in her self image then she will be a far more attractive person to spend time with. Someone who is constantly requiring compliments and seeking feedback is hard work, men aren’t in to hard work…for obvious reasons.

The way you look helps but the way you hold yourself helps even more…

Comment by Melanie Seymore

October 24, 2007 @ 3:57 pm

I think the single most attractive quality that makes a woman attractive to a man is her ability to make him feel manly or masculine when he is with her. This should not be confused by having sex with him anytime he wants. Men are more attracted to women who “allow” them to open doors, pay for dinner or allow them to call us first.In other words, let them be the pursers and the hunters. When this occurs a woman becomes extradinarily attractive over anyone else.

Comment by Sheryl

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

Attitude…it can be spotted and responded to very quickly. There are attractive attitudes and not so attractive attidudes.

Comment by Cindy

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

I believe men look for Women that are confident and comfortable with themselves. A woman that knows who she is and what she wants, it’s kind of like a constant chase for men because a Woman with self confidence has her own opinion, will not settle, has her own life, does not wait around for anybody, and lives her life with integrity. Men know she’ll always keep the relationship interesting, and they have to be good to her or she’ll move on without hesitation because she knows what she’s worth, and what she wants.

Comment by zahid

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

Her responsibility with confidence.

Comment by Melissa

October 24, 2007 @ 3:58 pm

I personally believe that no matter what your looking for in a relationship it will find you as long as you have Confidence. Put what you want out there; picture it in your mind and KNOW that it will come to YOU. In the meanwhile be yourself and have fun. Wherever you go, whatever you do take that Confidence with you…. Good News: ALL types of men will be drawn to you… Bad News: ALL types of men will be drawn to you…lol

Comment by eljay

October 24, 2007 @ 4:00 pm

being independent.. not lean on guy in all aspect.. that makes a single lady most attractive.

Comment by Kimberly Clemons

October 24, 2007 @ 4:03 pm

I wish we all knew the “magic formula” to this, but even if we did, we couldn’t “act” these two qualities out unless we have cultivated them within ourselves.
I think that a man who is ready and searching for a meaningful, lasting relationship is looking for two basics, wether they realize it or not. Number one, from my experience, is *confidence. Men like to know that a woman knows who she is and likes herself. Having confidence and liking ourselves also means that we are dependable and honest, otherwise how could we TRULY like ourselves? A man wants to know that a woman knows how to take care of herself in every way, one way or another. A healthy, available man doesn’t want to feel that a woman and her happiness is soley dependant upon him, his actions or his abilities, etc. They don’t want to feel that a woman would crumble if they’re not completely, 100% on thier best game. They want to know that a woman can be strong for them, when the need arises.
At the same time, #2, a man DOES want to feel that he is needed. This is the balancing act! Too much confidence or false confidence can translate into cockiness or arrogance and will build an emotional “wall” between a woman and her man.
Too much independance in a woman will inevitably leave her man feeling that he is disposable an/or replaceable. Although gender roles are changing, men still naturally need to feel that they are needed and thus appreciated.
So, my answer:
1. confidence
2. humility/appreciation ( if I were to give the 2nd a “name”) WOW!!! I think that is what we are looking for too!

Comment by Karen

October 24, 2007 @ 4:04 pm

I believe it is self-confidence that attracts men, and I think that it helps to keep them around, as well. If a woman is self-confident, she knows who she is. She relies on herself. She has faith in herself and has spirit. Men really like that.

I have noticed that men who are hunters of game, react very similar to a confident woman. Hunters who have an easy kill don’t talk quite as enthusiastically as the one they had to work for, really work for. Men like the challenge, you know. So, first the confident woman will attract them, and then she will keep them interested.

Karen

Comment by cherry

October 24, 2007 @ 4:04 pm

Her femininity and spirituality.

Comment by Fatima Le Breton

October 24, 2007 @ 4:05 pm

A positive attitude towards life and herself

Comment by Karen

October 24, 2007 @ 4:06 pm

I believe the quality most attractive to men is confidence followed closely by a warm smile.

Comment by Gilly

October 24, 2007 @ 4:07 pm

I think that it’s definitely women who are both outgoing and confident. I remember some of my not so glamorous classmates (not endowed with either a great figure or looks), but who were both confident and outgoing, who would strike up meaningful friendships with guys hands down over the really gorgeous ones. So I thinking that knowing who you are, what you want and just going after it are very sexy and powerful tools in the hands of any woman.

Comment by Rachel

October 24, 2007 @ 4:14 pm

Well like most of the other women who have posted here I was going to say confidence, but now I’m not so sure. That answer would be right for a woman to give to the question, but you asked what MEN look for, a big difference there. So I am going to say the initial attraction for any man is the waist-hip ratio of a woman. If she has what he perceives as the right ratio (obtained from a mere glance) then he will be attracted instantly before he is even aware of it. Then he will ‘assess’ other qualities such as smile confidence eyes etc. You have to attract his subconscious before anything else.

Comment by Debbie J

October 24, 2007 @ 4:14 pm

My very best eligible bachelor friend gave me the idea that the quality in question is a sharp mind, a.k.a. intelligence. With this mind, a woman is able to do things for herself, yet she can also decide to invite a friend to help her, even if just for the company. She has the ability to gain knowledge in any arena, allowing her to exude the self-confidence that many are mentioning. She can learn anything she chooses to! Doing that which she loves best will make her heart happy, and that happiness will shine through under any circumstance.

Comment by Anita

October 24, 2007 @ 4:16 pm

I believe that the number one thing a
man is looking for in a woman is self confidence.

Comment by Jane Smith

October 24, 2007 @ 4:17 pm

Confidence in self,emotional stability,personality,looks, the way she carries herself,smile,humor,character, (not jumping into bed with the first man that pays attention to her),honesty,loves herself enough to not let anyone use her,control her, or take advantage of her.

Comment by elaine

October 24, 2007 @ 4:18 pm

Confidence is what a man is most attracted to because needy women scare men….as well women who put it all out there dont foster a mans natural need to pursue and conquer a woman. Confident women provide men with the challenge they crave and require to feel like men.

Comment by Paula

October 24, 2007 @ 4:19 pm

I’ve read a lot of relationship-related material over time from different authors. They always seem to stress that the most attractive quality a woman can possess is to have a well-formed life and interests outside of a relationship. She should also have a good circle of friends-this acts as an endorsement of her character to a man and gives her others to spend time with when her man isn’t available. She should be able to consider her relationship a part of her life, not all of it.

Comment by Diane

October 24, 2007 @ 4:21 pm

I think a woman who has her act together. She is her own person. Not dependent on a man to feel all of her needs

Comment by Elizabeth

October 24, 2007 @ 4:22 pm

Her femininity will bring out a man in him.

Comment by Lee

October 24, 2007 @ 4:25 pm

I think men like confidence, comfort in one’s own skin, direct eye contact, a nice smile, and intelligence..and true genuineness.

Comment by Peony

October 24, 2007 @ 4:26 pm

In my opinion, the single most attractive quality in a woman that attract a man is a Positve and Cheerful Attitude !

Comment by jee

October 24, 2007 @ 4:29 pm

the single most attractive quality that attracts a man is if she’s able to make him feel just as attractive.

Comment by Linda Mu dr y

October 24, 2007 @ 4:33 pm

A positive attitude which includes happiness and confidence.

Comment by Maryanne Laird

October 24, 2007 @ 4:35 pm

I feel the most attractive quality men find in a woman is the woman’s ability to honestly make a man feel good about himself. And I do mean honestly–mentioning things he does that we appreciate, being interested in the things about himself that he shares. Why?-we all really appreciate someone who makes us feel like the things we share about ourselves are listened to and appreciated, feel supported in our endeavors, and feel good about ourselves.

Comment by Penny

October 24, 2007 @ 4:35 pm

A woman who is carefree…you know easy-breezy. Men love that. Takes the pressure off.

Comment by sug

October 24, 2007 @ 4:36 pm

honesty and self-confidence

Comment by Nina

October 24, 2007 @ 4:37 pm

The single most attractive quality that men
look for in a woman is happiness!!! Or that peaceful atittude and beautiful smile that a woman has when is in touch with her deepest feelings, in peace with herself.

Comment by Raelene

October 24, 2007 @ 4:41 pm

I think a woman who is knowledgable, confident, feminine and possess good behavior is attractive. A man doesn’t want a girl who purposely act dumb to make herself look cute. Who on the earth would want to be with a dumb, low self esteem, clumsy and worst behavior lady? Another important thing is, she must be understanding and caring towards her man.

Comment by Nhadz

October 24, 2007 @ 4:43 pm

I believe that great confidence of a woman is what really attracts a man. being able to carry herself well plus an exuding personality, grace, and beauty can definitely catch a man’s attention. coming from the inside out she can standout, brought about by the sense of knowing oneself and being able to improve more and more will put up admiration towards the one possesing it…and actually tis not just men who are attracted by it women do envy it as well.

Comment by Patti

October 24, 2007 @ 4:44 pm

I think men are looking for a confident, independent outgoing woman. Who’s looking for someone to share their life with. Not to complete them or be with them because they don’t want to be alone.

Comment by Debby

October 24, 2007 @ 4:46 pm

Of course, confidence. But I think it’s a woman who is fun and can laugh at herself!!

Comment by Sandra

October 24, 2007 @ 4:48 pm

The ability through her own self-confidence to make a man feel good about himself and want to be with her.

Comment by Kate

October 24, 2007 @ 4:52 pm

A genuine smile, someone whose face lights up when they smile, and pleasant demeanour

Comment by Nicola

October 24, 2007 @ 4:55 pm

The Smile.

Above and beyond all else a genuine smile. It lights up your face and shows your true beauty, in and out. This does NOT mean grinning like the Mad Hatter all the time, they will think you are bonkers if you do. Just be yourself, relax andsmile more.

Comment by Dodes

October 24, 2007 @ 5:02 pm

Personality and sense of humor…it’s the way a woman carry herself; anywhere, anytime!

Comment by Rose

October 24, 2007 @ 5:05 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is that she genuinely likes men. She may not be the most confident, smart or most beautiful woman in the room but if she likes and respects men they will sense it. Women who don’t like men often appear closed and guarded. Pull down those walls and the men will come!

Comment by Thorp

October 24, 2007 @ 5:05 pm

Men look for a lady that lights up the room with her smile,has the love of life,the ability to laugh,has a sense of humor,can listen with her eyes,her heart and make you believe that she really cares. She must have that unmistable aire of confidence without being a snob.Is a lady that you can’t wait to see again and again. She has that one thing that you just can’t put your finger on,but you know that you want to find out what it is.

Comment by BJ

October 24, 2007 @ 5:06 pm

Being Cool
Knowing how to appreciate men, who they how hard they work, acceptance that their man has free time and security for their man to drop their persona to frolick and just be to enjoy what each day has to offer

Comment by Arline

October 24, 2007 @ 5:06 pm

A man must delieve that you think he is very special and a turn on. THAT turns him on.

Comment by jenifer spase

October 24, 2007 @ 5:09 pm

Positive attitude win men everytime Men watch a woman’s ability to act and conduct herself maturely and professionally with a possitive attitude.Men look for possitive attitude specifically and more closely than anything else!!!!!!Her honestly and assertiveness comes next.

Comment by Leicia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:10 pm

I’m saying a womans eyes because that is the window to your soul. The next best thing would be a down-t0-earth attitude

Comment by Rachel

October 24, 2007 @ 5:10 pm

Independence – because women that can stand on their own are all that much more sexy and attractive. Knowing that you won’t become a clingy, non-opinionated, tag-along is very reassuring!

Comment by Stella

October 24, 2007 @ 5:11 pm

Single most number one quality i believe is self confidence and the reason being is the more confident we are the better they will feel around us and is that not why they stay or leave..usually for the most part.is how we make them feel when they are with us?! S

Comment by Patricia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:15 pm

i think men look for warmth. they want someone who will treat them well. they want someone they will love to come home to and be with. that’s why i think warmth is the quality they want.

Comment by Pinky

October 24, 2007 @ 5:17 pm

Her 3′Cs – confidence,character,charm. Without it, everything falls apart. A confident woman can carry herself,speaks her mind, assert herself in any conversation. Every woman can have her own special way of being sexy.

Comment by cynthia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:17 pm

a womans eyes and smile and being honest and show respect

Comment by Linah

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

i think they look for someone has has he act together someone who is responsible and knows how to manage her emotions regardless of waht she feels when with a man.

Comment by Allie

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

I believe that men find confidence the most attractive quality. A woman that believes in herself gives off a special vibe that just attracts men.It doesnt say rescue me, I’m needy, or fix me.By valuing herself, she is capable of giving freely of her love and talents ..a woman who does not live in fear or take her self worth from someone else but rather from inside herself

Comment by lisa mcafee

October 24, 2007 @ 5:19 pm

A woman’s smile is what attracts men the most. A woman who smiles is seen as happy and confident. A woman who smiles is seen as prettier, even if she isn’t that pretty.

Comment by myword

October 24, 2007 @ 5:23 pm

I believe most of these comments hit the nail right on the head. Men do want women who are confident, which does put less pressure on them to make her feel whole. Also, if she is confident she is definitely comfortable with who she is and feels sexy and good about herself regardless of what his impression of her is. I think men love this. It’s definitely sexy!

Comment by edner

October 24, 2007 @ 5:27 pm

i think its self confidence as more as self-discipline and good characters.Also the real truly love and a principled with boundaries woman, a woman who is responsible and reasonable and sure about what she real do and think about.

Comment by Asavari

October 24, 2007 @ 5:27 pm

I think it is a womans love and caring nature. She should me able to pamper the man like a mother and love him like a girlfriend she should be sexy and ravishing

Comment by deb Benshoof

October 24, 2007 @ 5:30 pm

A man looks for honesty in a women, he wants a women he can trust, whether hes trustworthy or not.

Comment by kay

October 24, 2007 @ 5:33 pm

umm… i think its the trust u place on him n e fact dat u accept him 4 who he is!! because it isnt usually easy 2 accept men 4 who they’re.. n findin a women who does isnt easy as well!!

oh well.. its a tricky question!! bottom line is.. i have no idea!!

Comment by Flora Laflo

October 24, 2007 @ 5:33 pm

The single most attractive quality in a women is the inner beauty and assurance that comes from self confidence. Men love independent women – men are competitive by nature and love a challenge.

Comment by Teri

October 24, 2007 @ 5:34 pm

Men are looking for someone they can communicate with, on every level. They want a well-rounded woman that is not full of herself. Because when the looks go down the drain, all that’s left is conversation…and things you like to do together…and if you don’t have that, the rest is all crap… You must have the basics. (Although you have to have some type of attraction in the beginning..) It’s an animal thing. Please send me the book!!! Love you site!!

Comment by Glenda

October 24, 2007 @ 5:34 pm

Self Confidence – Without a doubt.

in my opinion, a women who is self assured stands out more and draws so much more attention than your beauty queen with no or less self confidence. Men want to be with a woman who knows where she is at and where she is going.

Comment by Alex

October 24, 2007 @ 5:35 pm

Feminity ? …

A confident woman is a powerful woman and that excites them, stir them up, provoke them !

And a woman who is the combination of sassy, smart, selective, kind , intelligent, is simply irresistible !

Comment by Elvira

October 24, 2007 @ 5:35 pm

COMMENTS BY BELLE

Men loved women who are honest and trustworthy..Being one, it is more than the outward looks of a woman. They simply idolize women who can understand them, cared for them, loving them and can satisfy them in their wants.She in turn could be a friend, a mother ,and a lover..but the most important of all is to be honest..when she said she loves him and have committed with him …then show all the reality, the love, the care , the understanding, the inner and outward beauty being a woman..let God be the center of your life and bingo!! there will be peace, love and harmony throughout……

Comment by Ramak

October 24, 2007 @ 5:35 pm

TO BE HAPPY ALWAYS . This is the most important quality that can attract and keep your right man .

Comment by Debbie

October 24, 2007 @ 5:36 pm

A man looks for honesty in a women, he wants a women he can trust, someone that is not needy of him, that will allow him space to spend time with his friends and family, and this makes her more attractive to him.

Comment by comment by debbie

October 24, 2007 @ 5:38 pm

A man looks for honesty in a women, he wants a women he can trust, someone that is not needy of him, that will allow him space to spend time with his friends and family, and this makes him more attracted to her.

