Comment by Sam

October 24, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

Alpha man, all the way.

Comment by Greg

October 24, 2007 @ 3:12 pm

Money. As long as you’ve got money, you can fake everything else.

Comment by Chris

October 24, 2007 @ 3:14 pm

Game. As long as you’ve got GAME, you can fake everything else.

Comment by oscar c. williams

October 24, 2007 @ 3:16 pm

Unwussie

Comment by John

October 24, 2007 @ 3:16 pm

social prestige or in other words Alpha male status and behavior

Comment by Kyle

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

Confidence

Comment by sumit

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

MONEY with money , nobody gives a fuck to brains , with money one can buy the looks ( cosmetic surgery ) .. and when money is there , personality can easily be faked …

Comment by DC

October 24, 2007 @ 3:17 pm

Confidence…

Comment by KINGPIN13

October 24, 2007 @ 3:20 pm

gotta go with confidence…

Comment by Hunter B.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:20 pm

Well this is actually quiet simple more often than not women are attracted to confidence in a man. Most successful guys have this down and when they approach women they make it seem as if they don’t need the women but that they are good enough by themselves and women eat that up.

Comment by DONALD SKEI

October 24, 2007 @ 3:22 pm

Sense of humor
If you can laugh at yourself and all of the funny things that go on in the world, then you will be a pleasure to be around on the first date as well as “to infinity and beyond!” Laughter is pleasurable and relaxing. If you can get her to laugh, then she will overlook some of you faults or weaknesses. Humor is the greatest social lubricant.

Comment by MARK A. KELCHNER

October 24, 2007 @ 3:23 pm

Sense of humor

Comment by Scott

October 24, 2007 @ 3:23 pm

Confidence is the single best quality that enhances every other quality that is important in attracting women.
Aloha,

Confidence allows you to: be yourself, to engage and communicate, to cut conversations short, to believe in your ideas about life, business, and aspirations, to know what you want, to get what you want, to try new things, to be successful, to command respect, to exude personal power, to attract followers, to be the leader, and so much more.

Without confidence, you cannot move forward in life.

Comment by Silas S.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:25 pm

It has to be “personal authority”. Women are attracted to REAL men! Men that KNOW what they want out of life and men that take charge.

Comment by hunter B.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:27 pm

Well its actually quiet simple women are attracted and drawn to confidence in men. If a man walks up to a woman and has the mindset that he is great even without the woman he is about to approach women eat it up and those guys are usually more successful with women.

Comment by Chee Kui

October 24, 2007 @ 3:30 pm

Personality. You can’t fake it, but with money in your hand, it will be easier to enhance the personalities that you want to show off.

Comment by Shawn E.

October 24, 2007 @ 3:30 pm

There are many things… and the most important one depends on the woman. But I’d say confidence and being who you are no matter what anyone thinks.

Comment by Taher

October 24, 2007 @ 3:32 pm

What if I were to say that the single most attractive quality that women look for in a guy, varies from women to women? Wouldnt that make it more interesting and challenging to find out what makes that lady jump for joy?

But if I were to give a definite answer, I would say that women are attracted to guys that have a goal in life, something hes passionate about.. Something which she can see herself being part of and knowing this man can support me for the rest of my life. Now with me, thats what I feel women are attracted to…

Comment by Dean Michael

October 24, 2007 @ 3:33 pm

The most attractive quality in men for a woman is peace of mind. With peace of mind, you have the freedom to emote – woman think with the gut, and when a man can evoke feelings and engage a woman with enthuisiasm, which requires peace of mind, he can listen and communicate with his body and in turn have any woman he chooses.

-Dean

Comment by Laj

October 24, 2007 @ 3:34 pm

The single most attractive quality is “making her feel good”. This may include being wealthy, good-looking, funny, etc

Just like men, women are also reasonably selfish, and want to feel good. While men at least think they know what makes us feel good, women (may be not all of them) realize that they don’t know what makes them feel good. If a man knows what she wants, is giving it to her, and is also keeping her hopeful that she’ll get what she wants in future, she usually clings to him almost like a shadow

Comment by Joel Ramirez

October 24, 2007 @ 3:34 pm

I think it’s financial security. If a man can provide security then women can’t resist such a guarantee for survival & fun lifestyle .

Comment by Dave

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

Self confidence is the most sought after quality in men, from a woman’s perspective.

Comment by khaled

October 24, 2007 @ 3:43 pm

each girl is different

Comment by Don

October 24, 2007 @ 3:44 pm

I have read some pretty good responses, however the one true attractant I have used, and it is so easy. Just be honest with a woman. Most of them love to hear compliments and we (men) are prone to brag and strut, but that has been done to death. But when we communicate straight forward honesty, they respect it. And in turn, they show it in more ways than you can guess.

Comment by russ g

October 24, 2007 @ 3:52 pm

The good looking guy is golden. He makes the girls panties wet in the right way. Yes, everyone says that looks don’t matter, however i have seen the reaction from women when a good looking guy enters the room. All heads turn and curiosity is peaked. Yes, good looks gets the girls everytime.

Comment by Simon

October 24, 2007 @ 3:56 pm

Confidence is the essential quality that makes a person well known as a leader, and that’s what a woman wants. If you show yourself as a person who people respect and want to be around then women will want to do the same.

Comment by Steve

October 24, 2007 @ 4:05 pm

Confidence

Comment by suresh

October 24, 2007 @ 4:06 pm

Personality and attitude

This is the one which attracts the woman very much, because it gives her a sense of security.

Comment by upul

October 24, 2007 @ 4:07 pm

Pleasent look person with money and power

Comment by Brian Smith

October 24, 2007 @ 4:07 pm

personality and charisma

Comment by Charlie

October 24, 2007 @ 4:09 pm

Good comments but humour has to be it.Sense of humour to make her laugh.

Comment by Stray

October 24, 2007 @ 4:19 pm

Inner Confidence, Sense of humor , conversation, and the balls to make the move till it becomes second nature!Look at it the same way you look at a bus schedule, more will be along at any moment

Comment by elias calix

October 24, 2007 @ 4:26 pm

for sure the single most atractive thing for a man to have is to be just that, a real man, who does not need others to be happy and complete

Comment by rolly dominguez

October 24, 2007 @ 4:33 pm

i am pretty sure it is the right amount of CONFIDENCE and SENSE OF HUMOR..

Comment by rolly

October 24, 2007 @ 4:34 pm

i guess it is the right amount of CONFIDENCE and SENSE OF HUMOR..

Comment by rolly

October 24, 2007 @ 4:34 pm

i am pretty sure it is the right amount of CONFIDENCE and SENSE OF HUMOR..

Comment by Kamran

October 24, 2007 @ 4:40 pm

Being Playful, if you are playful u can attract any woman. as long as you are playful nothing else matter.

Comment by yong lim foo

October 24, 2007 @ 4:47 pm

Have a solid foundation of your inner self. Let everything flow from within by learning to tease and being laid back. Be truly yourself and yet no pushovers while showing respect to the ladies.

Comment by JAY

October 24, 2007 @ 4:50 pm

Well, after reading a few of these comments, I just decided to skip right to the bottom and proceed with one of the winning answers.

Here is the key to snatching 99.9% of women.

It’s a MAN who has PERSONAL AUTHORITY!!!

A no bullshit type of guy in the whole sense. He can be playful with women, but still has an authoritative manner.

He doesn’t need a woman, but likes her around. He can live without her and not just fake, but actually feel it and live that mentality.

Just a REAL guy.

Has a naughty boy side, clean smile and is understanding of women’s nature.

You let me know what I left out.

Alot of guys on here have a long way to go.

Best of SKILLS to you.

Any guy can be attractive. It’s nothing you’re born with, but something acquired over time.

DADDY knows.

Later Gators!

Comment by rob

October 24, 2007 @ 4:51 pm

Happiness, when you’re happy they will feel it too. Women love Men who are happy, it means you don’t need them, but their life will be a helluv alot better if they decide to chase.

Comment by Trevor

October 24, 2007 @ 4:51 pm

It’s confidence all the way. Without it, a guy can’t go up to the hotty in the bar, or ask that girl out that he’s been eyein’.

Comment by Dude

October 24, 2007 @ 4:52 pm

Control. Whether its how to escalate or how to arouse them. Even exciting them means you need to control the frame.

Comment by Hariharan

October 24, 2007 @ 4:56 pm

Attitude to love and care and be loved

Comment by Tony

October 24, 2007 @ 4:56 pm

They look for that which can only be found, exclusively inside the How to Be Irresistible to Women e-book course.

Surely that is the answer we were meant to write along with confidence.

Looking forward to receiving my prize,
Sincerely,
Tony.

Comment by Chander

October 24, 2007 @ 4:58 pm

According to me Confidence & Good Sense of Humour attracts woman a lot.

Comment by Chris

October 24, 2007 @ 4:59 pm

Of the offered qualities, personality hits closest to the right answer, but isn’t exactly right. An upbeat, fun, and interesting guy may be interesting enough keep women coming back for more, but for any sort of real connection with a woman, it goes beyond just personality.

From the comments before this one, a few guys have offered interesting insights (confidence is important, ease of mind was definitely original, laughter is always good, and something different for every woman is technically true).

I’m going to suggest the most attractive quality is somewhat more abstract. It is a man’s reality. It encompasses all of these other qualities, but does so much more. A person (male or female) with strong reality can pull others in and allow them to experience life in such a spectacular way that it almost seems like a fairy tale. It fulfills subconscious desires of the mind that are hard to explain, but there none-the-less.

Comment by Amber Agarwal

October 24, 2007 @ 5:04 pm

The thing that they look for is “Passion”

Comment by rolly

October 24, 2007 @ 5:06 pm

cocky and funny

Comment by rolly

October 24, 2007 @ 5:07 pm

humor

Comment by RC

October 24, 2007 @ 5:09 pm

Emotional security.

Comment by Dibosh

October 24, 2007 @ 5:11 pm

The single most attractive quality that women look for in a guy is masculinity.Because a man needs a woman and a woman needs a man.The one thing that you must do to attract a women is to let her sink into your masculinity.

Comment by rollydominguez

October 24, 2007 @ 5:16 pm

confidence

Comment by rollydominguez

October 24, 2007 @ 5:17 pm

sense of humor

Comment by John

October 24, 2007 @ 5:18 pm

A man who can make a woman FEEL the emotions of fun, happiness, and exitement!

Comment by Samuel

October 24, 2007 @ 5:22 pm

A woman likes decency than else anything. If a guy is very handsome, wealthy, masculine and humorous, still, if does not have decency in his behaviour, she will never like him. In addition to decency, a girl also wants her man to be a man and not a woman.

Comment by Gavin Lowe

October 24, 2007 @ 5:37 pm

A man that can fulfill all her fantasies, dreams,aspirations, help her be the best woman she can be, and feel absolute satisfaction and fulfillment. Which quality or word can describe this is probably nonexistent but if you can make that divine connection and create extreme emotions which engender attraction, coupled with unconditional love then you will have found what everyone desires. This of course must be founded upon eternal principles and not just upon the trivial mundane pursuits of an earthly nature. Hopefully everyone has some degree of faith that will lead them on a good path.

Comment by Dayron

October 24, 2007 @ 5:38 pm

I would have to say being masculine. Being masculine shows a woman all qualities of yourself, plus you won’t look like a chump or a wimp, wuss, etc. You show power around a woman, which makes you attractive to women.

Comment by Tamer

October 24, 2007 @ 5:41 pm

Personality

Comment by Bob

October 24, 2007 @ 5:49 pm

A guy who can make them laugh, make them feel silly, make them want to chase HIM.

Comment by Isaiah

October 24, 2007 @ 5:53 pm

Real solid confidence-this means being relaxed, having a great sense of humor and being at ease around them

Comment by Billy K

October 24, 2007 @ 6:02 pm

A man that they feel wont end up being a burden to them, should things go wrong. They want an independent man that does things for himself and is strong enough to live fine with or without the woman. They develop a sense of respect for the guys and that always keeps them on their toes because that way the guy can tell them to get the walking and still be able to live his life. they want a man that shows confidence (which doesnt fail him even at the oddest of moments) and one that can handle any given situation and still leave with others respect. (knowledge is power gentlemen, not violence- some dont like the extreme alpha). they want a guy that would give them knowledge (thats why tales of travel and different experiences are always a plus), and if the girl is a 10, they want a guy that isnt intimidated by that….(ive seen tons of guys put ladies on pedestals and forget that they are simply human beings, just like us. make her think shes a queen and she subconsiously treats u like her servant. always keep ur dignity and self respect intact…thats one thing man shouldnt let women do, its appalling to see another one of us go down because of a woman sometimes, other times its deserved but hey, whos counting? be yourself dude, thats what matters the most…dont let her see you sweat….surprise them, avoid cliche’s….dont try be too funny….be rude and spontaneous every once in a while (i met this blonde a few days ago in class…drop dead gorgeous- she notices my soccer boots sticking out of my backpack and says “Hey, do you play soccer? i used to play it too!” While looking at her rain boots (or whatever theyre called) i pause and say “Thats nice, do you enjoy playing in the rain?” and stood there with a blank expression….short and sweet..this comes so unexpected to her (simply because she’s so used to the hey you have pretty eyes lines that shes probably had 3 times prior to our encounter)…Well she finally bursts out laughing, and 5 minutes later asks me for my number so we can do homework together…i could could go on forever…one last thing, however- women can sense bullshit from a mile away lads….plain and simple.

Comment by Chad

October 24, 2007 @ 6:06 pm

I would say Confidence, but if your not Honest they can never trust her when the two of you are alone.

Comment by Arif

October 24, 2007 @ 6:08 pm

Hi,

Confidence, a little arrogance with mild humor, leadership skills, and excellent attitude will be irresistible to a woman.

thanks,
Arif

Comment by Collard

October 24, 2007 @ 6:16 pm

Personality

Comment by Josiah

October 24, 2007 @ 6:18 pm

charisma

Comment by Tim

October 24, 2007 @ 6:20 pm

Confidence -
They want someone who has confidence and will take charge.

Comment by LAVINE

October 24, 2007 @ 6:21 pm

confidence & humour

Comment by sammy

October 24, 2007 @ 6:24 pm

I would have to say how that person carries themselves..a great personality an positive attitude is key when a women is looking for a potential father for there child and husband..in other words a positive an strong goal oriented man means not only a good bread winner but there off springs would be raised an would attend a good college therefor giving them a job which in part will help take care of her when she gets old…

Comment by ujagar singh

October 24, 2007 @ 6:24 pm

The single most quality women look for in a man is “Masculinity”.

Comment by sung

October 24, 2007 @ 6:33 pm

It depends. The lower type will want protective nature such as money and confidence, alpha man etc.
The higher type will want friendship quality and beauty as partner of soul and intellect, dialog, and intentional relationship and life creation possibility.

Most women are at the lower level at this point of western history.
Lesser culture; even more.

The higher type has handicap to find real friend/ mate material.

Comment by yuanqiang

October 24, 2007 @ 6:34 pm

i believe it should be confidence, humour and charisma as without all this the girl will feel bore n also unsafe with u

Comment by Taufik

October 24, 2007 @ 6:41 pm

nothing…they are not looking for anything…they just want someone to pamper them…give attention…

Comment by Steve

October 24, 2007 @ 6:45 pm

Confidence and love of life

Comment by james

October 24, 2007 @ 6:45 pm

A guy who is in control of his emotions, and in control of his actions.

Comment by Gubae G.

October 24, 2007 @ 6:48 pm

I think if a guy is confident in himself and maintains that at all times come hell or high water with some sense of humor added on top he is the alpha male.

Comment by Tom

October 24, 2007 @ 6:49 pm

CONFIDENCE

Comment by Raj

October 24, 2007 @ 6:52 pm

BEING YOURSELF is the key to get the attraction of women always.. this is synonimous to CONFIDENCE itself.
Let me explain this way. When you are with a group of beautiful young women around, you can go ahead with your business without being concious of them. You will interact with them when necessary, in a funny and cool manner. this will make the women feel lesser, and will try to attract the man.
Instead, if you become concious and try to act in a way to impress them, they will sense that before even you start doing it. and you are JUST another guy for them.