Comment by Amy

October 24, 2007 @ 5:39 pm

I see a lot of comments on Confidence. Important for every mentally stable partner we are as humans fairly attracted to this trait. However, something not all of these overly confident people may have is SELF WORTH, a different subject from self confidence. Something that I do not think you can be taught or schooled in, you have to attiain it through trails of life, self worth is what you make of yourself and your drive to maintain it at all costs and it drives your confidence in this world. Can you maintain your self confidence in 3rd world villages digging wells for starving disease infested towns, knowing that their education will never be enough to get this generation well enough in the next decade, maybe not, but your self worth is what makes you seek higher powers that helped you in your quest to develop your own self worth and knowing those people can help you make a difference because it speaks to their own self worth to make it happen. Self Worth, something I am more interested in attaining, cultivating and sheltering for life. Self Confidence tells others that you are not hesitant to get what you want out of life, Self Worth tells others you care more about what you get for others out of life simply for the benefit of having been the highest power of yourself possible. This is an absolute magnet to all sexes. Passionate, driven, resolved, humanitarian, humility, intellectually advanced. Maybe not your correct answer but it is one I have hit on through years of study of the human connection and why we follow leaders. They, after all, are the epitomy of attraction for a wide base of viewing public, what makes them so….with all their faults and quirks.

Comment by moda

October 24, 2007 @ 5:42 pm

I think that the most attractive thing and sexy about a woman is being CONFIDENT!!If a woman is confident and comfortable in her own skin, she can move mountains………………

Comment by Heidi Smith

October 24, 2007 @ 5:43 pm

What a man looks for in a woman is warmth. When he feels her warmth and trust, he will want to be the best man he can be. He is looking for authenticity, hers and also his. It is how he FEELS when he’s with this woman that will make him feel that he wants to stay.

Comment by Eva

October 24, 2007 @ 5:44 pm

NATURAL SEXINESS!!!!
Men enjoy looking at women who display a positive and natural sexy character, without a doubt…

I know from experience…smile

Comment by Sylvia

October 24, 2007 @ 5:48 pm

Men want a woman who makes them feel good about themselves, the relationship, and life in general.. they will remember that feeling, miss her when she’s not around, and want to be with her always.

Comment by Wai

October 24, 2007 @ 5:52 pm

Dear Amy,

a meaningful relationship is just like flying a kite – you should know when to pull and when to let go the kite at appropriate time.

i have been having this single problem of getting any man to leave me alone. most men like straight, clever conversation and therefore my principle of “i want what i want when i want” works perfectly to me..

Comment by AMANDA

October 24, 2007 @ 5:52 pm

Self assurance … but since that one’s quite obvious as everyone has mentioned it, I’ll say femininity. Poise and grace are incredidibly overlooked by women these days as being desirable to a man.

Comment by Candice

October 24, 2007 @ 5:52 pm

Men are looking for confident and positive women with a bit of independance. If a woman loves herself its easy for her to love others and men sense that.

Comment by keri

October 24, 2007 @ 5:53 pm

The best quality a woman could have is just liking herself. If you like yourself and treat the man in your life the way you would treat yourself, with respect, a good man will see that.

Comment by Aileen

October 24, 2007 @ 5:54 pm

Being responsible. If a woman is responsible, everything follows. She thinks of her responsibility as a woman, as girlfriend, a mother, a sister and so on. As a woman, she has the responsibility to make herself attractive (proper hygiene, best body, good exercise, good brain). As a girlfriend, she has the responsibility to make her boyfriend happy, contented, proud…. (means she should be physically attractive, emotionally stable, faithful). As a mother, she has the responsibility to feed her children, clothe them, provide them shelter….. So the bottomline is…..if the woman is responsible, it follows that she is desirable, attractive and admirable for having portrayed the responsibilities expected of her.

Comment by Beejay

October 24, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

A man needs a woman who can be herself around him; a woman who is comfortable with who she is – in other words a fulfilled and CONFIDENT woman. Because she is comfortable with who she is, she does not need to pretend or to change herself for him. Men also like women who make it easy for them to be themselves – it is only when men can feel free to be themselves are they able to strive to improve because the basics are already accepted by their woman!

Comment by Anna

October 24, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

Someone who is happy and balanced. Someone who has their own ideas and opinions, without needing to change or agree with everything the man says. Someone who is mature and doesn’t play mind games.

Comment by Lise

October 24, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

The most attractive quality in a woman is her self confidence.She is happy within herself and knows who she is. She knows what she wants and how to go about getting it. She has a mind of her own and works toward her goals. She is comfortable with herself and is not afraid to let others know who she is. This makes her fun to be around and makes people feel at ease. Men do not feel like they have to “fix” her in any way.

Comment by Susan

October 24, 2007 @ 6:05 pm

I believe the quality that men find most attractive is honesty:fair and straightforward in your conduct and being upright of character and action.

Comment by anita

October 24, 2007 @ 6:05 pm

Definitely confidence, this air of confidence as she walks by shows him she likes herself, and is pleased with who she is. Not only men but everyone notices a person who carries themselves with this air of positive affirmations about themselves. It’s an immediate turn on,sexually and otherwise, and you don’t have to be 24-36-24, blonde or beautiful. Self assertiveness is always noticed.

Comment by Tatevik Gharibyan

October 24, 2007 @ 6:05 pm

I think that men appreciate femininity in a woman.

Comment by Lonni Ferguson

October 24, 2007 @ 6:06 pm

A smiling face!

Comment by Ruslana

October 24, 2007 @ 6:12 pm

Men want a woman that is not embarrased about who she is and shows her true self not tries to show of somebody else. Confidence is very important but also to show your true self.

Comment by Sawarn Kaur

October 24, 2007 @ 6:12 pm

Men always look for beauty at the first glance but at the end it is their feminity or “womaness” in a woman that they will feel atracted to. This allows them the macho feeling of being the stronger one. Deep dowm all men want to be pampered and feel strong and “be the man of the house”.

Comment by MARGARET

October 24, 2007 @ 6:17 pm

The single most attractive quality that men look for in women is top notch confidence and self awareness plus a very high degree of selectivity. Just show a man you know what you want out of life and you are charting your way there and he is hooked for life.

Comment by nancy

October 24, 2007 @ 6:18 pm

think the most attractive thing to a man in a woman is her self confidence and poise along with her wit

Comment by Jessica

October 24, 2007 @ 6:24 pm

I think the first thing that men find attractive in a woman is the sense that she is open to being approached. Sure she can have a nice smile and appear confident, but if she isn’t in a good place emotionally, they can pick up on it.

Comment by Jane

October 24, 2007 @ 6:26 pm

Having read from different and matured writers like you, Amy, and several others, and by true life experiences of others, I have come to understand that matured and responsible men look out for women with good personlities. Women that can love and respect and make them feel great.

Comment by mina

October 24, 2007 @ 6:28 pm

kindness

Comment by Arlene

October 24, 2007 @ 6:32 pm

A smiling face that shows a positive attitude.

Comment by Sofia

October 24, 2007 @ 6:32 pm

It is a misconception that men look for beautiful women, beauty gets you noticed but cannot keep a man interested for long.

Inteligence, a good sense of humour, wittiness, honesty and a positive attitude to life are a must, although it may depend on which type of man you go for. I personally look for someone who i can level with and have great conversations, share goals and objectives and have a great time in general…

Comment by Jessica

October 24, 2007 @ 6:33 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality a woman can possess is the attitude/persona that makes a man feel like a man. I know plenty of girls with great self confidence that can’t get a date. This quality goes above and beyond self confidence and the girls I know that are like this have guys lining up to take them out. They have enough self confidence to not have to prove themselves so they sit back and let the guys be guys.

These girls aren’t thinking about themselves. They’re thinking about making the other person happy. Smile from the heart, warm, caring, feminine…

Comment by Yvonne

October 24, 2007 @ 6:35 pm

Men want to receive that flash of a womans smile with direct eye contact. Pure instinct.

A true smile is controlled by emotion and says “I am confident, harmless, friendly and happy” and is a great invitation for more closeness.

Comment by Mary

October 24, 2007 @ 6:38 pm

In Sudanese Context men look for women who are submissive,respectiful, humble and can be possess.

Comment by Nancy

October 24, 2007 @ 6:39 pm

I think the quality that most men are attracted to are self confidence and Happiness. A self confident happy woman is irresistible to the correct kind of man. Of course some men will be attracted to the beauty on the outside but a self confident woman is beautiful on the inside too. Secondly Happiness is contagious, men love to be with women who are happy because they believe these women will make them happy too. Nancy.

Comment by loise

October 24, 2007 @ 6:39 pm

they want a humble/shy lady who they feel they want to protect

Comment by loise

October 24, 2007 @ 6:43 pm

humble/shy coz they feel they wanna protect you

Comment by Jackie Mark

October 24, 2007 @ 6:43 pm

Men are attracted to intelligent, confident but not proud,well mannered i.e kind, simple warm, outgoing and happy woman.

Jackie Mark

Comment by denise

October 24, 2007 @ 6:43 pm

It’s a confident woman, that’s true to herself. Women were made in their own right, so they only need to be true to themselves to attract the man that is right for them. A woman that is true to herself, brings out the qualities that’s best, out of her. The right man will see it, appreciate it and respect her for it. That’s what makes women so captivating…

Comment by Kira Landan

October 24, 2007 @ 6:47 pm

A man loves the woman who loves him for who he really is.

Comment by jennefer

October 24, 2007 @ 6:49 pm

I think men look for a fetish being a personal one..

Be that legs, eyes, a great smile, big boobs, great body or even a large body… it is all in the beholder of the man viewing the woman of his desire..

So! having said that…. one cannot put one!! answer or despcription on what a man looks for in a woman…

as their is not a man on earth that has the same taste…

Comment by connie

October 24, 2007 @ 6:52 pm

I believe all men are attractive to women who knows how to appreciate their gestures even if they think it is just as common and as simple effort.

Comment by Bonnie

October 24, 2007 @ 6:52 pm

Balanced…a woman must be balanced in her own life, in order for a man to respect her. Respect is of utmost importance in order to have a great relationship. I think men want a woman who respects herself and has confidence in herself and their relationship. Also, he wants a woman to be his equal, his best friend and lover. This will come naturally if she is confident and respects herself. He wants to feel totally comfortable in her presence. He wants to have a woman he can trust completely and be trusted completely in return. A man finds it easy to respect and trust a woman who is able to trust and respect him too.

Comment by Tumi Magongoa

October 24, 2007 @ 6:59 pm

I think that the single most quality that men look for in a woman is…CONFIDENCE..Confidence in herself, Confidence in her life choices and confidence in the relationship that all is going to go well irrespective of the evidence presented by other people, places, events and circumstances

Comment by Ayshath

October 24, 2007 @ 7:00 pm

men look for someone who they can be dependant on physically and emotionally. Although they may not agree they do find someone with whome they can really connect and still be elusive about.

Comment by Melinda

October 24, 2007 @ 7:01 pm

In a word, confidence,. There is nothing more attractive to a man than a woman who is comfortable in her own skin. She knows and accepts who she is, where she’s been, and knows there is much more life for her.

This is attractive to a man because he won’t feel pressured to “fix her”, he can simply enjoy her company without fear of her becoming “dramatic” or “clingy”.

Comment by stephanie

October 24, 2007 @ 7:14 pm

I believe it is confidence, but not in herself, as it is being confident he is the one for her.

Comment by Anna

October 24, 2007 @ 7:15 pm

A caring nourishing person is what a guy ultimately wants..Guys like to be looked after – and if a female can do that, i think it signifies she’s a keeper!

Comment by VW

October 24, 2007 @ 7:18 pm

I believe the kind of man I would want isn;t looking for a “single” most important quality but a more complex composite of: humble confidence, positive attitude, generous heart and topped off with a great sense of humor and a smile. If all that is contained in a beautiful package – she can have her pick of any man she chooses!!

Comment by Lisa

October 24, 2007 @ 7:25 pm

Intelligence is the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman…
Why? Intelligence includes emotional, social, and acedemic intelligence. If she’s got a brain, then she has self confidence, self control, and the self worth that makes every guy want to chase after her.

Comment by Chiedza

October 24, 2007 @ 7:27 pm

i think man will look for a woman with a good sense of humour who is also confident in herself.

Comment by Selezia

October 24, 2007 @ 7:37 pm

Self love!

A woman that is independent and not needy and insecure is most attractive to a good man looking for a genuine partnership. So to have all these qualities a woman must first love herself as a whole person.

Comment by joleen

October 24, 2007 @ 7:38 pm

hi there

from what i understand in this question, is that men, once they want to settle, looks for a women, he can count on some one strong, a women with vision… so basically some one with confidence in herself and love for herself and family… SOME ONE HE CAN HAVE ALL FAITH AND CONFIDENCE IN…

Comment by vany

October 24, 2007 @ 7:39 pm

I think that the most attractive characteristic a men look in a woman is her smile. Smile is the first thing men notice on a woman. It means an invitation for a guy.

Comment by SUSAN

October 24, 2007 @ 7:40 pm

I believe the most attractive quality men are looking for in a woman is HAPPINESS. This is attractive in any person, whether you are a man or a woman. A woman who is happy automatically exudes confidence, energy and independence. I think a man is looking for someone who is not dependent on him for her own happiness and who can make him feel good about life too.

Comment by Barbara

October 24, 2007 @ 7:45 pm

A big sunny genuine smile that radiates a womens complete inner happiness and peace within herself. If that is backed up by full hearted honest laughter, ability to see the positive in every situation, wit and intelligence you have a fantastic woman who not only believes herself to be attractive inside and out but means others cannot help but be attracted to her infectious confidence, positiveity and beauty as well. If you believe in yourself enough then others have no other choice but to believe it as well

Comment by Zeenat

October 24, 2007 @ 7:45 pm

What men find attractive in a woman cannot be found in a single quality.Geeze, we gotta give men more credit than that!And human nature in itself is much too complex (more so when you are a woman.) But hey. men are human too (lol!)
If this question relates to the start of a possible relationship i.e.when a man starts “checking out, or eye-balling” a potential partner I would say that
the following 1st impressions will decide his interest in you.
1. How well you carry yourself, and how well
you appear to take care of yourself.
2. The energy and confidence that you exude.
3. Your friendliness, ready smile and more
so whether you appear approachable.
3. Whether you show signs that you might be interested in him too.(The come-on over smile..)

I agree with a former statement by someone else on the page that “men like women who like men.” It appeals to their ego straight away.

Comment by Zainab Mohammed

October 24, 2007 @ 7:46 pm

From what I have observed, the single most attractive thing a man sees in a woman is TRUTHFULNESS. Most men like it when a lady is true about what she feels for him and other people.

Comment by Sandra

October 24, 2007 @ 7:48 pm

I think men are attracted to a woman who is happy in her skin.

Comment by Karen

October 24, 2007 @ 7:49 pm

Self confidence without a doubt, it says we love who we are warts and all and in order to love another we need to love ourselves first.Everything else falls into place when you have self confidence.

Comment by quincy

October 24, 2007 @ 7:50 pm

i belive charater(behavior).that’s what the man look into when they what relationship,because good behavior talks. and who can stand when he’s not there.

Comment by SH

October 24, 2007 @ 7:50 pm

Men are attracted by MYSTERIOUS & COOL women, men love being chalenged.

Comment by EBELE

October 24, 2007 @ 7:51 pm

Dear Amy, the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is COMPASSION.

I said COMPASSION because men are like babies, ever needing petting and pampering, they are always looking out for women who will often understand their feelings and show them COMPASSION.

Comment by Sandra

October 24, 2007 @ 7:51 pm

I think men are attracted to a woman who is happy in her skin because it is easier to connect with someone who doesn’t have a lot of emotional baggage to deal with.

Comment by Teresa

October 24, 2007 @ 7:53 pm

What do I think is the single most attractive quality men look for in a woman?.

HONESTY and LOYALTY

It is also the qualities I find attractive in a man ….no matter how handsome , confident , rich …etc …he is .If he does not have Honesty and Loyalty in his heart …he has nothing.

Comment by Penelope

October 24, 2007 @ 7:53 pm

I dont believe there is anything more attractive to men than confidence and someone who is happy in their own skin regardless of looks. I have seen real life evidence of this being true time after time. I know this woman who is not paticularly attractive or interesting or even nice yet she has men all over her. And the truth is she is happy with who she is and she loves her appearance and men seem so drawn to her. Confidence turns an average woman into a raving beauty in mens eyes.