Comment by Richard

October 24, 2007 @ 6:57 pm

Personality.

Women are attracted to men who have a strong personality, are confident and passionate about what they do, are independant and not needy and have humour with compassion.

Comment by philip

October 24, 2007 @ 7:00 pm

confuadence and a grate smile

Comment by Vincent

October 24, 2007 @ 7:00 pm

for me, its personality. a kind of personality that makes you stand out of the crowd. To be specific, it would be unpredictable, sociable, fun to be with and flirty.

Comment by foram

October 24, 2007 @ 7:04 pm

confidence, personal authority, and a sense of humour

Comment by Bobah

October 24, 2007 @ 7:18 pm

girls like DOMINANT guys. cause dominant means POWERFUL

Comment by shdz

October 24, 2007 @ 7:21 pm

girls are attracted to real men. to know what ral men have in them…read “how to be irresistible to women “

Comment by laci

October 24, 2007 @ 7:32 pm

if i would seek for somebody i would not look for only one quality, however girls are turned on by confidence, humor,style,but what i like to use: do everything different like others do. I try to be the one that separates from the rules. I think that girls look for this kind of guys, because they are all bored from the same pick up lines, stories, and other things man usually do. so try to be different

Comment by Ian

October 24, 2007 @ 7:34 pm

CONFIDENCE

Comment by Ravez

October 24, 2007 @ 7:36 pm

Confidence and leadership but not too much so that you appear arrogant. A real male asserts his presence by making everybody around him feel good, not by putting them down.

Comment by JSU

October 24, 2007 @ 7:39 pm

If you can make a woman FEEL good. Because if you can make a woman feel good then it will confirm your confidence, humor, and everything together will prove your a man.

Comment by Chris

October 24, 2007 @ 7:44 pm

Humour

Comment by Forfatteren

October 24, 2007 @ 7:47 pm

Amazing that noone has named the one mentioned as #1 in soo many surveys: PURPOSE. A man with purpose, direction, conviction will automatically exert confidence, security, masculinity, passion, power…

But then that’s only half the story. ‘Purpose’ is what the women THEMSELVES claim/think they want – not necessarily the truth.

Confidence/Humour (Cocky&Funny) is definitely a magical combo (the obvious one, even), but somehow I’m feeling that’s not what the author is looking for.

Anyway, let’s hear the ‘answer’ already!

Comment by Mark

October 24, 2007 @ 7:57 pm

Hi James,

I believe that a driving ambition is the basis of what is attractive to women. The reason being , is that I believe it encompasses the baiscs. Confidence, accomplishment, moving forward,and doing what you have to, to be successful in all areas of your life, without worrying about what people think. You know that you just have to get there, and will do what it takes. Period. That, is attractive.

Mark

Comment by RC

October 24, 2007 @ 7:58 pm

CONFIDENCE

Comment by Andrew

October 24, 2007 @ 8:06 pm

Confidence, because it makes them feel safe and indicates good genes.

Comment by SriGanesh

October 24, 2007 @ 8:06 pm

the most attractive quality is to display all masculine traits.Sense of humor,confidence is included in it

Comment by dr. shayne

October 24, 2007 @ 8:09 pm

being emotionally sensitive to the needs of a woman, being able to spot changes in her mood and respond appropriately.

Comment by Bouslama Karim

October 24, 2007 @ 8:14 pm

I personally think, dear James, that the single most attractive quality women want in a man is humor!
When you can make a woman laugh, you’ve almost done all the job!

Comment by Thomas

October 24, 2007 @ 8:25 pm

A spirit-driven man who is totally focused on his dreams and goes after what he wants and whom doesn’t have women as his only priority in life. The beautiful woman catches HIM in the act and he ALLOWS her to spin her web, if only for a little while.

Comment by Callum

October 24, 2007 @ 8:27 pm

Attitude/Inner Game.

This is the underlying quality that determines whether or not the way you conduct yourself to women is successful. This means relaxed confidence in the face of sexual tension, playfulness when faced with a challenge and displaying genuine emotional sensitivity to a women’s needs and concerns.

Comment by eddie

October 24, 2007 @ 8:29 pm

confidence -

women always comment about it or it’s absence as the case may be

Comment by tarun

October 24, 2007 @ 8:31 pm

sense of humor

Comment by Ian

October 24, 2007 @ 8:36 pm

We are wrong, guys, when we think that women only look for money and power. Of course some women do, but what kind of women….. Those women you can have a conversation and spend the rest of your life with, look for deepper, more important things that have to do with a man’s convictions and values. It doesn’t matter if you are the most good-looking guy. They will stay with you if you are honest, respectful, you love her, you really want to know what there is in her heart, you don’t want to use her for sex only, etc… So…I would say…STRONG VALUES AND CONVICTIONS.

Comment by khoe

October 24, 2007 @ 8:36 pm

money,rock hard abs and a sense of humour because these are the things that most of the women look in a man

Comment by majid

October 24, 2007 @ 8:39 pm

be honest in love

Comment by John

October 24, 2007 @ 8:58 pm

I think that one attractive quality women look for in a man is unshakeable self confidence. By this I mean women want a guy who believes in his abilities, goals, standards, values and comfortable with people.

They can’t believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself.

Good lock with the contest.

Comment by Norman

October 24, 2007 @ 8:59 pm

The single most important quality a woman loves is an independant personality with a self assured smile on his face.
The reason she would gravitate towards him is because this self assured attutide makes him appear strong and sets him apart from all others making him a natural magnet and his smile would melt her heart reassuring her that he would be a fun person to know and love even before words have been spoken.

Comment by Henry

October 24, 2007 @ 9:03 pm

Attitude

Comment by Pat Molamphy

October 24, 2007 @ 9:17 pm

I think it comes down to attitude and words you use with confidents and charm with style.. You become the prize. Now I’d like my prize..lol

Comment by Christopher L Pugh

October 24, 2007 @ 9:17 pm

Confidence!!

Comment by Sumeet

October 24, 2007 @ 9:18 pm

Confidence

Comment by mehdi

October 24, 2007 @ 9:30 pm

tehran

Comment by Kaz

October 24, 2007 @ 9:32 pm

Confidence

Comment by Sammy

October 24, 2007 @ 9:49 pm

Attitude is the single most important thing that attracts women.

Comment by Richard Ghurairi

October 24, 2007 @ 9:57 pm

Men decide on women by the eyes (look), while women decide by the ears (hearing). So I think Women get attracted to Guys by hearing nice emotional talks (i.e. Romance).

Comment by Jean264

October 24, 2007 @ 10:10 pm

Personality, if its a great one, ure good

Comment by Ashraf

October 24, 2007 @ 10:11 pm

Personality

Comment by Ibnu

October 24, 2007 @ 10:11 pm

I would say women look for reponsiblity in a man, no faking, no money – simple , if the guy seems reponsible enough, (which should show in a mans personality,) she is game,

coz guys, responsiblity sums up alot of things

Comment by Devon

October 24, 2007 @ 10:14 pm

Confidence, and a strong, dynamic, interesting, joyful, interesting, passionate and playfull personality.

Comment by Tinuoye Francis

October 24, 2007 @ 10:16 pm

For me what think single most attractive quality that women look for in a guy is
CARING or Ability to show care.
Becouse every woman want to be care for, appreciated, love and concern.

Comment by nony valentino

October 24, 2007 @ 10:31 pm

honesty,leadership skills,self confidence & compassion
women hate lies dont be dishonest to them,she bubbles with respect and excitement when her man is an excellent leader,she is fullfilled and delighted with her self about the future and life when her man exhibit confidence,she is happy and contented when her man shows compassion to her feelings and emotions.