Comment by Teresa

October 24, 2007 @ 7:59 pm

But then again ….maybe big boobs and own a bar!

Comment by Anna

October 24, 2007 @ 7:59 pm

Men want the same things we want really, unwavering confidence and certain vulnerability at the same time. They want to be proud of themselves for being with us and they want to be proud us too. Those of us who manage to find the balance between these things tend to lead happier love lives.

Comment by Lucinda Chadwick

October 24, 2007 @ 8:13 pm

Definitely sex appeal…..that makes any woman look attractive.

Comment by Renata

October 24, 2007 @ 8:23 pm

class and self esteem….. woman who is capable but still femini at the same time ….. but good looks definitely helps

rx

Comment by Ann

October 24, 2007 @ 8:24 pm

I think its a girl who is relaxed and is enjoying herself

Comment by Angelika Wozowicz

October 24, 2007 @ 8:24 pm

Aloha Amy,

I truly believe that when we are completely in sync in peace and love with who we are as person at any given moment, we are at our best in the eyes of any men, and probably the one we would care to be around longer than a fling. That in sync feels to the man as if we are emotionally, psychologically, mentally self sufficient and self assured. That feedback contains confidence and sense of settled contentment of who we are and where we are in our life. Men don’t care if we sell shrimp from a shrimp truck, or we run the Marketing Department for a Real Estate Agency. They do care that we take respect and pride in who we are.

Comment by Dawn

October 24, 2007 @ 8:26 pm

A srtrong sense of having her own life and that she doesn’t take it all too seriously

Comment by Marina

October 24, 2007 @ 8:29 pm

A feminine confidence.

Comment by mervat

October 24, 2007 @ 8:30 pm

Quality: the woman who is able to give them mother’s love, unconditional, none questioned love…

Comment by chit lim

October 24, 2007 @ 8:35 pm

All of the above opinion holds true in one gals personality attraction to a man…being true to yourself is enough gauge already for a man to like you,no pretensions in life,pretending someone that you are really not.For i believe that if we are only true to ourselves that confidence,honesty happy disposition in life,right dealing or getting along with others will already build up in our persona.We always hear people said “i dont like or i hate hippocrite people”

Comment by IAH

October 24, 2007 @ 8:46 pm

Men look for women who are cool because they easily get connected with them. Besides, Men are cool creatures.

Comment by louise kelly

October 24, 2007 @ 8:54 pm

i don,t know

Comment by By Tibi

October 24, 2007 @ 8:56 pm

Confidence

a confident woman says, “i might just like you, but i can still do without you”. so the hunter (man) enjoys the challenge, hunting till he gets her (ego boost).
a confidence woman says, ” i know what i want”. and the hunter winning her means he knows that SHE wants HIM.
a confident woman says, “im happy. Im happy with who i am, i love me just the way i am.” and the hunter could do with a lot less emotional drama

Comment by Edit

October 24, 2007 @ 8:59 pm

I think Men look for woman who are smart, intelligent, pretty,, with smile and smiling eyes and optimistic thinking. But it is depend if they are looking for a relationship or something else.

Comment by Lada

October 24, 2007 @ 9:00 pm

The 2 most important qualities in a woman that a man desires and needs are:
1. Her ability to satisfy him sexually ….and
2. That she ADMIRES him fully as a man

Everything else pales in comparison to these two.
Without Admiration, a man will not love a woman completely.
Without a sexual ( Physical companion ) , a man will not be faithful to her.

Comment by sheetal

October 24, 2007 @ 9:01 pm

well, the answer again and again is CONFIDENCE. a woman who can be herself. a woman who doesnt change for a man. a woman who can take a man to that special place in her heart, where he feels love and yet he feels motivated to acheive it.

i ve had an experience here, a cute man had fallen head over heels in love with me only becoz he found me to be confident. he wud call me extraordinary. as the relationship grew and we became closer and comfortable,i went too fast and made that crucial mistake which all of us women do. i became emotional too soon, which came across as emotionally needy. over a period of time, it started getting across to him as underconfidence, but it wasnt so in reality. just the day we broke up, he had told this to me in the midst of some conversation:”u arent as confident as u used to be”.

thanks
sheetal

Comment by Paula

October 24, 2007 @ 9:03 pm

I think men really like confidence along with a sense of humor.

Comment by Aza

October 24, 2007 @ 9:07 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality in a woman
is her ability to recieve more than giving because
this will make the man feel happy and more attracted to her .

Comment by Ro

October 24, 2007 @ 9:09 pm

I think its a woman who knows who she is, down to the very depths of her inner true being.

Comment by Karima

October 24, 2007 @ 9:11 pm

I think the anwser is her smile!!! If a woman is confident she will smile more! Which is all a sign of her being comfortable with herself and that will attract men.

Comment by Titi

October 24, 2007 @ 9:13 pm

I believe a man is looking for a woman that is in touch with her femininity, sexuality and poise.

Comment by Crisella

October 24, 2007 @ 9:14 pm

Well me i think a woman need to be sweet.That’s it!!!

Comment by Priya Shah

October 24, 2007 @ 9:23 pm

Confidence! A warm smile comes a close second.

Comment by Julie

October 24, 2007 @ 9:25 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality a man looks for in a woman is Confidence.

Comment by rachael

October 24, 2007 @ 9:28 pm

men are looking for a good cook in the kitchen,a prostitute in the kitched who is not needy.

Comment by CHRISTIE JOSIAH

October 24, 2007 @ 9:29 pm

Personally i think that the one single most attractive quality every man wants in a woman is the ability to be independent. Independency both emotionally and in all respect. No man wants a woman that is glued to them emotionally they tend to appreciate better a woman that has a world of their own, and enjoys life having fun with high level of self esteem with or without a man.

Comment by Niki

October 24, 2007 @ 9:33 pm

Men are attracted to confident women. Confident women are capable of trust, they have self-worth and there is something in their life other than a man that gives them a sense of wholeness. Men can feel free to be themselves around confident women, they are challenged by them and they know this kind of woman can enrich their lives.

Comment by Catherine

October 24, 2007 @ 9:38 pm

I believe that men are attracted to soft, approachable, yet confident women!!!

Comment by marianne

October 24, 2007 @ 9:38 pm

i think it’s with no doubt CONFIDENCE and FEMINITY, because a confident women is a challenge to men, she can show easily that she is collected, paused and not needy and feminity shows a bit the vulnerable side of a woman which is attractive as well to men..

Comment by Miss Korang

October 24, 2007 @ 9:43 pm

The single most attractive quality is confidence. If a woman is confident it encompasses all the other qualities. It makes her more beautiful both on the outside and in the inside. She is emotionally secure and will not suspect a man every time she spends time outside without her. She does not nag, she is understanding because she understands herself.

Because she is confident she is easier to talk to, she does not harbour some negative thoughts about herself and so doesn’t do it about her man either. if anything bothers her, she feels free to tlak about it.

A confident is lovely to be with and hence attracts men more.

Comment by Melissa

October 24, 2007 @ 9:46 pm

I think the most attractive quality that men look for is self confidence. If a woman posesses that everything else falls into place. Self confidence allows a woman to be the best version of herself that she can be, and i think a man would want the best version that he can get of a woman.

Comment by Ze'

October 24, 2007 @ 9:49 pm

Firstly – would be appearance. This shows her confidence (or not)
Secondly – would be personality with confidence & sense of humour
The rest will come naturally…

Comment by Tracy

October 24, 2007 @ 9:51 pm

I’m guessing that men look for a woman who makes them feel appreciated and special. One who makes them feel like they can really improve her life. One who says “Thank You” all the time and really means it.

Comment by Jeanette

October 24, 2007 @ 9:53 pm

A woman who isn’t afraid of being herself and natural. An open and happy woman who know that she is good enough, she doesn’t need to compete with him in any fields. A woman who is willing to give and take as the situation requires, a woman who relies in herself. Asking for help doesn’t mean being weak, neither does being feminine. In this world with feminists and fierce competition for the top posts, men can feel threatened and afraid of too strong and masculine women and most often I find that they have to put on a facade. So, I’d have to say a woman who is comfortable in her own skin with a contagious laughter =D

Comment by Androulla

October 24, 2007 @ 9:53 pm

A man looks for a woman with whom he can be open with, without judgment, but who will also tell him straight what she thinks.

The word “Truth” comes to mind.

Comment by ann

October 24, 2007 @ 10:04 pm

I believe that the single most quality men look out for is Sex appeal.Ann.

Comment by Thanh Thanh

October 24, 2007 @ 10:09 pm

To me, men look for the most lady-like lady even though some men don’t realize it. This does not mean the ladies men want should be crying a lot, should speak softly or always feel shy.. What the male lacks is female charasteristics, while what he has is his big “I”. She maybe confident, maybe clever with her hands, .. but she OUGHT TO be respect him the most. Respectfulness can be distributed by sympathy, understanding, appreciation.. This is where the feminity comes in: only she who can shows her admiration for him can win his heart!

Comment by Edna

October 24, 2007 @ 10:13 pm

Self confidence!!

Comment by arrah

October 24, 2007 @ 10:18 pm

well as far on my experience..i think mans mostly look on physical at first but later on he will look on attitudes..it depends on the guy..in the first meeting u have..when i first the my boyfriend now im wearing sexy clothes to keep his attention on me and the girl should put some seductive make-up..it would be great if they meet at night time because girls become seductive at that moment

Comment by Lori

October 24, 2007 @ 10:26 pm

men like to be entertained by a confident woman………..they like to laugh and have fun….so humored by a confident woman would be my answer……

Comment by sheryl

October 24, 2007 @ 10:32 pm

Absolutely Self Confidence, a magnetic attraction, an irresitable force.

Comment by Dee

October 24, 2007 @ 10:33 pm

High Self Esteem:
High self esteem/true confidence allows a person to be truly themselves. Ultimately, we fall in love with the “soul” of another. Genuine, high self esteem allows us to be the sexiest, happiest & loveliest we are capable of being.

Comment by Tohideh

October 24, 2007 @ 10:37 pm

Men love women who love themselves!

Comment by Karen

October 24, 2007 @ 10:39 pm

I believe confidence in yourself is the most attractive quality for a woman to have, men feel at ease with you and want to be around you if you are able to have fun not constantly seeking reassurance

Comment by Marsha

October 24, 2007 @ 10:39 pm

Confidence.

Comment by namgabi

October 24, 2007 @ 10:44 pm

men go for women with personality & good conduct.
women who can accomodate men in their programmes without asking for details(ladies who FREELY open up to men)

Comment by angel

October 24, 2007 @ 10:44 pm

their r a lot of qualities which a man wants in her dream girl………..but they start the process of searching for those qualities once they find a women with a lot of self confidence…who is not confused…knows what she wants from her man…and what not,,,beauty is not a criteria these days…but yes personality makes a lots of difference…they way but above all its confidence

Comment by LC

October 24, 2007 @ 10:44 pm

I feel men look for a giver type who also depends on him in a subtle way. It’s like you should be confident, but kind of allowing him to help you when he offers

Comment by Janie

October 24, 2007 @ 10:45 pm

Confidence. Why? – well that is that ultimate question, isn’t it? Who really knows why men like the things they do. I don’t even think the men know that. I suspect it has something to do with the chemicl process in the brain.

Comment by Deanna

October 24, 2007 @ 10:46 pm

A light-up the room SMILE that is shows up her face very often. It is there when she talks to him, it is there when she just looks at him and it is there when she touches him.

Comment by Alexandra

October 24, 2007 @ 10:48 pm

What I´ve learned in my love life and the one who chose me to get married with him, the topic point above all is that: COMPLICITY and TRUST are the most atractive weapons to conquer a man.

Comment by Beatriz Cabrejos

October 24, 2007 @ 10:55 pm

COMMENT BY BEATRIZ

AUTHENTICITY, a woman that men feel as REAL, loving,caring,with an open heart is irresistible to them. That completely acceptance of the woman we are makes them breath serenity, harmony and peace with ourselves and they feel very attracted to it.

Comment by Christi

October 24, 2007 @ 11:00 pm

Self confidence

Comment by Mary

October 24, 2007 @ 11:02 pm

I believe men are attracted to independent, confident women that love themselves and the world around them and that love for the world and confidence shines through their personality, and the way they handle themselves.

(At least I hope that’s what it is, I really need as much help with men and relationships as I can get)

Comment by KUHU

October 24, 2007 @ 11:05 pm

I think emotional intelligence is the most important thing in a woman to a man. A woman who understands herself and is mature, observant and patient enough to be able to see and understand how her man feels and reacts to different situations is positively alluring. This allows a man to open his heart out to a woman because he feels that he is understood. Also, inner happiness in a woman is just as attractive.

Comment by JACK ETIM

October 24, 2007 @ 11:09 pm

I believe most men need a women that is faithfull,being faithfully gives emotionally stable, confidence and trust.

Comment by Alexandra

October 24, 2007 @ 11:11 pm

Self confidence

Comment by juno

October 24, 2007 @ 11:15 pm

Self confidence.

Comment by Tatiana

October 24, 2007 @ 11:16 pm

The single most attractive quality that guys look for in a woman would have to be confidence – being totally comfortable in who, what and where she is and expressing that comfort to others through her whole self.

Comment by Bloss

October 24, 2007 @ 11:19 pm

I think every woman, regardless of her age and look, is beautiful when she is smiling: that way she is not sharing her positive energy, she also communicates on an subconscious level
1. to be in tune with herself and the world surroundig her,
2. to be fun with (at least at that specific moment),
3. to be natural (if the smile is genuine of course),
4. to be selfconfident (if we are not able to laugh or even smile it´s because we are afraid to be vulnerable enough to open up).
I think we all can be several ´level´ more attractive to men when we smile. It´s easy and does not cost a think and we exercise our face muscles! Let´s do it!

Comment by Carla María

October 24, 2007 @ 11:20 pm

I think it is a well natured confidence and self-esteem. Women who know who they are and what they want are the best companions. They are not clingy nor needy two things that always push men away.

Comment by Amy

October 24, 2007 @ 11:23 pm

hi, that is an age-old question that can have numerous questions but i think for a relationship to initiate and work is knowing that the men need to be loved and appreciated too which inevitably goes with knowing oneself and apreciating the good or positive in oneself.

Comment by Kathy Bierman

October 24, 2007 @ 11:24 pm

Confidence, for the most part: walking tall and being confident is huge. Oh, and actually being, not playing, hard to get. Confidence, being choosey — it’s all part of the same thing.

Comment by Michelle

October 24, 2007 @ 11:25 pm

I believe self confidence is the most attractive quality men look for in a woman. A woman who is self confident will most likely have interests outside the relationship and not be needy and depend on the relationship or the man to make her happy.

Comment by RoseMary Pierce

October 24, 2007 @ 11:28 pm

I think men are attracted to friendly women because they can approach them without being rejected.

Comment by Pat

October 24, 2007 @ 11:28 pm

The single most attractive quality that men admire is self confidence and dignity.

Comment by Rashnu

October 24, 2007 @ 11:30 pm

Men are basically interested in sex. So they look for anything that turns them on, which can vary according to the person. For most it is some physical trait in the outward appearance. It can be the face, the look or the eyes, or the overall shape of the nody, or only the tits or the bum, or even the clothes. For some it is not something which can be seen be the eyes, not the appearance, but something that can be felt inside. Then it takes the form of a gut feeling of connectedness that is hard to define. Sometimes you meet somebody and you feel a click, a certain rapport, like you are tuned to the same wavelength.
And finally for some (who are more auditory then visually oriented) it is the sound of the voice.

For a lasting relationship there are other qualities, you need to get along mentally with each other, but the first thing that matters is always: does this woman turn me on sexually or not?

Comment by Deidre Matthews

October 24, 2007 @ 11:32 pm

Just like a lot of other people, I think the answer to your question is confidence–which translates into an ability to flirt and have fun. It seems like men want to awaken to their own sense of fun–to their own feelings, really–and they delight in a woman who can help them do that.

Comment by Sheryl

October 24, 2007 @ 11:50 pm

I think Maturity. Guys look for matured girls, who are independent and can hendle themselves without feeling the need to cling on their man.

Comment by Helen

October 24, 2007 @ 11:50 pm

Men look at a womans personality – she must be fun have a sense of humour and be able to laugh at his jokes. He wants some one who enjoys the things he likes. Men also like women that take care of themselves – smart (not necessarily posh) appearance and healthy – after all she is going to be the mother of his offspring someday.

Comment by Amin Paniwala

October 24, 2007 @ 11:51 pm

The Girl who I can winover (i don’t mind if she wins me over)

Comment by Deanna Whorton

October 24, 2007 @ 11:56 pm

One word, CONFIDENCE!

Comment by Nic

October 24, 2007 @ 11:58 pm

I think a woman that is approachable is the quality men look for the most!

Comment by sIMONE mOORELAND

October 24, 2007 @ 11:59 pm

Guys love it when a woman is confident, b/c it shows that they are secure, won’t be too clingy and will go after what they want. They know that we are not afraid to leave them and get a better man when they act a fool, so these are the women they want to hold on to.

Comment by Jessica

October 24, 2007 @ 11:59 pm

Depending on the end result of the relationship that can be anything between a fling, a one night stand and a woman for keeps, a man can want a range of things from a woman depending on the situation.

For a woman for keeps, a man always looks for a woman with worthy character.

Men are proud of wonen who their friends will admire and adore and at the same time a woman who will hold his (ego)respect in high esteem and not cause him glaring embarassments.

Comment by sharon

October 25, 2007 @ 12:05 am

When determining if she is “the one” it is that special someone who will allow him to fulfill his purpose at his core. The packaging is secondary.She will be his friend, his lover, his support etc.

Comment by shelly

October 25, 2007 @ 12:06 am

Self confidence with a smile…..

Comment by Bev Morry

October 25, 2007 @ 12:07 am

Men find women they can help attractive.

When a man does something for a woman and she visibly appreciates it, he finds her attractive. Men naturally want to “fix” things–so if a woman provides opportunities for them to use their “fixing” skills, they are attracted to her because she makes them feel like a competent successful man!

Comment by diane

October 25, 2007 @ 12:09 am

Men don’t like any drama – they want attractive, confidence and NO DRAMA – they can’t stand emotional problems.

Comment by KB

October 25, 2007 @ 12:09 am

Men are looking for a woman with a strong sense of self! One that is not going to be needy and is independent!

Comment by Kristi

October 25, 2007 @ 12:12 am

A woman who already has her own life and is confident in that life. They want to be wanted, not needed in a clingy type of way. Someone who will give them room to breath, live and just be and who also wants that.

Comment by Janice

October 25, 2007 @ 12:14 am

Emotional Stability
Men want a women who has control over her emotions being that men are not the same we can find they relate better with women who have good control over their own emotions. Having this emotional stability translates into us being more confident and sel assured in our day to day interactions.

Comment by Jessica

October 25, 2007 @ 12:26 am

What all men need is a woman who trusts him completely. Period.
This is the greatest need men have from a woman to feel self worth and respect, and it is the most rare comodity in a man-woman relationship.

Comment by Ria

October 25, 2007 @ 12:27 am

The single most attractive quality that guys look for in a woman is a warm smile! at least thats what i think….its the smile and the eyes.

Comment by Cris

October 25, 2007 @ 12:29 am

Men can be quite unpredictable, and that’s why in many cases there is a difference between what one may deem as a quality and what another would. However, on a more general level, men are attracted to the confidence of a woman. By confidence, I am referring to her ability to look good, know how to have fun, be a happy spirit, know how to be herself, smile and know what she wants from life.

Comment by Kathy

October 25, 2007 @ 12:30 am

From my experience, men love a woman (and it doesn’t matter what size or age) but, love themselves. They exude happiness, sexiness and a confidence in their bodies and minds.

Comment by Marli

October 25, 2007 @ 12:34 am

The ultimate most attractive quality that a man seeks in a woman I believe is the confidence in herself to be herself. Only you can make yourself happy & that kind of true happiness attracts “like bears to honey”. Sure, physical atributes (& making the most of them) is definitely the initial attraction, but there is nothing like the aura of a confident female!

Comment by theresa

October 25, 2007 @ 12:34 am

a woman who can make a man feel like a man

Comment by Melinda Bermingham

October 25, 2007 @ 12:37 am

The most irresistable quality a man looks for in a woman is…SELF-ESTEEM. To be happy with who you are and take care of yourself. If you feel good, you look good. A man likes a woman that is comfortable in her own skin.

Comment by Sylvie

October 25, 2007 @ 12:38 am

Confidence is the what all men look for in a woman. I have learnt over the years that no matter how pretty you are,if you dont have the confidence not only to face up to the world but to face men, without being pretentious you will sit in that lonely corner for a very long time. Confidence is definitely the most attractive quality that a man looks for in a woman, there is no two ways about it.

Comment by Lola

October 25, 2007 @ 12:40 am

Happiness and making him feel good when he is with her.

Comment by Jane

October 25, 2007 @ 12:40 am

I think the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is Self Confidence, because with Self Confidence it answers mostly everything, the woman knows what she wants, she is happy has a smiling face and a good sense of humour.

Comment by Ally

October 25, 2007 @ 12:41 am

The single most attractive quality of all is dignity. At least when it comes to attracting the desirable and put-together man most women dream of. A woman who puts her own well-being and what she believes in over pleasing a man is bound to attract one who will appreciate her and want to give her the respect and love she knows she deserves.

Comment by Jen

October 25, 2007 @ 12:45 am

Self-confidence! Absolutely the best quality when it comes to men because if you believe in yourself and your innate goodness, others will too.

Comment by Passant

October 25, 2007 @ 12:48 am

i think how she views herself and self-confidence coz if she treats herself well he will be attracted to her and want to treat her better and as long as thats present, he will see her attractive even if she doesnt have a lovely body or hair or rich

Comment by Ethel Mawango

October 25, 2007 @ 12:49 am

Appriciation ,men needs a feeling that there is a woman somewhere who is concern with them, men are not looking for just things like sex from their sponses but the greatest wish is to be appreciated in whatever they do, those little words thankyou and i am proud for you are enough to make every man release their everything.

Comment by Faith

October 25, 2007 @ 12:51 am

the most single attractive quality in woman is the fear of God. This brings first the innersmost beauty from the heart and finally the physical beauty which makes you to have confidence that you will get the man you want in your life.

Comment by Denise

October 25, 2007 @ 12:54 am

My answer would be confidence and intelligence. A man wants to know that a woman feels good about herself and can handle different situations without all the “drama.” They are basically lazy when it comes to relationships and if the woman is independent and confident, he won’t feel like she’s a clinging vine.

Comment by pam

October 25, 2007 @ 1:01 am

I believe that men look for someone like their mother. Ifd there mom worked they think women should work and not be home raising kids and if their mom was a stay at home mom they will look for someone to be that for them. Thats what happened in my marriage. My exs mom worked and mine stayed home so even though he agreed I should stay home to raise our kids, he secretly believed that I wasnt worth anything unless I worked for a paycheck and eventually left for a 25 year old. Pam

Comment by April

October 25, 2007 @ 1:02 am

In my opinion, confidence, intelligence, and a spirit of independence in combination with a great smile is the single most attractive quality. I know I listed 4 things but they are all inextricably linked together!

Comment by cynthia

October 25, 2007 @ 1:04 am

Honesty,cause with this the rest falls into line.

Comment by Tammy

October 25, 2007 @ 1:07 am

I think men are attracted to women who are confident in themselves. I think they see a lack of confidence as women being needy which requires more effort on their part

Comment by Connie Weyh

October 25, 2007 @ 1:09 am

The first thing that comes to mind is confidence.

Comment by Maryna

October 25, 2007 @ 1:09 am

I think most important for man is to be loved and trusted by woman

Comment by Asoka

October 25, 2007 @ 1:10 am

Well, it is the look which will attract a man and the rest of the qualities confidence, sense of humar, independance etc. etc. will make a relationship. But the most important thing is THE LOOK. First your eyes will take the decision and the heart and brain comes second

Comment by Julia

October 25, 2007 @ 1:15 am

Confidence!
He will never believe in you if you don’t. Simple is that.

Comment by Nereyda

October 25, 2007 @ 1:17 am

I think is Honesty and Selfconfidence, In my opinion man are afraid of failure, they afraid to find someone and that the relationship fails, that is why they look for Honesty

Nereyda
nnairac1972@yahoo.com

Comment by Debby Shogos

October 25, 2007 @ 1:20 am

The most Attractive Quality that a man wants in a woman is having a God-Fearing Heart. A woman can have self-confidence and other qualities, but if she doesn’t have a God-Fearing Heart, then the other qualities are nothing. Having a God-Fearing Heart which is the most important one qualifies a woman to other minor qualities in her life.

Comment by Donna

October 25, 2007 @ 1:20 am

I think men are looking for a woman who is fun and makes them feel good.

Comment by TERESA

October 25, 2007 @ 1:24 am

P E R S O N A L I T Y…!!!!SOMEONE WHO IS FUN AND KNOWS HOW TO LAUGH ALL THE TIME.
I MET SOMEONE WONDERFUL AND WE ARE GETTING MARRIED THIS WEEK.
WE HAVE SO MUCH FUN AND HE SAIDS TIME GOES FAST WHEN WE ARE TOGETHER.

Comment by asteinbring

October 25, 2007 @ 1:26 am

Confidence with a softer side. There is nothing sexier to a man than a woman who believes in herself but they also need to feel strong and be able to help. We get so caught up in our independence that we sometimes take away a mans feeling of being the “man”. Let them lead once in a while. It goes a long way.

Comment by Chrisa

October 25, 2007 @ 1:28 am

I believe men want women to be committed in a relationship and independent at the same time. Ladies with their unique personality, aims, goals, passionate with their life, interesting values, career development, and generous to men as well. In few words, a woman is first good for herself feeling valued, and then for a man.

xxx

Comment by Lori

October 25, 2007 @ 1:28 am

As I appraoch my 30’s I feel that men are looking for qualities they might not have in my 20’s. The men I meet today seem to be over their “BIMBO” stage and although they are still attracted to females who are attractive and take care of themselves, I think they look most for Compatibility and A Great Sense of Humor..Someone who is comfortable in her own skin and can laugh at herself as well as humorus situations!

Comment by Maxine

October 25, 2007 @ 1:29 am

Women have a lot of features which attract men but i think the one which stands out the most is when a woman is real not only with men but with herself. When a woman has reached this place no matter who she is, it will reflect on the outside and men realise this even by looking at woman in a crowded area!!
But anyway this is just my opinion!

Comment by Pam

October 25, 2007 @ 1:34 am

Men like a woman with sincere confidence who is at peace with herself and the world. She attracts men like a magnet.
(I speak from experience:-)

Viva la sisterhood!

Comment by Lisa Hitt

October 25, 2007 @ 1:35 am

I believe the single most attractive quality that men
look for in a woman is a sense of humor.

One of the best qualities ANYONE can have is the ability to make someone laugh, and to be able to laugh at yourself. If there is laughter present you can be sure the relationship will be a healthy one.

Comment by Jill

October 25, 2007 @ 1:36 am

PLAYERS look for availability
STAYERS look for confidence – someone they can introduce to their Mother (or Children) and know that they have the brains to handle any situation that might arise.

Comment by Ulla H

October 25, 2007 @ 1:39 am

He is attracted to her eyes and the feelings that she sends out, not to her outer appearance, or clothes, or make up.

It is inner quality and the magnetic energy that surround some women. He can’t resist this, they are caught.

Comment by Karin

October 25, 2007 @ 1:43 am

Confidence

Comment by Phylliss

October 25, 2007 @ 1:45 am

A man finds a woman attractive who makes him feel good about himself.

Comment by Chantelle

October 25, 2007 @ 1:56 am

CONFIDENCE!!! A confident woman who loves herself, does not take herself too seriously, SMILES and laughs, men find that IRRESISTABLE!! Men love this because they know that they will not be held responsible for her happiness and that she is most likely confident because she her own interests (other than only him) to keep her busy and not hanging off him and wanting him to keep her entertained.

Comment by Maggie

October 25, 2007 @ 1:58 am

Create a challenge……

Men are instinctively hunters, so if you are too easy, no matter what confidence, smile, personality or body, unless you are elusive, unavailable and challenging, men will not be interested.

Comment by S. R.

October 25, 2007 @ 2:01 am

A single most attractive quality to attract a man is difficult to pinpoint. Every man has a different idea of what they find to be the single most attractive quality that brings a woman to their attention. I believe a universal quality, if this is even a quality, is the VIBE a woman puts off. The VIBE is a whole bunch of qualities, via her body language, that will pique a man’s interest. The VIBE speaks loudly, even though it’s communicated non-verbally. It’s all about perception.

Comment by Annais

October 25, 2007 @ 2:02 am

a woman who has no expectation,who live in the moment ,whith a witty mind,and happy smilling eyes,

Comment by Sarah

October 25, 2007 @ 2:04 am

Her smile.

Because a smile lets him feel she is pleased with him.

Comment by Julie

October 25, 2007 @ 2:05 am

I feel that confidence is the appropriate word.When a woman is confident she doesn’t need to prove herself to anyone and therefore smiles a lot.She can flirt and converse with men and know that she is enough!

Comment by Jessica Storr-Hoggins

October 25, 2007 @ 2:05 am

Acceptance – a mans needs to feel that you ‘like him’ and ‘trust him’ no matter what….

Comment by SarahBoykinSmithey

October 25, 2007 @ 2:06 am

Men seem to come to women who are PRESENT. They want someone who is approachable, someone who is aware of and responding to others and the world around her. They, same as we women, like someone who is LIVING her life

Comment by Rosylee

October 25, 2007 @ 2:08 am

Women who are drama free. Being positive, upbeat and not gossiping about others.

Comment by Sugar

October 25, 2007 @ 2:14 am

Spontaneity is the single most attractive quality a man looks for in a woman. This is a woman that is unpredictable in a positive way and offers a challenge to her partner. She keeps him on his toes in trying to keep her happy. She knows how to exercise creative ways in responding to the needs of her partner. This adds excitement and reward to the chase. A boring monotonous relationship eventually repels your partner as the attraction is slowly lost.

Comment by Karen

October 25, 2007 @ 2:17 am

It’s got to be a woman’s smiles, or her laughter. Her happiness will be so infectious and it’s going to rub off the guy, letting him know that he’s going to have a great time with this woman. Nobody wants to be with someone who’s moddy, depressed and literally cries all the time I suppose.

Laughter (genuine laughter of course ) translates into confidence, another great asset which a woman should have, because that means she has the ability to handle situations well as well as keep her emotions in check. I suppose men would find that very sexy, and would love to grow together with such a lovely woman.

Well, I’m learning along the way too, and I do wish everyone here finds the happiness that he / she desires!

Cheers everyone!

Comment by Love Daniel

October 25, 2007 @ 2:18 am

Her attitude & being positive, cos when a woman’s attitude speaks good, men will be entice to it.

Love Daniel.

Comment by Dawn

October 25, 2007 @ 2:18 am

Well of course what first attracts a man is looks but what makes them stay…I think it varies but men like women who are easygoing. Women who don’t ask too many questions (where you going what you doing do you think she’s pretty etc) and who is confident not jealous. I could go on forever about what I believe they like & what some have told me they like but I think this stands out the most

Comment by asmita

October 25, 2007 @ 2:22 am

innocence…

Comment by joy

October 25, 2007 @ 2:29 am

SELF-CONFIDENCE!!! when a woman is confident about herself, she expresses the feeling without realizing that, even herself! men want a woman who is confident, respects herself, and NOT a woman who is crying and telling everyone how stupid and ugly she is!
CONFIDENCE is the best answer!

Love, Joy!

Comment by Tracy Spring

October 25, 2007 @ 2:30 am

Confidence in a woman makes her look most attractive.

Comment by Scholar

October 25, 2007 @ 2:31 am

i think what men look for in a her woman is character and personality it really captures their eye.

Comment by Shannon

October 25, 2007 @ 2:35 am

Hmm…I’m going to go with being selective with the guys we choose to share our time with, and not wasting said time trying to win their approval. For me, practicing selectivity has everything to do with how I feel about myself, and putting myself first, and instead of sitting around focusing on the outcome with the guy I’m dating,I’m keeping in line with my own wants and needs.
I think it shows self respect and resiliency.That he’ll have to demonstrate his attributes, and prove he’s boyfriend material. Not me pulling out all the stops to “win” him over and choose me.