Comment by Mark

October 24, 2007 @ 10:34 pm

women always go for a perfect man
however, for me the most attractive
quality that women would look for
in a guy is his sense of humor.

it’s not just those funny jokes or being
a little-jerk but, funny jokes or being a
bit like-a-jerk in a very good timing at
some point in a conversation or event
where mood is good.

women would look for a guy who has
a high status type of personality without
losing his sensitivity and respect -which,
each person needs whether man or woman.

combine that with either one of these:
- tall and handsome with tight body curves like that of a swimmer
- smart but not overly-confident
- rich, busy and successful but who also keeps his promises
- chased by other women

now, what do you think would be in a woman’s mind?

to make it short… a woman wants life in a man…

:d

Comment by Russell Woodley

October 24, 2007 @ 10:40 pm

I would say,The most attractive thing that matters to women is when they sense a lack of insecurity in the man that has just approached her and began talking to her.When whatever he is saying or doing feels he is comfortable in his own skin.And does not appear to be looking for her approval one way or the other.

Comment by Effiong

October 24, 2007 @ 10:40 pm

Male, masculine, magnetism is the magical and mysterious secret to success. It is the true alpha male energy. Thank you

Comment by Jean Claude

October 24, 2007 @ 10:44 pm

Woman look for a strong, honest, reliable man emotionally and with a sense of security that he can offer her.

Then the physical, his situation and and his sense of humour will be a close behind……

Comment by Doug

October 24, 2007 @ 10:48 pm

A man with confidence; a quick wit; strong personal authority.

Comment by Shirokage

October 24, 2007 @ 10:55 pm

A man of true or perceived alpha status.

Comment by paul

October 24, 2007 @ 10:56 pm

security…..this is all because it cuts across all aspects in terms of the one who can defend and protect her physically,financial security for better life and security in terms of always being there to love!.

Comment by Ray

October 24, 2007 @ 11:05 pm

Confidence, is absolutely the one thing that is number one on the list.

Why? Because if you are not confident it is hard to accomplish anything in life.

Comment by Kyle

October 24, 2007 @ 11:18 pm

Someone who has CONFIDENCE who has control of his inner and outer game and has goals in his life which he pursues and he will invite the woman into his world and share it, if she is good enough for him!

Comment by K Purvey

October 24, 2007 @ 11:19 pm

personal authority

Comment by Rob C.

October 24, 2007 @ 11:25 pm

Being a real man… together, and not needing someone else for your happiness.

Comment by Hector

October 24, 2007 @ 11:33 pm

An unmistakable – because genuine- sense of self-reliance even with a touch of cockyness and a spark of funny teasing mood.

Comment by Wendy Weng

October 24, 2007 @ 11:36 pm

Confidence that projects you are an alpha man material

Comment by fabrizio

October 24, 2007 @ 11:39 pm

Power,strenght,because women are beauty,the men are strong

Comment by he-man

October 24, 2007 @ 11:44 pm

i think its “love”….a loving nature…self-confidence…..
in other words…the person is complete, sensible n secure abt himself

Comment by Peter

October 24, 2007 @ 11:47 pm

The ability to be in control of any situation: Confidence

Comment by Justin

October 24, 2007 @ 11:48 pm

Okay, all you idiots who posted a comment(not Jay). First off, there are TWO traits a women finds most attractive in a man. 1-Leadership-why would a women want a guy that is a pushover? simple,not a good enough challenge! 2-Personal Authority-women don’t like a shy guy! Why? Women like to have FUN.

Comment by John Milson

October 25, 2007 @ 12:04 am

Q:”What do you think is the single most attractive quality that women look for in a guy … and why?”

A:Women look for a guy who knows how to make her feel attraction towards him, because without the attraction, nothing else significant can happen.

John

Comment by C.G.

October 25, 2007 @ 12:18 am

COnfidence, it shows that you feel good about yourself – why would she see you any better if you show you have no confidence (no reason to be confident).
Also I believe that it’s confidence what is behind that mysterious, womanese “right attitude”

Comment by Darren

October 25, 2007 @ 12:23 am

the most women our interested in two things a sense of humor and cleaniss that women look for from Darren

Comment by Tino

October 25, 2007 @ 12:27 am

One Word…..

CONFIDENCE!

Comment by Farhan

October 25, 2007 @ 12:30 am

A Man like me who can but her balls.

Comment by Farhan

October 25, 2007 @ 12:30 am

A Male like me who can but her balls.

Comment by Xavier

October 25, 2007 @ 12:36 am

Tha most attractive quality that women whant is a great sense of humor. Because women like to feel comfortable around a man, and sense of humor makes then feel secure and comfortable around you. They like a fun and exciting man.

Comment by Kevin

October 25, 2007 @ 12:38 am

In one short word……..”attraction”!!!!

Comment by Yari

October 25, 2007 @ 12:45 am

wibe!

Comment by Charles

October 25, 2007 @ 12:52 am

Confidence, because it makes them feel secure to be w/ a MAN who is LIVING LIFE.

Comment by Jerome

October 25, 2007 @ 12:53 am

Definitely Confidence!

Confidence also inspires Strength (not physical but mental strength) this is also very attractive to women, someone who stands up for what they believe, someone who is sure of themselves.

Comment by Abk

October 25, 2007 @ 12:57 am

its about tha paper. then every every will work

Comment by Caoltan Strain

October 25, 2007 @ 1:00 am

the ability to make her laugh and subtly confuse her

Comment by JERRY

October 25, 2007 @ 1:22 am

confidence

Comment by Barry W

October 25, 2007 @ 1:43 am

Confidence!

Comment by Robert

October 25, 2007 @ 2:19 am

Personal authority which displays the relaxed confidence necessary to reach her subcontious mind.

Comment by Alejandro

October 25, 2007 @ 2:29 am

Just to be a Man. By being a Man it reflects the right personality that involves, among other stuff, confidence, manage your life, self steem, take your own decisions, always enjoying life whatever you do, and much more…..so you can feel happy and share your happiness……..

Comment by ron

October 25, 2007 @ 2:30 am

Masculinity. Women want a strong/confident and take-charge guy who is in the zone.

Comment by Henry

October 25, 2007 @ 2:41 am

Confidence and Masculinity.

Comment by Todd

October 25, 2007 @ 2:55 am

Self-Respect and a positive outlook on all that you do. This will show you value yourself and how can you have a successful relationship or conversation for that matter. If you don’t respect and value yourself, how can you expect girls, women or anyone else to do the same.

Comment by david

October 25, 2007 @ 3:00 am

confidence in yourself and do not give upif things do not go right .Do not be a wuss or a whiner.

Comment by david

October 25, 2007 @ 3:04 am

confidence in yourself and no a wuss or a whiner. Do not give up if it does not go right .Be yourself

Comment by Nick

October 25, 2007 @ 3:08 am

confidence is the most important quality and feature women are attracted to. Confidence in who you are (strong identity), what you want (goals/aspirations), and in your abilities (skills).

Comment by david dixon

October 25, 2007 @ 3:08 am

confidence in yourself and do not be a wuss or a whiner.Do not give up if it does not go right , and learn from your mistakes. Be yourself is very important and not like all the others .

Comment by JASON

October 25, 2007 @ 3:18 am

be confident and ceat an identity for yourself.

Comment by Cyrus

October 25, 2007 @ 3:25 am

Confidence

Comment by Kalitor

October 25, 2007 @ 3:30 am

Confidence

Comment by Vijay

October 25, 2007 @ 3:33 am

A “mystery element” that she cannot understand – so that she can wrap him around her fingers and try to unravel him while attempting to commandeer him so he can “serve” her whims and fancies as she pleases during her lifetime.

Comment by NOT YOU

October 25, 2007 @ 3:40 am

CONFIDENCE IS KEY, THEN YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY WITH WHERE YOUR LIFE IS GOING YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHAT YOU WANT & HOW TO GO ABUUT GETTING IT NEVER TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER THEN YOU HAVE TO BE FUNNY & CARE FREE TO SOME EXTENT IN OTHER WORDS BEING PLAYFUL AND NEVER LET THE ATTRACTION DIE KEEP POURING THE FUEL TO IT ALSO YOU HAVE TO KNOW WHEN TO TAKE CHARGE OF THINGS

NOT YOU

Comment by Jack

October 25, 2007 @ 3:43 am

In one word what women look for in a man is LEADERSHIP.
This is the true esence of masculinity, this is what it means to be a real man (or alpha-male).
It is the sum of a true leader’s character, attitude and behaviour.
In order to understand the true meaning of this quality, think of what it takes to be a real leader (not the fake ones as in politics, media, and so on..).
A real leader is, first of all, CONFIDENT (and RELAXED) – he knows what will be the outcome of any situation because he is creating that outcome as he want it (he creates the reality).
Proof: Would you follow someone in a crisis situation if it was undecided and wasn’t sure what to do?

He also is INDEPENDENT, SELF-SUFICIENT, STRONG, SMART, DECISIVE and does not need approval from anyone and knows his value(cocky).
Proof: Would you follow someone in a crisis situation if at any step he will ask the opinion of another/s?

A true leader will make others want to follow him, not force them to follow, meaning that he has PERSONAL AUTHORITY and bring others in his reality, not the other way round.
How does he make others want to follow him? – by make them feel great by following him, meaning that has to have a GREAT SENSE OF HUMOR (funny, adventurous) and sound communication skills.

Once you have leadership everything else follows – money, success, social prestige, women, fame…

All women are different and each one could be more attracted to one aspect of this quality or other, but all in fact are attracted to the same quality.

Comment by riccardo

October 25, 2007 @ 3:57 am

1.confidence
2.eye contact
3.smiling
4.mysterious
5. high social status( among over they love to talk)
you still be quiet she do all the talk as you generate where the conversation,wink!
6.Interesting. what i means by this not having to spent every second of the day with.spent time away from this hard but it pays off. Don’t answers every phone call from her, she assumes wow he is so busy maybe i should call him later. let her call you not you calling.
7.be mysterious. when mean talk more about her life then yours. Don;t talk her much very general , you can tell her everything, but be general.let her ask for details.
8. this the least important have fun and make fun of her. IT tells your in relax state of mind
make fun the way she walks, talks, dresses, copy the she does anyway in funny. if she laughs it’s a plus.
don’t be a clown.

Comment by Mike

October 25, 2007 @ 4:05 am

confidence!!!!

did I spell that right? I’m not so sure.

oh, and I guess humor cums second.

Comment by Jeremy

October 25, 2007 @ 4:05 am

The one thing females are looking for is a man who knows himself and is able to communicate that to the test of the world. So basically women are looking for themselves within men to complete the side they are lacking that allows females to express themselves in a natural form.

Comment by Troy

October 25, 2007 @ 4:24 am

Confidence and Control in all situations and a great sense of who you are!

Comment by Momin

October 25, 2007 @ 4:49 am

Brains. Other answers, money which can be gained if one has good brain. Personality could be developed, if one has sharp brain.
Having good brain is only capable to achieve not only other good qualities but also woman. Without brain any thing is usless. Just think a personhaving good brain, doesn’t he has good personality, money, humour or either it can be developed.

Comment by Steve

October 25, 2007 @ 4:53 am

A sense of humor is the most single attribute a women finds attractive.

Comment by Bart

October 25, 2007 @ 5:16 am

There are a number of strong attractors for women….sense of humor (playful), decisive (unwussie) etc.

HOWEVER, the MOST important is CONFIDENCE.

…It’s the type of “confidence” that comes with “a PASSION for life” with confidence you can tease, be playful, use humor. With confidence show what your passions/interests are.

Whether flirting, getting a ph number, the 1st kiss, a date, or seducing her, it ALL starts with CONFIDENCE.

With confidence you can be “indifferent” to her (causing her to chase YOU!)…you can use ‘role reversal humor’ to keep her chasing you (eg you say to her “just because I’m letting YOU buy ME a drink doesn’t mean I’m gonna be “easy”…you need to not just appreciate me for my good looks, I have a BRAIN TOO!).

It doesn’t take money! Or good looks!! How many times have you seen a TOTAL BABE with an ugly poor guy! Watch him and you’ll learn…he’s CONFIDENT to the point of COCKINESS.

It is all about confidence!

Comment by dylan

October 25, 2007 @ 5:25 am

The single most important attribute is to be confident. Without being confident there will be NO meeting girls, thus forget about the rest.
As mentioned above by Bart, money cant buy you everything.

Confidence is definitely the most important attribute for any male to have, be it in business, sport or *meeting girls*.

Comment by Neil Lindsay

October 25, 2007 @ 5:32 am

Ability to laugh at himself.

Comment by jitender

October 25, 2007 @ 5:35 am

i think confidence

Comment by Crow

October 25, 2007 @ 5:44 am

Confidence to approach.
Putting aside one’s pride, even if it means making a fool out of yourself.
The ability to analyze what the girls are interested in and focus on it.
Being decisive.
Make a good first impression.

Comment by Tom

October 25, 2007 @ 6:13 am

A looks for a MAN who will make her feel like a woman.. What makes a man the MAN it depends, but the woman doesn’t judge rationally anyway, she relies just on her feeling. So my opinion is not very precise, but go and collect opinions of women, they will be as precise as mine ))

Comment by norman

October 25, 2007 @ 6:15 am

it will be a combination of things that result in one thing which is knowing how to create attraction, and keep it going, which is harder than creating it.

Comment by lil-D

October 25, 2007 @ 6:21 am

Confidence,pretend that the women is inferior to you, if you can do that she has to prove herself worthy to you

Comment by rehan

October 25, 2007 @ 6:37 am

the most important quality would be… how a man carries himself…or confidence (not carin what others think, ambition)

Comment by allingsos

October 25, 2007 @ 6:54 am

A man that like himself but respect other too.

Comment by Hawk

October 25, 2007 @ 6:56 am

How he makes her feel.

Comment by Steve

October 25, 2007 @ 7:10 am

Definately sense of humor!

Comment by Rick

October 25, 2007 @ 7:28 am

“What do you think is the single most attractive quality that women look for in a guy” That he is Naturally Confident(does not require anyones approval)

“and why?” Because Women are instinctively attracted to a Man that can take care of him self and therefore them. They feel secure and confident around a man that is secure and confident.

Comment by Dennis

October 25, 2007 @ 8:18 am

Confidence….period

Comment by ife love

October 25, 2007 @ 8:29 am

Confidence.

Comment by B-Money

October 25, 2007 @ 9:03 am

Being able to gain rapport with a woman is key. This is resulted in how a guy presents himself. In other words having the attributes of an alpha male (i.e. confident, Cocky & Funny, DHV Stories, etc.). Once you are able to gain rapport with her, everything else falls in place.

Comment by Moe

October 25, 2007 @ 9:12 am

women look for men who can stir up their emotions.
They look for men who are confident and secure.

Comment by harozy

October 25, 2007 @ 9:21 am

personality (because if it good can meake money give you good brain and the womens well fell they in safe hand and you can teak care from her)

Comment by Javier

October 25, 2007 @ 9:42 am

Being funny, getting them to laugh opens doors

Comment by Mark

October 25, 2007 @ 9:43 am

They want something or sombody who is different then anyone else.Makes you unique and they feel that they must find out what your all about.

Comment by Matt

October 25, 2007 @ 10:22 am

Confidence. Confidence shows that you are not needy, and have a positive attitude.

Comment by Chris

October 25, 2007 @ 11:04 am

Confidence.

Comment by Gary

October 25, 2007 @ 11:37 am

Confidence and humour

Comment by conrad

October 25, 2007 @ 11:52 am

Women are dying to be with a man that can hold the most natural Masculine space of humor, playfulness, and service to rendering Her into her natural and most beautiful Feminine space of loving nuturing, caretaking, and surrender into female bliss. I know its a bit esoteric. But to achieve this a guy needs to be totally unselfish in regards to his Own Ego needs of neediness, or overbloated self-importance, to totally devoting himself to serving her staying home in her most natural and loving self.