Comment by Linda

October 25, 2007 @ 2:36 am

I think men respect a woman who is trustworthy.
They would know they can trust that woman with everything.

Comment by Concetta

October 25, 2007 @ 2:37 am

A woman who is real, passionate, honest and trustworthy, knows who she is, is happy within herself and exudes love,confidence and nurturing qualities. She becomes a magnet making him comfortable and at ease with whom he is. She is easy to talk to — no
artificiality or head games.

Concetta

Comment by gina

October 25, 2007 @ 2:41 am

men want a woman who looks good, is good in bed and is loyal and honest.

Comment by Melissa

October 25, 2007 @ 2:43 am

The one thing that I think men are attracted to the most is confidence. Men want a woman who is confident in herself so they dont always have to try boosting her confidence for her. They want a woman that knows what she wants in life and isnt afraid to go after it. A woman who is comfortable with herself and looks.

Comment by oneta bibbs

October 25, 2007 @ 2:43 am

I know, I know, confidence.

Comment by Edyta

October 25, 2007 @ 2:48 am

Hmm… I think that the most desired (by men) quality in a woman would be her feminine personality… Why? Because it “contains” everything what a man is looking for in a woman and life – something opposite to him, something complementing him – her warmth, caring, vulnerability, feelings…

Comment by Penny

October 25, 2007 @ 2:48 am

I don’t think there is a single most thing that attracts a man to a woman, but I believe a man is looking for a woman who is witty, self confident, and who can light up a room when she appears, if she is beautiful that’s an added. He likes the admiration of all the other guys.

Comment by Leo Esther

October 25, 2007 @ 2:58 am

1. Sincerity

Men like woman with sincere confidence, and woman that gives respect to herself

Comment by Karen Kruebbe

October 25, 2007 @ 3:02 am

Self confidence is the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman.

Comment by Katie

October 25, 2007 @ 3:05 am

If there is only ONE choice…I would say a woman who is fun to be with in a positive way. Like she smiles, has a good sense of humor, not necessarily that she’s “wild” or anything like that. A woman who creates an environment that allows him to relax, be himself, and open up without fear of criticism or reprisal.

Comment by Denise

October 25, 2007 @ 3:11 am

How a female carries herself. The way she treats others, positive outlook. Smile

Comment by Deborah Moss

October 25, 2007 @ 3:20 am

She Loves “Herself”… (confidence)

Comment by Bethany

October 25, 2007 @ 3:23 am

CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE!
There is no substitute for confidence. When a woman walks in and knows her own value, no-one can compete with her. It doesn’t matter if she looks like a supermodel or the girl next door, if she is confident in herself, men are drawn to her. In my experience, men are not attracted to someone who is constantly looking for validation, fishing for compliments, or looking in the mirror to make sure they look good.
The only person who can give you those things is yourself, so take a second, tell YOURSELF that you are amazing, open the door and OWN THE ROOM!

Comment by Diane

October 25, 2007 @ 3:31 am

Without a doubt, it’s having confidence in yourself. Self confidence is apparent in the way you act and in the things you say about yourself and others. It shows that you are comfortable with who YOU are and that’s what counts.

Comment by Silvia

October 25, 2007 @ 3:41 am

I believe that a man finds CONFIDENCE most attractive.

When a woman is confident, she shows that she is capable of loving herself as well as others and doesn’t need to be strikingly beautiful to capture the attention of men.

Comment by Michaele Dean

October 25, 2007 @ 3:45 am

I think confidence is what attracts a man and keeps him. Confidence in all you do.
If you are not confident what is there.

Comment by Tina

October 25, 2007 @ 3:51 am

Someone like Mom – weather they realize it or not, most men are looking for someone that resembles there Mom, weather it be cooking abilities, cleaning, looks, something resembles dear old Mom.

Comment by jerrah nalwenga

October 25, 2007 @ 3:53 am

i think men like women who are self confident,indepedent, open, nature and those who give them respect.

Comment by Ani

October 25, 2007 @ 3:59 am

Self confidence… because men like a challenge

AND

A woman that makes him feel good.

Comment by AMANDA R

October 25, 2007 @ 4:01 am

I think a man looks for Confidence, with a touch of sassy, a women that stands on her own 2 feet.

Comment by Sheryl

October 25, 2007 @ 4:01 am

The single most attractive quality in a woman is self-confidence. A woman who exudes self confidence is like an attraction magnet. A self confident woman takes care of herself, knows her own worth, and is able to be who she is. A self confident woman lives her life with intensity and passion, which overflows into every part of her life. A self confident woman is happy, fun to be with, and shows it with every nuance from the way she dresses, how she carries herself, through her conversations, to how she interacts with other people. A A self confident woman is able to allow others to be who they are as her image is not predicated on another. A self confident woman’s empowerment is in being herself which is a freedom that encourages others to do the same. How free it is to be who you are and accepted for who you are.

Comment by Leslie

October 25, 2007 @ 4:03 am

I believe the single most element a man is attracted to is “self-confidence” Women who are not sure who they are, or not able to express themselves become doormats. Love your program, thanks !

Comment by Angel

October 25, 2007 @ 4:05 am

Confidence with a Smile!

Comment by jean patrick

October 25, 2007 @ 4:10 am

CONFIDENCE AND EMOTIONAL AVAILABILITY…!!!

Comment by Heather

October 25, 2007 @ 4:13 am

In my opinion I think that the single quality most admired by men is independence. Not independence so much in terms of financial matters because there are many men who are intimidated by a financially independent womean but more in terms of your dependence on them in an emotional way. Men like women who can deal with their emotional issues without having to always be there for you.

Comment by Kelley

October 25, 2007 @ 4:14 am

The single most positive quality would be confidence. A person who is only average looking can come across as much more attractive if they are emanating an air of positive self-assurance without being arrogant. Couple this with a great sense of humor and you have a winning combination. Of course more caring and compassion for people and less critisism goes an awful long way as well, but truly confident people don’t need to be critical of others.

Comment by Mary James

October 25, 2007 @ 4:14 am

I think the single most attractive quality men look for is approachability because no matter how confident they appear, they are just as afraid of rejection as we women are.

Comment by Ruby

October 25, 2007 @ 4:19 am

Most of the recent studies I’ve read said that men are still most attracted to looks, but I’ll bet Amy’s not going to tell you that! After that, I’d have to say a woman who is trustworthy and honest. Men want a woman they can depend on, and one who will be faithful.

Comment by Novlene

October 25, 2007 @ 4:19 am

The most attractive quality in a woman that a guy go for is her smile,her confidence and the way she carries herself. Her sense of humor and all so her personality.

Comment by Susan

October 25, 2007 @ 4:23 am

Confidence, independence, and a brain she knows how to use….most men I know and meet, love a woman who can look polished and poised, and who portraits her confidence in her smile and attitude, no matter where she’s at or who’s she’s meeting.

Comment by Christy

October 25, 2007 @ 4:40 am

I think the most attractive quality a man looks for in a woman is a sense of self. If a woman knows herself & likes herself, (or a man for that matter) she is more likely to be able to have a satisfying & fulfilling relationship.

Comment by Kimberly

October 25, 2007 @ 4:41 am

I believe that men admire a woman who is happy and confident.When you are like this you send out and people see in you a glow.If your happy and laughing people want to be with you.

Comment by Pam

October 25, 2007 @ 4:48 am

Self confidence is definitely most attractive quality in a woman.

Comment by Annette

October 25, 2007 @ 4:49 am

Confidence – everything thing else that’s attractive comes along with it – the smile, the sparkle, the happy attitude, the positive carriage and body-language – it all falls into place if a woman has confidence!

Comment by Queenofthewest

October 25, 2007 @ 4:49 am

A positive, kind attitude. This is the type of woman a man can stay with for life.

Comment by kristinap

October 25, 2007 @ 4:49 am

A man looks for a woman who makes him feel good.

Let him make you laugh, look feminine and sexy yet act with grace, and accept his efforts, compliments and gifts with gratitude. Men also want to be respected, looked up to, and trusted.

If you can sincerely give him all these things, he will cherish you endlessly because you know how to make him feel like a winner in your eyes.

Comment by Alison

October 25, 2007 @ 4:52 am

I think men look for energy in a woman. Being energetic makes a woman sexy, inviting, fun to be with, playful, and naturally beautiful. Being around high-energy people has an energizing effect on the people around them. In my experience, high-energy people have an oddly calming effect on people who need a boost or people who need healing – physical or emotional. I think everyone is attracted to high-energy people!

Comment by Tanisha

October 25, 2007 @ 4:53 am

Men look for women with a sense of humor. If you have a sense of humor, it says alot more about your personality.

Comment by shalynn

October 25, 2007 @ 4:55 am

its got to be a woman who loves herself enough and lets it show naturally in the way she carries herself. Its how she makes a man feel when he’s around her. its not how beautiful or outspoken or softspoken she is. If she makes the man feel like a king whenever she’s with him or really appreciates the little things he does it will make him feel appreciated and want to give more. it will make him feel special and important in a way that others may have not made him feel. that makes him want to be more with a woman

Comment by ma. elinore salazar

October 25, 2007 @ 5:09 am

a beautiful and loving woman with self-confidence is the most attractive quality to attract a man. a woman who knows what she really wants in life, because a man wants a woman who is sure of herself.

Comment by Bobbi P

October 25, 2007 @ 5:23 am

I think men find a sense of humor most attractive. A woman that can make a man laugh and laughs a lot herself, makes a man feel good about himself. I believe that is what people want in a partner. Someone who makes them feel good about themselves. We all want that.

Comment by David Lucas

October 25, 2007 @ 5:33 am

Let’s give the guys comment. What do I as a man look for in a woman. A few things:

Physical Attractiveness.

She doesn’t have to be a bikini model, but should put some effort into her body.

I must connect with her and be able to share my soul with her.

She must have a mind of her own, but be easy to get along with. Power Chicks are out! No man wants to be bossed around by his woman. The same goes visa-versa.

She must be my best friend.

BTW: I have all these qualities in my wife of 5 years.

Comment by Francine

October 25, 2007 @ 5:45 am

Self-Confidence and joy of life.

Comment by kristy

October 25, 2007 @ 5:53 am

I think the most important thing for a man to find in a woman is complete loyalty. He want his woman to make him feel good about himself and love him unconditionaly. He wants to know that he will be able to trust his woman completly.

Comment by Jill

October 25, 2007 @ 5:53 am

Confidence all the way.
These days so many of us meet via remote means – be it email, internet dating or referrals, but this does mean our first contact with a man is often not in person so there may be no physical attraction unless a photograph is included (as in internet dating). Whether we speak by phone, email or MSN we can still project confidence and our own self-esteem, although at times via email or MSN it is also easy to put forward an arrogant attitude without intending to. Being confident and honest seems to attract more men who are looking for a real relationship rather than the initial attraction they may be drawn to in a pretty picture or a voluptuous body.

Comment by Linda Harrison

October 25, 2007 @ 6:06 am

I think the single most interesting quality a woman a can posess is her ability to communicate because using this quality she can show empathy, compassion, knowledge, warmth, strength, love, friendship, truth, and attractiveness. She can be herself or someone else, she can make you want to know more, to be the “go to” person that makes you look within yourself or to others. She can have all the answers but yet let you make your own decision. She can stand in front of you, be next to you, or behind you 100%, but she will always for you. She is your mother, your friend, your sister or aunt, your confidant, or maybe just that very special woman.

Comment by Saima

October 25, 2007 @ 6:06 am

There is NOTHING more beautiful on a woman than CONFIDENCE!!! Only when a woman is happy with who she is will she be able to enjoy the company of others. A woman who isn’t confident with herself is too busy worrying about too many things to notice the wonderful man acroos from her.

Comment by Barbara D

October 25, 2007 @ 6:11 am

The most single thing men look for in a woman is confidence because it lets him know she is a true or real woman.

Comment by Jacqueline

October 25, 2007 @ 6:37 am

What about the personality that completes him and brings the best out of him?

Comment by Heather

October 25, 2007 @ 6:42 am

A man looks for a woman who is easy going and APPROACHABLE.

Comment by Cathy

October 25, 2007 @ 6:44 am

I believe the single most attractive quality a woman can have is self confidence, this exudes sexiness and appeal.

Comment by Sandy

October 25, 2007 @ 6:45 am

I believe the single most attractive quality is self confidence. Why? Well, I think the answer speaks for itself.

Comment by Maria

October 25, 2007 @ 6:49 am

What is the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman would be her smile because that makes her easy going and full of life. Men want a women who can enjoy life.

Comment by sharon

October 25, 2007 @ 6:51 am

Confidence would be it! IF she is confident then he will be drawn to her and also treat her the way she wants to be treated.

Comment by Louise

October 25, 2007 @ 7:13 am

The single most attractive quality to attract a man is a woman’s ability and willingness to focus on the man; in other words to pay attention to him and be sincere about it. He will know sincere and he will be immediately drawn to that woman. What develops next depends on a lot of things but that attention makes him feel good, no great! and he’ll want to recapture the feeling over and over.

Comment by Gail

October 25, 2007 @ 7:20 am

Hi,

I think the single most attrative quality that men look for in a woman is her absolute personality … which contains that caring; understanding; able to compromise at the oddest situation; respect for herself and others;honesty; loyalty and the sincerity of her love for him.

Comment by Desiree

October 25, 2007 @ 7:26 am

I think the single most attractive quality that men look for is friendship in a relationship.

Comment by Ella

October 25, 2007 @ 7:27 am

I believe confidence is the single most attractive quality men seek in a woman. A confident woman loves who she is no matter her flaws. She is always her authentic self which radiates true inner and outer beauty. She can develop emotional intimacy with a man without drama. She accepts people as they are, she loves deeply, honestly, unconditionally. She understands her uniqueness and her own personal boundaries and this shows in her smile, in her positive attitude to life, all of which she delivers with true feminine grace.

Comment by sharon

October 25, 2007 @ 7:30 am

Hi,

Well alot of you girls have mentioned about confidence and i think that is true, but they also like mystery and a strong personality. someone that they can have fun with.

Comment by Robin

October 25, 2007 @ 7:30 am

Confidence- In my experience they just kinda talk to you different than other girls and they have this look like they are trying to figure out why you are different.

Comment by Jane

October 25, 2007 @ 7:30 am

Without a doubt its Emotional Fitness

why?

Emotional Fitness includes having self confidence, independence, a good intellect, control of all emotions and being ‘cool’ by showing a playful, slightly ‘cocky’ flirtatious personality

Believe me Emotional Fitness can send a guy into a frenzy if hes ‘into’ a woman by creating an intellectual attraction that all men secretly want in a partner

Comment by Tamara

October 25, 2007 @ 7:37 am

I think men look for authenticity. A woman who is not afraid to be herself and share herself flaws and all.

Comment by Julie

October 25, 2007 @ 7:42 am

This question is easy. Passion. The most important thing a woman can have – why? Because it means she goes about each day with gusto, tackles hurdles and issues head-on in normal life (yet remaining graceful, feminine and not bossy to her man), and ideally approaches him with the same zest for life (yes physically too), resulting in great friendship/closeness. A woman doesn’t have to be the most attractive person in order to be the most attractive to a man. It is her persona, her personality and her attitude. Yes, passion is similar to confidence, but nobody expects nor should want total confidence all the time. A relationship should be able to deepen and open up about insecurities and be able to share with each other. She doesn’t need to be the most intelligent person, or the most beautiful, but to be in tune with herself and to project positively to the world. A man is attracted to this happiness and vivacity, much more so than a beautiful but lost needy woman.

Comment by Zama Mbatha

October 25, 2007 @ 7:56 am

i think men want a woman who doesn’t have much baggage,a woman who has evolved beyond her emotional insecurities which would translate into high maintainance behavioural tendencies.they want a woman who can intellectually be on par with them almost an iron sharpening iron situation,they love it if she wont fall apart at every whim but she is vulnerable enough to require their strong shoulders from time to time.she’s confident enough to face life without being clingy but she considers him the strength to her beauty.she can breathe without him but she doesnt want to live without him.she can relate to his masculinity and still smell like a flower excuding pure femininity.

Comment by Chelsea

October 25, 2007 @ 8:03 am

I think that men are attracted to women that can make men feel good about themselves. Everyone likes to feel needed and useful.

Comment by Terri

October 25, 2007 @ 8:06 am

Being INDEPENDENT………this is the one quality men really look for.