Comment by doug

October 25, 2007 @ 12:57 pm

confidence

Comment by Sunny

October 25, 2007 @ 1:15 pm

THINK DIFFRENT

HI guys first of all let me say

As a man we have to believe ourself that we are not needy. When ever you show your neediness you are actually giving your power

Who Cares Behaviour…..mean if things come welcome warmly if don’t then don’t run towards them madly. Patient is Virtue

Start Learning “How to communicate with eyes” Very important part

Start Learning “How to you your Smile as a weapon of overcome”

Start Learning “Voice Tone” what pitch you need and how to deliver words

THINK DIFFRNET ALWAYS

So far that’s all for more as me any question at mr_fc@hotmail.com

Comment by Billy Rowe

October 25, 2007 @ 1:17 pm

The most of what women look for is a mans personality. This is like, how the act and how they manage emotions. If a guy does not have a good personality, like does not manage emotions and is obsessed over a girl, a girl won’t bother. Yes you have to show her you love her, but you can’t be so obsessed over her.

That is truly think, is what a women looks for in a guy.
She also looks for a guy who can speak well enough to her. As, being funny, being different, and enjoys her.
Thats called confidence. A girl always looks for confidence within a guy.

Personality and confidence are the 2 major things women look for.

Comment by Vince

October 25, 2007 @ 1:53 pm

Yeah confidence really

It’s not about trying to get the women either, it’s all about enjoying yourself cuz ur the most important person, the man who will stand up for what he believes in

Comment by jamal

October 25, 2007 @ 1:55 pm

confidence

Comment by James

October 25, 2007 @ 2:03 pm

It takes a lot to be successful with women. A strong inner game can give yourself true confidence and comfort when being around with women. You can not build your inner game in just a day. It takes time. A sense of humor is also a good trait so that you can avoid all those dead silences when being around with women. A higher social status of being alpha and having social approval is also highly attractive. Flirting and being a fun guy also is attractive when it comes to women. Building a rapport with a women is extremely important. There is no way you can get a women until bed (unless of course she is seeking a one night stand) without building a strong rapport. Without rapport there is no relationship. Finally willingness to learn and become better can be highly sexy too. Alpha males are not only good at dating but other aspect of their life. So James Brito there are many attractive traits that women look into a guy. I do think that the willingness to learn and become better is probably the single most attractive thing. You might not be Alpha now, (let’s admit few of us were born as natural) but there is a tremendous potential down the road that you will become one.

Comment by Juiceman

October 25, 2007 @ 2:52 pm

The Answer is PERSONALITY!!! It is what attracts any one person to another!! if your a Jedi knight star wars freak playing fake light sabers your a no go!! However if you seem like the Johhny blaze type cocky with a smile no can bring down, then my friend you got PERSONALITY!

Comment by Mike

October 25, 2007 @ 3:11 pm

You see, I’ve looked at a lot of these answers. Some are right on the money and some not so close. Women may care about money but it’s not the single most important thing to them. I can give you the thing I really think is the most important, Satisfaction. It doesn’t matter how confident you are or how samrt, or even how much money. Women want to leave or stay with someone they are satisfied with. Call me crazy but I really think this comes from all of the aspects that have been named in these comments. If you can keep conversation, take her out sometimes, and socialize with her friends and family and be accepted, then my friend you have begun to satisfy them. This goes beyound personality and economics, You have to be satisfying in bed too. Who wants to be with someone who cant do for them the things they need. Women need so much but it doesnt have to be much. That may not make sense so I’ll break it down. Women will be happy if you can take them to a restraunt and get them something simple, they will be happy if you can get into the social circle with little or no effort, women love a man who is real with them. It doesn’t take much to do these things. You dont have to change who you are persay, but improve in your eyes and in theirs and you will have their heart in your hand. I love women and I have found out what it takes to satisfy them. Satisfaction is the key to life. It’s the key to anything. Promotions, VIP entrance, friendships, and love. You have to be able to go outside of your safe zone but stay who you are. Do’t be changed, have some authority in your life. Women will love a man who can be their own person while fulfilling their needs as well. Remember that gentlemen, women want satisfaction. As do men. no one wants lousy oral sex do they? No, of course not. They want something that satisfies them in every aspect of everything they need. that is honestly the true thing women need to be attracted, the feeling that they can and will be satisfied with you for however long they are with you.

Comment by Rick James

October 25, 2007 @ 3:42 pm

Personality and and Alpha man, all the way, bro.

Comment by Al-Wasi Haque

October 25, 2007 @ 3:53 pm

Personality

Comment by Alex Qwaimaphanamae

October 25, 2007 @ 4:01 pm

Attitude & long term visin

Comment by Tyler

October 25, 2007 @ 4:51 pm

Confidence in who you are and where you are going is number one. If you can show a women that you know who you are and have a plan they see a guy who is strong. It shows you can support them without needing a kick in the ass. Confidence is the number one key to impressing anyone. A fumbling idiot who hates himself is never going to sell me a car, but a confident energetic salesman can sell anything. Lots of money works until they see the arrogance, looks work until they see nothing else, and game works for the first little bit until they want to know more. Confidence leads all else.

Comment by James Albert

October 25, 2007 @ 5:47 pm

Hey…I just got your email and there’s alredy two million replies. I’ve only skimmed through the replies and can see that a lot of your readers agree with me that the answer is, of course…

C O N F I D E N C E ! ! !

Any man can prove this to himself any day of the week whenever he gets out in public. To a lesser degree, he can prove it on phone calls and even online.

And though women are RARELY willing OR ABLE to admit what they really want in a man, most of them will admit that confidence is a BIGGIE!

And it’s good you bring this up, James, because exactly how to get THAT confidence is probably the single most important thing a man can learn to better his social life and career…

Comment by Michael

October 25, 2007 @ 6:29 pm

Confidence,leadership qualities, and the ability to be calm, a in your own reality mindset, and humor are the qualities that will get you very far with women.

Comment by John

October 25, 2007 @ 6:38 pm

Looks, handsdown, women are so pretentious and vain thats all they care about bottomline, first impressions and your presence is what really matters.

Comment by Retired Playa

October 25, 2007 @ 6:55 pm

… somebody has got to break up the male circle jerk…may as well be me.

It’s apparent that most of the comments here come from guy’s who are familiar with the current self-proclaimed dating guru’s material, emails and lingo. (”Alpha male”, “personal authority”, “cocky & funny”) all buzz words for particular guru’s… I know them all.

The fact is that there exists NO ebook, course, seminar, email list etc. that can successfully show “any” guy how to attract and get “ANY” girl. That’s B.S. Women are people and cannot be manipulated that easy by “game” and “techniques” no matter how hard you try.

I myself am a “natural” with vast experience in these areas (probably far more than most of the guru’s) but I believe in keeping it real. I’m just a regular guy with a regular (but well-paying job). But my last, and now ex-girlfriend was the favorite cousin of a very, very famous and filthy rich celebrity (you’d know him I named him). She also was best friends of a famous actress. She constantly came in contact with rich; cocky & funny (professional comedians even); “bad-boy types”, alpha males; model types with every reason to be “confident” and so-called “pick-up artists”.

Because she was beautiful these guys ‘always’ tried to get her…even if just for the challenge (because she is beautiful). A couple of these guys were just as famous as her cousin or more (you’d know them too if I named them).

Guess what guys? NONE of these guys could take her from me… and studying ANY guys material would not have changed anything no matter what their ads say.

WHY? Simple… In addition to being her boyfriend, her lover, her partner… I was also her “BEST FRIEND”.

LISTEN CAREFULLY: Screw what ‘guys’ say…listen to the facts from ‘women’. Years ago, a large, national Cosmopolitan magazine survey discovered this fact about women… “Most women LOVE their best friend (who is usually another woman) just as much as their husband or boyfriend and they LIKE them even M O R E !!!

If you think that all the “alpha male”, “Cocky & funny”, “being a jerk”, false machismo, phony charisma “game playing” can trump that…then you’re fooling yourself …or have been fooled big time.

Some of these guys were far FAR better, funnier, cockier, richer; more handsome and more alpha than ANY of your favorite guru’s but NONE of them could take my girl from me no matter how hard they tried or what they offered her. Because she was NOT a gold-digger or a
fool and she understood that both MY friendship… and my LOVE were REAL… and only a sincere guy would have invested the time it took to reach that level of trust.