Comment by Cheryl Burdick

October 25, 2007 @ 8:07 am

confidence

Comment by Paula

October 25, 2007 @ 8:08 am

I believe a man is most attracted to someone who exudes warmth; a warm smile, a warm heart, a person who is happy. Confidence goes a long way but you can exude all the confidence and be self-assured however, you must be happy first.

Comment by nikki

October 25, 2007 @ 8:19 am

I think men are looking for a woman who is a lady who they can be happy with at home and also interduce to family they want a good girl, but a freak in bed just like the song

Comment by Gis

October 25, 2007 @ 8:27 am

Innocence, because it gives the man the feeling of simplicity and the sensation of being harmless and inoffensive. No threats.

Comment by kirsten

October 25, 2007 @ 8:31 am

Confidence in herself & self esteem.

Comment by Angelique

October 25, 2007 @ 8:35 am

CONFIDENCE

Comment by Rima

October 25, 2007 @ 8:39 am

Smile! is the most attractive single thing in any woman.

Comment by Kerry Gray

October 25, 2007 @ 8:50 am

Confidance — the single most important quality men look for in a woman. This is because it is the single most important way to get across to a man that she does not “need” him or “need” a relationship; she is content within herself.

Comment by daphne

October 25, 2007 @ 9:04 am

A woman who likes herself, self assuredness. How is he going to like and respect you if you don’t. And liking yourself does not mean bragging, for those women who have to brag, they are covering up insecurities.

Comment by Ginette Lacelle

October 25, 2007 @ 9:12 am

It is most definitely the way a woman makes them feel.

Comment by noras

October 25, 2007 @ 9:16 am

You should ask MEN themselves! This is the question only men should answer:) I bet all men will get a different answer….

Comment by Denise

October 25, 2007 @ 9:16 am

The person is perceived as a “whole” and not as single body parts or attributs.

That’s true for both men & women!

Therefore, if there is a congruency in what a woman really feels, how she acts and what she said, she reflects a powerful attraction that is the result of the harmony between her inner self and her physical appearance.

This will differentiate her from all other women and make her “unique” for a man that will be ready for anything to get this “master piece” and keep her exclusively for himself.

So, being natural, genuine, positive, self-confident, at ease with herself, healthy, perfect from inside and outide, and trustful, constitutes a special blend that renders a woman “very special”, “unique” and “fatally” attractive…

An optimal balance between IQ (Intelligence Quotient), EQ (Emotional Quotient), and SQ (Sexual Quotient) …

“The woman” that every man wants…and keeps for ever

Comment by Jenny

October 25, 2007 @ 9:32 am

It seems to me that the most attractive qualities in women to men is happiness, self confidence and feminine softness.

Comment by Esther

October 25, 2007 @ 9:42 am

The most attractive quality in a woman is her self confidence and her being herself to the very end no matter what

Comment by Lynne

October 25, 2007 @ 9:48 am

I am torn between being genuine and self-confidence. They both show in a woman’s smile, her sensuality, vulnerability, sincerity, how she carries herself, talks and so much more. Neither can be manufactured and both are virtually always evident in everything we do.

Comment by Jennifer

October 25, 2007 @ 9:51 am

I believe the single most attractive quality for either sex is self confidence. No one, male or female wants to be around someone who is so self lacking in confidence that they suck all the air out of the room.

Comment by Faith

October 25, 2007 @ 9:51 am

I think men consider the single most attractive quality they look for in a woman is SELF-WORTH. In relationships, we act as mirrors of one another. The way a woman sees herself as worthy of self-respect and self-love, will be reflected in the way she sees the man, and behaves around him. A man who is in balance with himself will be able to pick up on it, and feel it within himself, too. It’s not a separate feeling.

Comment by Maryse

October 25, 2007 @ 9:54 am

Men love women who have self-confidence and do not rely on men to be happy. They want to be around a happy person who won’t cling on them but who has her own life and wants to share it with them.

Comment by Kathy

October 25, 2007 @ 9:58 am

Love. (not attraction)
A loving person is emotionally well balanced, content with herself and her life, and shines of happiness. This person has “time” to be compassionate and wish others to be happy.

Comment by Vavaiina

October 25, 2007 @ 10:30 am

I think there is no single quality. It all depends of the woman and the man. We are all unique and different. There is no secret. Just being natural and genuine in our relationship.

All the comments about confidence come from women. And yet, there are many men who like to be around women who need them, who are not that independant, etc…

We should let men respond to this question and I am sure we will get as many answers as there are men responding.

Warm regards,

Comment by Carol

October 25, 2007 @ 10:42 am

Sincerety, being yourself, and not going out of your way to impress him. A fake persona is hard to maintain, so be yourself from Day 1. If he isn’t impressed with who you are, then accept that he isn’t the one for you. Someone else will come along who is compatible with you.

Comment by JACINTHE

October 25, 2007 @ 11:01 am

INTEGRITY! MAINTAIN INTEGRITY. WHAT WILL FOLLOW WILL BE CONFIDENCE, SELF ASSURANCE, JOY, PURE OF HEART AND THOUGHT AND JUST PURE ATTRACTIVENESS.!!

Comment by Maiy

October 25, 2007 @ 11:05 am

A positive, strong woman with a beautiful personality and that is confident and approchable. i think men like a woman’s confidence in herself the most.

Comment by Lisa

October 25, 2007 @ 11:08 am

‘What do you think is the single most attractive quality that men look for in a woman … and why?’

I think that all people need somebody, as a life partner, who will be totally genuine with them because everybody in life (I hope) wants to live a life that is true or real and not fake.

Just by being who you are and loving and being loved regardless of anything else is what I believe true love is all about, it is loving somebody as they are – irrelevant of how their physical body looks, etc which is what men I think are first attracted to in a woman.

So basically men look for ’sincerity’ because they want to live a truthful life.

Comment by Evelyn

October 25, 2007 @ 11:09 am

I think that men look for a woman who is healthy and who has the quality to be a good, nurthuring mother and be faithful and loyal to them and their children.

Comment by Pattie

October 25, 2007 @ 11:19 am

Confidence. I believe a man wants a well-balanced woman who doesn’t feel it’s his job to make her happy.

Comment by asha

October 25, 2007 @ 11:22 am

It varies and depends on the type of man, his age and his personality type. There are a few common attributes that are respected and admired.
One very popular one is humour, any man will like a funny women, she is fun to be around and a laugh. Meaning good company. Warm Regards

Comment by andi

October 25, 2007 @ 11:26 am

I think guys are attracted to cool women who are comfortable in their own skin and not overly emotional.

Comment by Christina

October 25, 2007 @ 11:58 am

I think the single most attractive quality men look for in women is their sense of humor.

Comment by naima

October 25, 2007 @ 11:58 am

look are the sonlge most attractive quality that men look for in a woman

Comment by Mimoza

October 25, 2007 @ 12:05 pm

Nothing attract man more than originality . A woman should be real and be here not acting , have self security and confidence . Have a sense of humor. Eye contact and a honest smile will do the work.

Comment by Honey Cakes

October 25, 2007 @ 12:13 pm

I think the single Most Attractive Quality in a Woman is Emotional Maturity

Comment by Sharon

October 25, 2007 @ 12:18 pm

I believe men find self confidence in a woman the most attractive quality.

Comment by Susan Matheson

October 25, 2007 @ 12:43 pm

I believe that the single most attractive quality a woman can have is confidence. I think men find this extremely sexy. This can be somewhat difficult though, because when a woman is very interested in a man she will often clam up, perhaps say stupid things and even sweat in places she never knew she had sweat glands! Confidence is definately the answer. High heels don’t hurt either!

Comment by janette

October 25, 2007 @ 12:44 pm

I agree on self confidence and to add to it is inner strength behind utmost femininity.

Comment by janette

October 25, 2007 @ 12:45 pm

Being feminine.

Comment by Jasmine

October 25, 2007 @ 12:48 pm

Self-Confidense!

Comment by Kitty

October 25, 2007 @ 1:00 pm

Personality. It will show a man if your someone he may be interested in pursuing.

Comment by Chrissie

October 25, 2007 @ 1:04 pm

I think every man is unique and thus each has their own ‘thing’ that they would qualify as the most attractive thing in a woman. But I think confidence will make a man melt every single time.

Comment by Janice

October 25, 2007 @ 1:08 pm

Confidence. Confidence looks sexy on everybody!

Comment by Monica

October 25, 2007 @ 1:17 pm

I think the number one quality a man looks for in a woman is…..a woman who has her own life…this makes her very attractive because she is not dependent on him.

Comment by Valarie

October 25, 2007 @ 1:32 pm

I think men are attracted to a positive woman with a sense of humor.

Comment by Gloria

October 25, 2007 @ 1:43 pm

Confidence: I think men see a confident woman as independent, smart, sensual, sexual. Capable to: communicate clearly, have a life of her own, be happy.

Comment by Jackie

October 25, 2007 @ 2:07 pm

Men want someone they can have fun with, inside AND outside the bedroom. They want a woman who doesn’t take things too seriously and is able to make fun of herself sometimes. They want a woman who not only actually understands and laughs at their jokes but also makes them laugh with her jokes and antics. They want a woman who is able to have fun in almost any setting with almost any person, whether she’s having a spa day with her girlfriends or cheering on his favorite football team with his buddies (even if she’s not an aficionado of football, she’s showing her support). A woman who is fun is someone who constantly keeps men on their toes and keeps the spark alive in the relationship.

Comment by flo

October 25, 2007 @ 2:13 pm

The women who accept,cherish and respect themselves and respect and care for others (no doormats pls) are more likely to have a greater attraction pull to men because they seem to be more confident and happy..

Comment by A luthra

October 25, 2007 @ 2:22 pm

A great attitude.

Comment by TAY

October 25, 2007 @ 2:34 pm

The answer has to be Confidence, hands down. A man loves a woman who is Confident, No matter what she looks like. I believe that a man or woman for that matter, finds it hard to love a person who doesn’t love themself.

Comment by Renee

October 25, 2007 @ 2:38 pm

I think the SINGLE most attractive quality that men look for in a woman is SELF CONFIDENCE. This quality brings out the other qualities at its best hence women become irresistable to men.

Comment by Kim

October 25, 2007 @ 2:48 pm

I think the single most attractive thing men look for….Confidence

Why confidence because if a woman shows confidence or acts confident then the rest flows right along with it and everything falls into place.

Comment by R

October 25, 2007 @ 3:00 pm

I think it is emotional maturity, better still with great sense of humor because then he will feel happy to be with her.

Comment by Sadiqah

October 25, 2007 @ 3:27 pm

Comment by Sadiqah

I think the quality is a nice smile.

Comment by meg

October 25, 2007 @ 3:36 pm

i think men look for in a women most is confidence in her self

Comment by Debbie

October 25, 2007 @ 3:50 pm

I belief it’s confidence

Comment by Debra

October 25, 2007 @ 3:55 pm

I believe the single most attractive quality in a woman that men look for is trustworthiness. He needs to know that he can trust her.

Comment by Lisbeny

October 25, 2007 @ 3:59 pm

I believe that what makes a woman truly attractive to a man is walking with her head high…confidence isn’t quite the word…it is simply KNOWING that she is worthy of love and affection from a quality man…it is more than being “hard-to-get”, it is knowing what she wants, and knowing how to be the woman who deserves that great man. being genuinely humorous and witty and exuding a sense of having a passion for SOMETHING is the most attractive quality. Having passion for a cause, a belief, a hobby or skill of some sort, can attract the masses.

Comment by Cathy

October 25, 2007 @ 4:05 pm

Most men are initially attracted by your appearance, which is important why you should always make the effort to look nice when meeting men. After that, you’d better have a good personality (a good smile, outgoing nature, confidence) to keep them interested.

Comment by Geleesa

October 25, 2007 @ 4:10 pm

i think the single most attractive quality ina woman that men look for is her sense of humor. it6s kinda hard getting along with a person who’s always uptight and doesnt know how to chill out and have fun.

Comment by Ann

October 25, 2007 @ 4:28 pm

I think the one thing men are want in a woman is love, I mean unwavering love. They are looking for someone who will love them the way they are. And with this kind of love you dont cling on him but wil respect him , try to understand him. In short all the other things like emotional stability, independence, confidence, and yes, looking good will come natural when you love in a mature way. I think that’s it coz no man will want a girl who will run away at the slightest provocation

Comment by Jill

October 25, 2007 @ 4:48 pm

Confidence! It is scientific, but can also be tested by us too. Women (and men) that carry themselves confidentally attract other possible mates. Ever lost a lot of weight and felt good about it? I have and it seemed that there were suddenly more guys interested. BUT I BELIEVE IT WAS THE CONFIDENCE that I gained in that short amount of time that helped…plus good confident posture that I gained from walking for exercise. However, I think being overly confident can be one of the least attractive traits. Being too consumed by yourself, appearance, and treating others as less than you may just show a person how unattractive a person can be. Plus, I think confidence says “I am alright if I don’t have someone, but if sparks happen to fly I will be fun to be around”.

Comment by Andrea

October 25, 2007 @ 5:05 pm

Self-Confidentce. Men are looking for a woman who is confident and self-assured. I believe men want partners who they can have a good time with, share similar interests with, and be themselves with. Men want a partner that they feel good about being with and is a good complement to who they are.

Comment by enid

October 25, 2007 @ 5:17 pm

I think men look for someone who is kind and respectful. If the person is kind and respectful to others, then this person will be kind and respectful to them and their family. No one wants their family treated badly.

Comment by Brooke

October 25, 2007 @ 5:33 pm

Confidence

Comment by Lindy

October 25, 2007 @ 5:45 pm

I believe that men are attracted to women that are self-assured, even if outward appearances don’t seem to warrant it. A woman that believes that she is attractive and worthy of a man’s attentions. I’ve seen it with my own eyes – a woman in a room filled with much better-looking women – who had men swarming around her, buying her drinks, jockeying to light her cigarette (yes, back in the day before smoking was banned!),while the other women watched baffled, in disbelief! What she saw when she looked in the mirror is anyone’s guess – but she believed she was attractive and, son of a gun, the guys did too!

Comment by Bet

October 25, 2007 @ 5:46 pm

the the single most attractive quality is a a woman who smiles.

Comment by Ayd

October 25, 2007 @ 5:48 pm

Men love cool girls who smile

Comment by Cecilia

October 25, 2007 @ 5:58 pm

There are many qualities i know men find attractive – yet I would think the most attractive quality about a woman is her ATTITUDE towards life. The more positive she is, the more alluring she is:) And having a positive attitude makes you fun, respectful and interested in life and people. Also it makes you take negative things and turn it around – who wouldnt want to be with a woman like this?

Comment by OutPartyn

October 25, 2007 @ 6:00 pm

Men are attracted to women who are confident and secure about loving themselves. Cause when they do … it shows.

Comment by pinkie

October 25, 2007 @ 6:02 pm

self contentment, confidence. a happy girl!

Comment by Randi

October 25, 2007 @ 6:41 pm

CONFIDENCE!!!!!!!!!!!! I believe that confidence is the single most powerfull trait a person can have when it comes to getting anyones attention. I have come to this conclusion from experiencing this myself. I know in my life the people that I have admired the most always seem to have been very confident in who they are and what they believe in. Also I have experienced the other side of this situation where I became interested in a new field that is very competitive and also very very close to the field in which I excell. I felt excited and conected and as if a whole new world that I loved already had just opened up to me. I am an attractive lady that when I desire alot of attention & dress for it I always go home feeling great about myself and that feeling stays w/ me for a while. However in this case I had had not been this excited about anything since I was a teenager. On top of that I felt confident being there from the start due to my extensive & successful career in a very similiar field. The attention I got & am still getting amazed me.I have only been able to attend about 4 to 6 events a year and have very little one on one time with any one person, however have meet with and gotten to chat with many many different people involved in this field. Over the last 4 years I have noticed that several of the best looking, most successful men are intrigued by my presence. The incredible thing is that this is a very phsical field and these young men are exposed to an unending line of girls that would & will jump into bed w/ them in a heartbeat and to top it off alot of these young athelets are 20 yrs. younger than me !!!!!! ( altough I admit no one knows my real age yet !! lol) So my answer is with out a doubt CONFIDENCE!!!!!!

Comment by Clare

October 25, 2007 @ 6:57 pm

Being a good listener would attract a man because that means you are giving attention to what he has to say and that makes him feel that you are respectful.