Again…if you refute this then you are not challenging me but the words out of the mouth of the MAJORITY of the women who responded to the survey.

It’s not that I disagree with the comments here. In fact, most of them are pretty good and most of you seem to “get it”. Confidence, authority, mystery, intrigue; …alpha. All of that works… But a woman will have deeper feelings for her “best friend” than you still…UNLESS you are both her lover AND her best friend… that one person in this world that she can trust with her deepest emotions, hurts, issues and desires.

Connect with her on a truly deep and emotional level that nobody else has ever reached with her and she will resist any other guy out there. (PIMPS even understand this.) Peace.

Comment by Shyam

October 25, 2007 @ 7:38 pm

Attraction

Comment by francis

October 25, 2007 @ 8:49 pm

attractiveness and smooth communication

Comment by Nigel

October 25, 2007 @ 10:05 pm

What women look for (as opposed to ditzy girlies), and what they actually WANT, can often be different things.

If you mean what it is they actually want, I’d say it’s ‘masculinity’. That’s not machismo, ego driven jerk behaviour, but encompasses self-confidence, leadership in the relationship, emotional stability, youthfull sense of fun and a sense of purpose & direction etc.

Comment by Sam Asaare-Darkwa

October 25, 2007 @ 10:48 pm

i think the single most important quality girls look for in a man is confidence and charisma!!With confidence they feel comfortable around the guy.Women love guys with confidence cos it`s sexy to them and they like that.

Comment by paul

October 26, 2007 @ 12:19 am

it has gotta be connection women are programmed to connect with us men.
confidence to be yourself too. and live by your own paradigm.

Comment by Arun

October 26, 2007 @ 1:03 am

Only Manhood ! Because Every woman like those men who never give up,who are in full control….and take care of her without being in her control..and these are the real man traits
Thankyou

Comment by Petrus

October 26, 2007 @ 1:11 am

they look at the wealth that a man have the way he ware,because most the rich guy have even five girlfriend

Comment by Walt

October 26, 2007 @ 1:18 am

“What do you think is the single most attractive quality that women look for in a guy … and why?”

********************************************

“He makes them “LAUGH”!!!!

Why?

Simple: Attraction changes, looks change and fade, life and everything in it modify’s and morf’s into a million (not even just a thousand) different ways….

But make a woman “LAUGH” and she will always remember you, no matter what !!!!

And for decades, (not just days or weeks or mere years), but “decades” to come, through good times and bad times, and forever times, either with you, (hopefully), or even long after you both have parted company !!!!

*****************************************

Comment by JBird

October 26, 2007 @ 2:04 am

Confidence.

Comment by raul

October 26, 2007 @ 4:37 am

That he cares for them and is unaffected by them.

Comment by Fred

October 26, 2007 @ 4:53 am

How to let her feel special.

Comment by Gilbert

October 26, 2007 @ 5:16 am

A guy who dresses well, master himself ; and have his body well-builded.

Comment by fiee

October 26, 2007 @ 5:21 am

To me, i guess there’s lot’s, such as confidence, looks(some women only), but i think the most important is being you and the kid in you, making her blush. Don’t you think its cute? well it is to me.

Comment by Jake

October 26, 2007 @ 6:01 am

The question is Irrelevant….here’s why.

Most guys and gals here (yes, I see you), will agree that there are many things that attracts many different kinds of women. Now the same can be said about men. Think about it…..if a over the hill ex-porn actress who reek with cigarette smoke, lose morals, backstabbing intention, and questionable hygiene comes on to you for your status (money, looks, position,etc), would you be attracted? Some might, question is would You go for that? I hope that gets the point right across.

Nevertheless there is 1 thing that ‘keeps’ attracting attraction.

Could it be that she just that “feeling”, that’s she lucky to have found you. Simply put, I’m not taking about being unreachable by a particular status (fame, money, looks, intelligence, etc..) or her insecurity based on your status, I’m taking about the desire growing beyond curiosity and knowledge to getting a deep sense of appreciation for who you are….and how lucky she is to be with you.

Think about it, if a women wants you for your money or looks or status…..she wants something you ‘have’, mostly likely it’s something that can be separated from you even if you think it can’t. There has been cases of some very attractive women dating good looking, high status male with intention of hooking up But ends up trading up in these social circles, and often taking the status with them, you don’t have to look very far….just look at the entertainment industry. Now, having said that, I want to add that I think the pursuit of happiness is in itself a good thing, if that pursuit includes finding a ‘really attractive’ (to you) and ‘high quality’ (once again to you) women to be with you….then I comment you for the effort….IF it brings you happiness, not grieve.

A few years ago, I was quite amuse that the directors and script writers got a strong 50% of the movie HITCH to hit the nail on the head. Watch it again see if you understand why he only uses ‘Shock and Awe’ to get ‘Attention’…..and then let the women learn for themselves who these men really are to get ‘Attraction’…….would it not be better if she really wants you for who you are then just what you are. And for that matter….women tends to appreciate their men more, when they discover it for themselves. Read that again. Problem is most people cannot distinguish themselves from their accomplishments and endowments…..aha, there lies the problem.

So next time you want to know if she’s still attracted to you, find out (that’s another topic) if she feels amor, fortunate, blessed, enriched (figuratively), entranced, or just lucky to have you….if she does not, make it so. Think about it, even deep love has in occasion found it roots here. Now if you consistently feel the same about her…..then you’re the luckiest man in the world.

Just Jake

Comment by larry

October 26, 2007 @ 6:24 am

females are looking for a strong man who can produce and raise children

Comment by James

October 26, 2007 @ 7:52 am

Every girl has her own specific character traits and/or qualities they find attractive. Generally speaking I think that confidence and personality says a lot about how you roll and the type of guy (person) you are.

I think most women use their intuition to see past the fake smiles and hidden agendas that some of us try to portray.

Some guys are just trying so hard they don’t realize how hurtin’ they look in the process.

Comment by Kingafolaborn

October 26, 2007 @ 8:05 am

A listening ear. Ladies will gravitate most to any man that is ready to listen and show care for them.

Comment by taru

October 26, 2007 @ 8:22 am

a gr8 sense of humour

Comment by Jason Biss

October 26, 2007 @ 8:25 am

I think the thing women are looking for are is a positive attitude and a pretty face , women arent rushed into heavy relationships fast , there not looking at you butt the minute they meet you , even if men are…

Comment by FastEd

October 26, 2007 @ 8:33 am

Someone who can offer her security.

Comment by Karim

October 26, 2007 @ 8:42 am

Definately Confidence, above and beyond all

Comment by Mikhiel

October 26, 2007 @ 8:44 am

Personality. Specifically an ALPHA MAN personality consisting of social skills (knowing how to hold a conversation with her and others effectively), dominance (fear of nothing, getting what you want out of the situation or interaction), confidence (believing in yourself enough to let her see your attractive side, vice being on good behavior…aka being a wimp), and looks (you don’t dress like a bum sporting a few extra hundred pounds and know how to shower/groom). Anything else like money, fame, your car, etc. is BS. I recently had some disasters befall me, and was homeless and jobless and at a check cashing place to cash my last check before hitting the road and leaving the state. I was asked my opinion on something by a woman and the conversation went from there. She picked ME up, and got MY number this time. After I told her I was jobless/homeless in all honesty (why did I care, I was leaving the state.) She STILL called me, so I feel I learned a very valuable lesson about attracting women. That money, fame, the kind of car you have, etc….all these external things don’t mean anything really. She wasn’t the only interested women I’ve come across either during this time.

Comment by Celmiro

October 26, 2007 @ 8:47 am

I do believe that women looks for a cocktail of “good personality…,good character…with some financial stabilities.