Comment by Linda

October 25, 2007 @ 7:32 pm

I think the most important quality that men look for in women is confidence & showing genuine interest in the man.

Comment by Ang

October 25, 2007 @ 7:55 pm

I think the single most attractive quality that men
look for in a woman is compatibility. If a man and a woman are compatible they can bring out eachothers best qualities.

Comment by reem

October 25, 2007 @ 8:06 pm

the most attractive quality men look for in a woman…self confidence. any woman who is confident of who she is, and what she wants gives her that specail glow that men immediately respond to.

Comment by A Real Man

October 25, 2007 @ 8:20 pm

Comments from a Man:

WOW! It’s obvious that most of you women have no real idea what is the single most attractive quality to men. (These comments are typical of American women though.)

It is a given that the single most attractive quality that women seek in a MAN is “confidence” or some version of that I.E. (personal authority, personal power) etc. But you women are answering this question from a woman’s point of view and not a man’s.

Most of you don’t seem to understand that we are VERY different from you. Your comments alone tell me that most…if not ALL of you need to buy an ebook, a course or something so you can understand men better. (I’m not sure what the author is going to tell you or if I would agree with her but you women definitely need some help and some advice.)

Yeah, yeah…confidence can be attractive, even sexy when done right…but if you think that is the #1 attraction magnet for men then you are WAYYYYYYYY off the mark.

In fact…there are MANY women who have major problems attracting quality men BECAUSE of what THEY refer to as their feminine “confidence” which in many cases is actually a MAJOR “turn-off” to men. In fact, many times we men perceive some women’s “confidence” as being a mask for their _insecurity_. In fact…believe it or not but oftentimes the OPPOSITE of what YOU may THINK is “confidence”… is FAR more attractive.

Some women here do GET IT…one of them is Jackie (#121462). (Read what she has to say.) And also Christinap (#121063), she ‘get’s it’ too. (And a few others).

It never fails to amaze me to see hear the women who still believe that men actually, really give a damn about your college degree’s, your careers and how together and confident you are… a “complete” woman with a “lot to offer”.

Pleeeeze. A man will leave a woman like that for a girl who is hot, sexy and fun to be with and complements his authority and man-hood rather than competes with it ANY day of the week. And they usually DO.

Seldom (if ever) does a man leave a young, sexy hottie who makes a man feel like a KING for a “sophisticated”, “intellectual” woman with a plan for improving his life and enhancing his financial portfolio and advising him on his investments.

TIP: Real men who have their own act together don’t give a damn about your money, earning power or your “Independence”. Get real.

Jackie… You have my vote!

(By the way…for the “haters”. I am an ecstatically married man with a woman who is my drop dead gorgeous, beautiful Queen of my heart and love of my life. She refers to me as …and treats me as her “KING”. …Which makes it easy for me to treat her as my QUEEN. My wife GET’S something that many other women refuse to see.

Want proof that I’m right? Think about the women that your man or men or friends man or men have cheated on their women with. I always hear these comments: “Wh..wh..what does he see in her? I’m smart…I’m educated…I’m a strong, confident, together, smart …independent woman…but she’s just some little bimbo. What’s she got that I don’t have?”

ANSWER: ‘Your Man!’

(My buddies would ALL agree… as would a Billion men.)

Comment by Tina

October 25, 2007 @ 8:21 pm

I think it is honesty. Without that, a relationship is baseless and meaningless.

Comment by kari

October 25, 2007 @ 9:05 pm

A man wants a women who doesn’t ask and ask and ask for evrything!…who shows him that she is confident!..a women that does not oblige a man to be with her, instead, wants him to choose to be with her…and who can show a good attitute when it comes to bad moments….

Comment by Dee

October 25, 2007 @ 9:14 pm

It’s not a discussion forum but I just have to answer “A Real Man”.
I appreciate getting a man’s perspective and I hear what you are saying but many (not all) here are saying that it is confidence – not “confidence”. True confidence is quiet and humble, not loud and brash. Truly confident people are the happiest & because they lack the need of being validated, they are much more likely to give validation and love to others.
They are much more likely to be warm, loving, fun-loving and fun-giving and, as I previously said, the sexiest they are capable of being. I understand why the word ‘confidence’ brings such attitudes to mind: “I’m smart…I’m educated…I’m a strong, confident, together, smart …independent woman…”, but that is not confidence at all, in fact, just the opposite: a form of neediness – crying out for validation. Truly confident people have no need to “declare” themselves; in fact, they are not even focused on themselves. I’m sure that many who have answered “confidence” though, do have the counterfeit definition in mind.
A Real Man: Jackie’s answer is good but can you sum up what she is saying with one single *quality*?

Comment by Rainy

October 25, 2007 @ 9:17 pm

There is nothing more attractive than confidence in yourself. That self knowledge of knowing who you are, what you want out of life and where you are going demands respect from the other people around you. It also makes you a person that people want to get to know.

Comment by Aileen

October 25, 2007 @ 9:50 pm

A lot of people said something about “a woman’s smile” being the “quickest, visual shortcut” that makes a man think she’s fun and approachable (and therefore instantly attractive to them).

I agree with that.

I also think this is actually connected to the gist of Real Man’s answer (121709). It may have been rather long, but he does point out very important things that I know to be true (speaking as a woman who dated the same guy for 7 years, and has been married to him for 9 – and loving it!).

So if I’m to sum up “a woman’s smile,” “approachability,” and “Real Man’s answer” into one single quality that I think makes a woman attractive to a man (even from across a room), it would have to be:

“The idea that she can make him feel *good* about himself.”

That’s what smiles are all about, after all, and what “making him feel like the King” means in the dating scene.

Men are naturally more attracted to women who they know they can enjoy *being* with.

And when the man already loves you – *really* loves you – I’ve also found that the one thing that makes him feel *great* the most is the knowledge that *he* can make the woman he loves *happy.*

So you *have* to show your appreciation – again *partly* with your smiles, haha!

Comment by lynda l Jones

October 25, 2007 @ 9:53 pm

confidence

Comment by rbecker

October 25, 2007 @ 9:56 pm

Every dating website male profile states they like long hair. Men are visual and they consider it sexy.

So sad, and superficial, but true for most men.

Comment by Sophie

October 25, 2007 @ 10:00 pm

The single most attractive quality in a Woman would be confidence and believing in herself, this is what men find irresistibly attractive.

Comment by ogechi

October 25, 2007 @ 10:12 pm

men are mostly attracted to a womans smile because Smile brings out the complementary characteristics that formed the woman’s strength, self confidence, self motivation ect ect.so on and so forth

Comment by Jane

October 25, 2007 @ 10:40 pm

Sorry everyone – the FIRST thing he looks for is just that, looks. Looks that are attractive to HIM. If you don’t pass his physical attractiveness test you don’t get past the starting post. Don’t ignore posture and for God’s sake smile. The good news is that a warm smile beat great boobs every time

After that it’s a different matter. Men are VERY different in what they look for, depending on their emotional maturity. Great men looking for a great woman want a kind, gentle, giving nature, underpinned with confidence, maturity, self-awareness, and yes, a playful, adventurous, and enthusiastic attitude in bed (sorry – that’s the truth). And all you ballsy, post-feminist, power suit-wearing, Germain Greer-worshiping, everything-between-the-sexes-is-equal girls – how many great THIRD dates have you had recently?

Comment by Tope

October 25, 2007 @ 11:27 pm

The No. 1 attractive quality that a man looks for in a woman is TRUSTWORTHINESS. Can he trust her despite her confidence, smile, beautiful body make-up etc. is she dependable. is she honest? will she be submissive? is she caring?. i think these are questions that men ask themselves deep within which all boils down to the character of a woman. A trustworthy woman is one who is so valuable and priceless to a man. she is his trophy for life.

Comment by Joselyn

October 26, 2007 @ 12:17 am

The most attractive thing about a woman is the inner contentment exhibited through her love and confidence for herself.

Thanks

Comment by Danielle Myers

October 26, 2007 @ 12:46 am

quite simply… self respect.

If you respect yourself a guy will never be able to walk all over you. Fact; anything thats chased runs away. If you have pride in yourself and you think f yourself as a prize a guy will adopt the same attitude of you. A guy wants an equal not a doormat.

Comment by Elaine

October 26, 2007 @ 1:22 am

A woman’s heart I would say, someone who is being herself and not by pretending to be somebody else wins a man’s heart!

Comment by Maryam

October 26, 2007 @ 1:25 am

Self confidence and a having a sence of humor. Self confidency is a must for a woman.

Comment by Sandy B.

October 26, 2007 @ 1:26 am

I think that the single most attractive quality that men look for in women is for that woman to be comfortable with herself. Once a woman can be comfortable in her own skin, she will have the ability to be comfortable with anyone else she chooses.

Sandy

Comment by babi

October 26, 2007 @ 1:41 am

MEN are attracted to woman that are confident, that are in control of theirs emotions, woman who know what they want and let them know, that don’t accept “crap” from the men…. men are attracted to woman that are selective and really impredictible…… at the same time men like to be admired, respected…

Comment by Marietjie

October 26, 2007 @ 2:07 am

I would say the quality that attracts a man to a woman, is her sweet, accepting smile along with a happy disposition.

Comment by Sandy

October 26, 2007 @ 2:12 am

From my experience, men are drawn to women who are happy and exude that happiness. I think all people are drawn to a person who is happy with themselves and confident. They want some of that to rub off on them. This world is a difficult place to live in, and life is hard. If a man has to be constantly pulling a woman up out of the doldrums it wears him out. He wants to be with a woman who feels good about herself, and in turn, can make him feel better about who HE is as a man.

Comment by Bunmi

October 26, 2007 @ 2:16 am

The single thing that attracted a man to a woman is a woman that is confident of herself, smile, intelligent and beautiful, beuaty in the sense that men are visuals and a woman that is unpredictable is any man choice anytime, anyday not the woman that fall easily, men love to conquer and men have ego, unpredictability attitude of a woman keep men on there toes, they are struggling to have you. “Love never dies of starvation but often of indigestion”

Comment by Vivian

October 26, 2007 @ 2:40 am

I think is self-confident. It means that the woman is comfortable with herself, love herself and has high self esteem. She takes care of herself.

She is not desparate or needy, and she is very comfortable in her own skin, which makes men want to get close to her, get to know her and get to be in her life. It makes men want to get more of her and felt drawn to her like a magnet.

Comment by Tezza

October 26, 2007 @ 2:47 am

Men might initially be most attracted to how a woman looks (they’re visual creatures) but I think what attracts them most after that is a woman who is calm- & never nags, there’s lasting attraction.

Comment by emelyn

October 26, 2007 @ 3:00 am

Caring – is the single most quality that men look for in a woman. Because if they feel that they are taken good care of, they would feel loved and special. Who doesn’t want that? Men want to feel that they are needed and existed, not just because of their bank account, but someone whom they could see in the future to grow old with. Someone beside them..taking good care of them.

Comment by sheri

October 26, 2007 @ 3:01 am

Men are attracted to a woman who has high self esteem and confidence.

Comment by Stephanie

October 26, 2007 @ 3:17 am

I personally feel that a winning smile is the best quality of a woman. This will show that she is confident and approachable. The smile will also make guys feel that she is easy-going,friendly,happy,free of worries,lovely and simply…irresistable. and i am pretty sure no man on earth would want a wife or girlfriend to frown most of the time or someone who is hard to please…

Comment by Amanda

October 26, 2007 @ 3:22 am

I think is the Smile,this is something irresistible for man.

Comment by overeasier

October 26, 2007 @ 3:29 am

Self respect.If you dont respect yourself how can he?

Comment by V

October 26, 2007 @ 4:26 am

I’ve been reading a lot about this topic lately, and what I’ve come to find (rather sadly) is that men look for physical attractiveness first, then everything else. I don’t like it, and I don’t agree with with it, but it seems this is always the case. Of course they want intelligence, compatibility, kindness, etc. But they are always looking for a beautiful woman first. Makes me wish I was a lesbian.

Comment by Bobbi

October 26, 2007 @ 4:29 am

Up beat personality is what I would have to say for the reason of I believe guys want someone who can open up and have fun with or without them so guys can have there time with other friends. Also they like it when guys are wanting there girl but girl knows who shes with!!

Comment by valerie anne

October 26, 2007 @ 4:53 am

A woman that accepts herself and stands for what she believes is right attracts men..a woman can be confident and yet attract no one because she exudes her confidence in a manner of arrogance…

If a woman believes that she is pretty in her own way and does what is right int he wyes of men and eyes of God,it shows in her personality.

Comment by Shannon

October 26, 2007 @ 5:10 am

Confidence. I think it supersedes all other qualities..

Comment by ALISON

October 26, 2007 @ 5:58 am

I believe that a beautifull, confident smile is the key to a mans heart.

A confident smile say every thing about a womans personality without even having to know her. Since that it is a form of a psychological behaviour a man can use his mind and analyse this behaviour (ie smile) and he will know if she is the woman for him.

A smile alone say alot.

Comment by Brandy

October 26, 2007 @ 6:07 am

Confidence

Comment by Jasmine

October 26, 2007 @ 6:10 am

She has to be loving. If she is loving, she is trustworthy, open hearted. beaautiful, enjoyable to be around, and more special than anyone else

Comment by Monique

October 26, 2007 @ 7:14 am

I read a few of the comments posted and I have to say I wish most men were looking for confident, intelligent women. However, I find men to be visual people so I think the single most attractive quality men look for is … well… good looks. Women who take care of themselves – hair, makeup, manicure, pedicure, fashion-sense – and someone who keeps in shape and exercises, will always find a man. I admit, most men don’t want a “dummy,” but if you come off as being very smart – or even brilliant – or too confident that you appear to be cocky, you won’t have a good chance of attracting a man. I should know, in high school, I was the class nerd.

Comment by Terri Easterling

October 26, 2007 @ 7:55 am

Men are attracted to a woman with self-confidence.

Comment by May

October 26, 2007 @ 8:05 am

Confidence is definitely coming out tops and rightly so! For me confidence is more than assertiveness and self-assuredness though. Its also about self-knowledge, self-awareness, self-respect, self-love, and self-oriented goals. Knowing who you really are, what you think and feel and not being afraid to express that appropriately. These qualities evolve through on-going personal work and men love them!

Comment by Macrina Arellano

October 26, 2007 @ 8:51 am

Confidence.

Comment by Vi Nguyen

October 26, 2007 @ 9:35 am

Men like women who are independant and arent clingy…in other words… women who dont make their significant other their lives, but PART of their lives.

Comment by KA

October 26, 2007 @ 9:50 am

Lighthearted Approval!
When it is clear that a woman approves of herself and her life, approves of new things, and approves of a man’s efforts to please her–and not a heavy way, but in a fun way–that is the irresistible thing!

Comment by Anniechiel

October 26, 2007 @ 10:00 am

Men find a women amazing if she is independent , sense of humour , will be a best friend that can be trusted , not desperate , not drama queens , share common interest ,need them and not to use them, laugh at their jokes and exciting.

Comment by Angela

October 26, 2007 @ 10:03 am

A woman’s eyes and her warmth

Comment by N

October 26, 2007 @ 10:14 am

A warm and introspective SENSE OF HUMOR. Humor or the ability to single out funny moments in every day life… demonstrates creativity and confidence. It shows a woman is able to keep things in perspective and laugh, even when the going gets tough. It makes her a joy to be around, as she doesn’t take herself too seriously. After all, everyone encounters occasional problems or setbacks, but it’s the wise person who can make the most & grow from these experiences. Humor helps a lot in maintaining a healthy balance.

Comment by Laura

October 26, 2007 @ 10:39 am

I believe the best asset in a woman is good conversation with a hint of classy sense of humor. If the guy is a shallow man, then he will look for cleavage and high hills. But any man that is looking for a real relationship si looking for someone that can carry on a good conversation, someone they wont consider boring, someone they can introduce to their friends and coworkers and be sure will not embarrass them. In the long run, conversation and humor is the most lasting quality anyone can have.

Comment by Cindy

October 26, 2007 @ 10:40 am

A man wants to know he is needed—useful without being used. He wants and needs to be the king for his queen. The conquerer, the protector, the lover, the MAN for HIS woman. I think that secretly—men want others to admire his woman—not lust after her—but slightly envy him for the prize that he feels she is.

The more he feels this way the more he will be this way. Makes me want to purrrrr.

It is easy to make him feel this way without coming off needy.

Comment by simona

October 26, 2007 @ 11:05 am

I really think there’s more than one single quality that attracts men,depending on what they want. If they just want to hook up,they will most drve attention to confidence and good look,because they won’t hook up with an unattractive woman physically and confidence because it will make them feel he won’t have problems with the woman getting hurt,etc.

If they are searching for something more serious,they will of course look for physical attributes,wich can strongly help in the beggining,There’s also chemistry that’s very important.Honestly,who could have a relationship with someone they don’t feel connected to?? There’s confidence too.Men usually hate thinking about having a relationshp with a woman who feels insecure and that he will always have to make her feel better.It puts a lot of pressure and stress,and it can easily make him feel like he can’t be honest with her.He will be scared of doing any little thing that would screw up,hurt her and getting him stressful problems.They also want a woman who doesn’t seem too needy or who seems like saying”hello i’m totally available” Men like challenges.But they don’t like it when she plays hard to get too much,it makes them feel like they would never get her and she’s playing with their hearts.Also,men are afraid of commitment,so they need a woman who doesn’t seem to be desperate about getting serious too fast.Just let him breathe,relax,but show him how interested you are,carefully.They don’t like stupid girls either.They want to feel like their girl is in control,responsible enough and doesn’t act like a teenager.They also like girls with enough humor to make them smile and feel alright and confortable.If they feel like they have to act as if they were someone else,it won’t last.They either don’t like women who still want to wait for men to always make the first step,They want to feel they’re wanted.And please,don’t make him feel like all you want from him is his money!!

I truly believe that every man has different tastes,but those are the principal qualities men usually need to find in a woman.

Comment by Tania Rodriguez

October 26, 2007 @ 11:25 am

I think the quality men find most attractive in a woman is self confidence. There’s nothing like going out with someone who feels confident in his/her own skin, someone who knows exactly who he/she is. I think you automatically irradiate happiness when you feel you are at your best, without bragging about how great you or your life is (that’s actually NOT attractive at all!) or how many great things you’ve accomplished. I believe when you are a mature and self confident individual, you don’t go around judging others, you accept others exactly how they are and this makes them feel good around you.

Comment by Angel

October 26, 2007 @ 12:04 pm

I’m going to say it’s a toss up between self-confidence and happiness…I hear men who are attracted to women say things like ‘you are always smiling’ – I think smiling alludes to happiness and when a woman is always happy without you in her life, she doesn’t need you to make her happy…in other words her happiness does not depend on him.

Comment by Myrian

October 26, 2007 @ 1:15 pm

Empathy. The ability of being able to put herself in the situation of the others.

Comment by MM

October 26, 2007 @ 1:32 pm

Strong enough to hold her own, yet weak enough to allow him to protect her, and mean it.

Comment by Sylvia

October 26, 2007 @ 1:58 pm

Confidence, I’ve seen it work, you think its beauty or your intelligence which doesn’t help but if you believe that your beautiful and that your smart, and you project that thur being a woman, men think thats sexy.

Comment by Tammy Caldwell

October 26, 2007 @ 2:52 pm

Boobs just kidding it’s HONESTY that I think attracks men

Comment by Joan

October 26, 2007 @ 2:58 pm

The single most attractive quality to men is confidence, hands down!

Comment by Julie

October 26, 2007 @ 3:19 pm

There are many things that men find attractive, but to narrow it down to the single most quality would be simply to be a woman as nature intended. Society has dictated what women today should be strong and assertive, some call it confident.But by nature, women are the stronger sex simply by being feminine and soft and complementary to men instead of competitive, a woman can attract man and have them willing to do anything for them – wanting to please womwn is what drives men and attracts them.

Comment by Lenore

October 26, 2007 @ 3:31 pm

ALMOST ALL OF THESE WERE SAID BY WOMEN!!!!

WHO KNOWS WHAT GUYS THINK IF THEY DONT EVEN REPLY!!!

Comment by gabriella

October 26, 2007 @ 4:03 pm

I think the single most attractive is smile..because so many guys was in love with my smiles!!maybe not in love but they always said u have beautiful smile n with my smiles i can attract guys now!!

Comment by Cassandra

October 26, 2007 @ 4:06 pm

I think the single most attractive quality that men
look for in a woman is her personality because good looks can only get you so far and your personality has to take you to the next level.

Comment by sanober

October 26, 2007 @ 4:47 pm

The single most ingredient men look for in a woman is-how easygoing he feels with her or rather how easygoing she is with herself and the world around her at large. A smart sensible woman who is comfortable in her own skin and with others is decidedly alluring and attractive !

Comment by Starwoman

October 26, 2007 @ 5:10 pm

I would have to say what attracts men most is how the woman makes him feel and also someone that is fun to be with cuz once a woman stops being fun men usually look for an escape route.

Comment by Shaine

October 26, 2007 @ 6:10 pm

Sense of humor!!! =)

Comment by Riya

October 26, 2007 @ 6:54 pm

I think what men look for most is the woman who loves herself. BecAuse in this way she can love him only if she loves herself.

Comment by xxx

October 26, 2007 @ 7:38 pm

I would like to comment this:
“MIA was the first person who answered “self-confidence,” and she
said:

“I think men find confidence sexy because if a woman is already a
full complete person, they do not feel as if they have to fill her
up. It’s less work for them and men do not like to put the work
into a relationship, so a good woman, who is smart, independent and
knows who she is can be an asset.”

Now why would a smart and confident women want to be with laizy man who does not want to put the work into a relationship? This is contraversial and does not make sense. A confident women would choose someone who fullfills her needs and contributes in a relationship…. Unfortunately, self-confidence alone is not enough. It works in interaction with other factors. Beauty alone is not enough either for a long-term thing…It is not a question of weather it is this or that…it is more an interaction and correlaction of several different variables that attracts a man. It is not a big deal to attract a man, but it is hard to attracts a man we want (if we do not have the attributes he likes)…

Comment by xxx

October 26, 2007 @ 7:40 pm

One other important thing: Women is NOT an asset!!!

Comment by rachel morapedi

October 26, 2007 @ 7:44 pm

well, a woman who is humble and who can appreciate them the way they are and have a sense of forgiveness and be a woman they can go to at the end of the day when the world is not treating them good.This way they believe there is somebody who understands them better and know how they are really feeling at most of times.

Comment by preeti

October 26, 2007 @ 8:08 pm

i think a man falls for someone who can keep them on their toes…challenging their intelligence..their humour…healthy debating types…in a nut shell…full of exuberencea and life….no man likes a dull woman for company…after a hard day…

Comment by amber

October 27, 2007 @ 1:30 am

Most definantly committment…. so they know the female is certain about the relationship…Committment really makes us lock arms

Comment by diane

October 27, 2007 @ 2:00 am

i think men like women know how to cook…

Comment by Erna Burkett

October 27, 2007 @ 2:04 am

how confident she is. personality, eyes, looks

Comment by Erica

October 27, 2007 @ 6:00 am

I believe that the single most attractive quality in a woman is happiness. Happiness reflects so many other aspects of a woman’s personality. If a woman is happy, it shows she enjoys life, likes herself, is approachable, has a good sense of humour, is open to get to know new people and what the world has to offer. Who wouldn’t want be around a happy carefree person that makes the most out of life?

Comment by lilas

October 27, 2007 @ 6:22 pm

in my opinion, a smile is the most wanted quality in every woman. it s the key to everyone s heart. men, women, children…, so it doesnt matter if we r fat or thin, blonde or brunette, if we ever feel unatractive or does not find the right outfit to impress a man, we can simply put our best cute smile on, and we will be ready to rock his world.

Comment by samia

October 27, 2007 @ 11:42 pm

Self confidence…. the single most attractive quality!

Comment by Bhavna

October 28, 2007 @ 1:26 am

Her ability to become the life of her man and not his life partner

Comment by Bhavna

October 28, 2007 @ 1:30 am

Her ability to become the life of her man and not just a part of his life.

Comment by TA

October 28, 2007 @ 2:05 am

Self Confidence!

It is the beauty of the inside out, radiant via the way you talk to people around you, the way you react to the world, to happenings in your life, with your calmness, dignity, honesty and respect.

Self confidence is also included your intelligence, you know what you’re doing, what you’re after for your life and of course, know what makes you happy and harmonious, etc … all just came out of you, naturally, w/o a second thought.

Comment by Rose

October 28, 2007 @ 4:27 am

Well I think it depends on each individual man because everyone has their own morals, but on the whole I think that men are attracted to women they can have fun with and make them feel good about themselves because let’s face it, we all like to be with people who accept us for who we are and make us feel good about ourselves.

Comment by Charl

October 28, 2007 @ 8:44 am

Happiness I reckon. Someone happy with what they’ve got might make guys want to be a part of this happy life she’s got going for her.

Comment by carol

October 28, 2007 @ 10:00 am

the best “quality” a woman can have is to have a fulfilled, satisfying, happy life –without a man. The men flock to you once they see you won’t be clinging on them like a needy little girl.

Comment by Maha

October 28, 2007 @ 11:53 pm

I think it’s a woman who makes him feel
like a man.

Comment by shimaa

October 28, 2007 @ 11:58 pm

i think its the woman who understands him just by looking in to his eyes

Comment by Susan Lawson

October 29, 2007 @ 3:09 pm

I feel men would like to find a woman who knows what she wants, knows where she is going, does not need to depend on him, as men are normally busy with their own jobs, needs, and lives and don’t want to take on another life to care for. She must carry herself to show this by her strong confident posture and her easy smile – without DRAMA!!!!

Comment by Kate

October 29, 2007 @ 4:41 pm

A good sense of humour is not only incredibly attractive to men but vital for both men and women playing this wildly unpredictable dating game.
Let’s be realistic, you’ve got to kiss a lot of toads so why not have fun and a laugh along the way and not take it all so seriously.

Comment by kaye

October 29, 2007 @ 6:10 pm

be yourself.
kx

Comment by Sherin

October 29, 2007 @ 7:52 pm

I think it’s a positive happy attitude to life

Comment by Harriet

October 29, 2007 @ 8:55 pm

A woman who believes in herself and the man

Comment by heaven

October 29, 2007 @ 11:04 pm

confidence. a man wants a woman that knows how to stand up for herself even when he isnt around. A man likes a woman that knows she has qaulity.

Comment by Lawrencia

October 30, 2007 @ 1:20 am

Presentation. The way a woman present herself matters a lot

Comment by LJBROWN

October 30, 2007 @ 4:39 am

I actually have two the first would be of course her own sense of confidence to be able to stand on her own two feet, be able to watch football with the guys and roll in the dirt playing with the guys and not worring about the way she looks. Then later that same day walk out looking like a million dollar lady he can be proud to have on his arm at the company dinner.
The second is the ability to speak her mind, being open and honest without it sounded offensive. She should be able to speak with confidence weather its out with friends, work or letting him know how, wear, to touch you intimately. Men love being able to make a woman hit her peak, when making love, and adding a sexy graphic detailed voice, drives them sexually wild!

Comment by Alice

October 30, 2007 @ 4:21 pm

Just by being comfortable with your true self, no pretentions whatsoever, someone he can be comfortable with without being criticized, someone who can make him laugh or smile and who really cares. Someone who knows how to communicate with him in all honesty and could make sparks fly.

Comment by Pamela Parker

October 30, 2007 @ 7:53 pm

Old fashioned basics are what I think many men are looking for these days. They’re keen to meet confident, intelligent, well-mannered women. Independence seems to be high on their list as is the ability to have fun and enjoy a great sense of humour.
Someone they can talk to and share their feelings with, someone they can trust is also high on the list.

Comment by Ginger

October 30, 2007 @ 11:15 pm

S I M P L I C I T Y

Comment by JB

October 31, 2007 @ 1:22 am

Confidence

Comment by Gwen

October 31, 2007 @ 4:11 am

I believe a man looks for a confident, fun, and happy woman who is approachable. A strong confident man recognizes, she knows just what she is looking for and what she is going after.

Comment by Tami

October 31, 2007 @ 6:23 am

I feel that every woman has this single, most attractive quality and that is exercising her choice to be SELECTIVE. Every woman should choose to take her time in SELECTING her most well-suited mate because every man is driven by the need to persue and conquor that which is worthy of pursuit. Be confident, be comfortable, be carefree, but definitely be SELECTIVE.

Comment by lara

October 31, 2007 @ 12:20 pm

Men have three drsires of their heart.
the first being a battle to fight.
the seccond is adventure.
the third is a beauty to rescue.

men show affection in how they fight. womens desire is to be romanced and when men fight for their woman women feel that.
as children we would dream that a hansom prince would save us.

women have the desire for adventure too, both want to be a part of a big adventure and do something amazing with someone by their side.
as children we would dream of saving the world.

women want men to see them as beautiful thats why they wear makeup and wear nice outfits.
as children we used to play dressup and go up to mum and ask am i beautiful.

womens desire of their heart is to be romanced, have adventure, to have their beauty unvailed.

you see these desires in the way that children play and it is only when we grow up that we push away the desires of our heart. but they are still there. when we look for someone to spend the rest of our lives with we look for someone with these qualities.

Comment by KUSUM

October 31, 2007 @ 6:35 pm

i think men love a woman who is willing to open up with them. and be trusting of them.

Comment by mag

November 1, 2007 @ 10:51 pm

Men are attracted to a happy person because if she has that quality, they don’t need to think about how to make her happy………..because she already is.

Comment by Everlyn

November 2, 2007 @ 6:38 am

Confidence and being sure what one wants is one of the qualities that attracts men, especially if topped by warmth or a smile and good communication. Nothing beats this!

Everlyn

Comment by Jen

November 3, 2007 @ 12:38 am

Men are attracted to a woman who is HAPPY and therefore doesn’t have a lot of baggage and personal problems because they cannot handle a whiny complainer. Men enjoy the company of a happy, confident and self-sufficient woman.

Comment by Ravenely

November 3, 2007 @ 2:15 am

I feel that the most enduring quality of a woman to a man is that of unconditional acceptance. This is so because acceptance implies and verifies trust which therefor strenthens a mans ability to communicate effectively with the woman which he is courting. The very existence of open acceptance says that that person is accepted and their mental processes and behaviors will not be held against them (but of course ladies there are exceptions to every rule, use your own best judgement on when to accept and when to give the boot!!). In all it is human nature for both sexes to yearn for acceptance, as it is the vital ingredient that makes or breaks a relationship from the very beginning. Happy dating, ladies!

Comment by Iythar

November 4, 2007 @ 5:34 am

I think the most attractive quality in a woman is her femininity…a woman who is manish(in both looks and behaivour) is never attractive, humans like magnets, are attracted to their opposites. In my opinion a woman who’s comfortable with her feminine nature and show it through behaviour without acting like a bimbo is the most attractive.

Comment by Maya

November 5, 2007 @ 4:53 pm

Well, i feel men are attracted to women who are confident and have a happy face.Good communication skill is an advantage too.

Comment by Aishah

November 6, 2007 @ 5:21 am

Hi! What is the most attractive quality in a women? Well, to me it is “A women who is confident of herself as an individual in society, while at the same time able to show her feminine, vulnerable self which endears her to others – men and women alike”.

Comment by Eixh

January 2, 2008 @ 2:14 am

i have two answers for which i have reasons that i believe!its that even serious men look for sexy attractive and all, but deep down what they need is a FAITHFUL lady and they do admit it!! The others who pretend to be love addicts also wants to get along with sexy smart and all,but the difference is that they keep the desire of a FAITHFUL lady deep down their heart..nobody knows!!they all will flirt and beliveme..nobody can stop it..try if u want to prove me wrong!! its just the way they take it that differs..answer is the same..as far as i believe…

Comment by Carol Henry

August 1, 2008 @ 1:53 am

The one quality that comes to me is a very Natural woman. Clean looking, not even aware of here true beauty, yet extremely affectionate towards others. I say this because my best and most successful moments have been when people would say to me you really look great and I would be SURPRISED because I had done nothing but showered and got ready for that day with no make-up or fuss at all. However, I did not care. I think by attitude had a lot to do with it too. I was satisfied with me, and therefore so was everyone else. So I have to say just a natural woman who likes herself no matter what. You can become a man magnet being this way.

Comment by Rhonda

April 12, 2009 @ 9:14 am

To be OK with out a man believing in herself.