May Lord grant them with us,

Besos calientes,

Comment by Oliver

October 26, 2007 @ 8:52 am

Personality

Comment by ope

October 26, 2007 @ 9:03 am

it`s a law of nature that u can`t attrac all womans besides who u are, or what u do.
i know something else that if a woman know u are sex god she will go whit u all the way up even if u act like a wussie.
i don`t know about u guys but i`m goaless in life, and i attrac girls that have big goals, last week i meet a girl. but most of all the girls that i attrac it`s strange but they are water sign as scorpions and pieces.

and now the answer: Things that doesn`t connect her whit the guy.

please send me a email when u post the answers.

Comment by Kevin

October 26, 2007 @ 9:11 am

someone confident with a nice pair of shoes

Comment by Stephen

October 26, 2007 @ 9:36 am

Women Like a man that is visually desirable,healthy,
strong, outgoing, inventive and has good social and
business skills. They want a man who is unique and
fulfills their fantasies. Romance is actualizing
the man’s and woman’s fantasies.

Comment by jorge

October 26, 2007 @ 11:06 am

The women look for men the quality in being STRONG.
I don’t need to be physically fit and muscular to meet girls, but I like to be muscular to give them the best sexual fantasy.
And friendly with she.

Comment by Bruce

October 26, 2007 @ 11:13 am

Confidence, A sense of self, and a sense of Humor. But also being comfortable and protected with a sense of sexual value that is what I have seen with most women..

Comment by Mafdy

October 26, 2007 @ 12:07 pm

Women never look for a single trait .. if it is a single trait issue then guys would be attracting all the women they want .. It is far more deep than that

Comment by Nick

October 26, 2007 @ 2:07 pm

atitude/confedence/personality, then comes the looks, then the CA$H and after that the GAME and the smarts.

oh yea, most women will try to look for noce guy, but hey the jerk/ass hole/bad boy thing is hard to resist.

Comment by edouard

October 26, 2007 @ 2:07 pm

comment by edouard.
I believe that personality, don’t allow her to see that you’re scared will make the difference. be a mature man with women.

Comment by john

October 26, 2007 @ 3:16 pm

being funny

Comment by Rick James

October 26, 2007 @ 3:36 pm

Depends on the woman, some like cocky, funny, others like other things…but it all comes down to confidence.

Comment by Bux

October 26, 2007 @ 5:59 pm

Knowing yourself, your desires, goals and know where you want to go in life without being affected by other peoples judgement

Comment by sammy

October 26, 2007 @ 6:24 pm

We talk of humour,we think of security,we think of what we continously do to make them happy but to my realization what makes a man is not the immitation of the whites man libido but the actualization that everything is as real as they see it day after dat.
God granted man a choice to make,decision to stand for but he never gave him the right to over rule.
Think of it we all play part in what we are to build together give her that in life and you will always lead by the virtual that you are all great of friends.

Comment by Ashraf

October 26, 2007 @ 8:29 pm

confidence,self respect,humor,sxual value,not greedy

Comment by Anton

October 26, 2007 @ 8:37 pm

Security through confidence.
It’s a deep rooted fundamental for every female!

Comment by bijour

October 26, 2007 @ 8:44 pm

confidence and a good sense of humor, can give any women u desire

Comment by Marc

October 26, 2007 @ 9:08 pm

Confidence because women view this as strength and the ability to provide for and protect them.

Comment by wolfgang B.

October 26, 2007 @ 10:39 pm

Confidence with assurance of compassion add a smile of understanding and your on the top list ,

i find many guys are just a bit to full of themselves
and forget what the other party is really after .
i find by checking out my new connection ,it just pays to stop and observe and walk in her shoes just a little bit, with this in mind your body luggage improves and becomes a natural flow, that’s adjusted just for the one you have picked out
till later just love reading your page WOLGANG B.

Comment by eddy

October 27, 2007 @ 1:32 am

the thing women look for is self-confidence and guys who are funny as they enjoy funny people’s company..

Comment by Arsalan

October 27, 2007 @ 2:40 am

hmmm i think ur looks must b more attractive n u’ve got a large sum of money….

Comment by Emmanuel-kelvin

October 27, 2007 @ 2:42 am

what makes a seed a forest is what is inside the seed. in other words, the personality of the man matters alot even before material things. though this goes with certain caliber of girls. cos “birds of a feather flock together.

Comment by Smeeel

October 27, 2007 @ 2:49 am

Confidence, Alpha Male, sense of humor and you need to know how to groom yourself!

Don’t be too cocky just enough to make her laugh – not upset her! And YOU take control, lead the way sometimes make decisions.

Comment by Nnadi Emmanuel-kelvin

October 27, 2007 @ 3:20 am

Any relatonship that makes money its base, easily colapses cos its NOT LOVE but INFATUATION.therefore,quality rather than money cos ‘within man himself is to be found substances to cure his diseases’

Comment by Nicole

October 27, 2007 @ 3:25 am

what teh hell…money? guys ur really think we r taht stupid? teh thing every girl look in teh guy is : great sense of humour, being always there for her, honest, having some aim in life what ever if its a work , a sport goal a money or something else as soon as u have some ambition..

Comment by reuel

October 27, 2007 @ 3:26 am

confidence and charisma is the way to go

Comment by David

October 27, 2007 @ 3:46 am

confidence in who he is, what he wants, where he’s going, so he can be in this moment, completely at ease, without NEEDING her

Comment by sammy

October 27, 2007 @ 4:26 am

In a class where you have to teach someone about how to be a gentleman in a ladies world i believe is as simple as treating her not as a student but make her appreciate she is a student of value and of great ability despite her failures.
Real gentlemen are not only charming,confident,secure and believe that they rule but they remain firm and principled in what they do no matter the circumstances.

Comment by Chuck

October 27, 2007 @ 4:50 am

Confidence. The rest is secondary

Comment by John

October 27, 2007 @ 5:14 am

Confidence

Comment by John

October 27, 2007 @ 5:17 am

Confidence is #1

Comment by manick saudi

October 27, 2007 @ 5:18 am

SAFETY: THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING A LADY WANTS TO HAVE FROM A MAN. IF SHE FEELS SAFE WITH YOU AND THEN NATURALLY SHE WILL GIVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT FROM HER, BECAUSE SHE WILL BE COMFORTABLE WHILE FULFILLING THE WANTS OF THE MAN.

Comment by ILANGO

October 27, 2007 @ 5:27 am

IN MY OPINION SAFETY IS THE FIRST THING A GIRL WANTS FROM A MAN. A GIRL MUST FEEL THAT GOING WITH A PARTICUALR GUY OF FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM, OR A DATING WITH HIM MUST BE SAFETY FROM ALL POINT OF VIEW.
IF SHE THINKS THAT THE GUY CAN SAFEGUARD HER FROM CRIMINALS, GANGSTERS,OTHER MEN WHOM SHE DOES’T LIKE,
OR IN ANY UNWANTED AND UNEXPECTED SITUATION, THEN OFCOURSE SHE WILL HAVE GREAT IMPRESSION ON THAT GUY AND WILL NOT HESITATE TO GO WITH HIM ANYWHERE FOR ANYTHING.

SO A LADY GIVES PRIORITY FOR HER SAFETY FIRST AND THAT IS THE QUALITY ALWAYS SHE LOOKS IN A MAN

Comment by Obie Hunt

October 27, 2007 @ 5:57 am

Confidence,(it’s been said a million times). I was a pretty good looking guy and it got my head in the door, but I lacked confidence and needless to say I didn’t get many girls. With confidence, you don’t have to worry about what you’re going to say to a woman and if you should approach, all the neurotic things that make you lose out. Confidence pretty much takes care of all that and in practically all areas of life.

Comment by haikal

October 27, 2007 @ 6:05 am

Able to win her heart.

Comment by Gary King

October 27, 2007 @ 11:19 am

Confidence is good, but I have to go with a gentle and kind spirit. I guess in a word, I’m talking about courtesy and sensitivity.

Comment by tingles

October 30, 2007 @ 1:32 am

Respectfulness when you respect theres now where u cant be accepted

Comment by Elijah

October 30, 2007 @ 3:35 pm

The answer is that the man has to stick out… he must show the woman that he’s not looking for a girl… that he is social… and his social status…

Comment by rus

October 30, 2007 @ 5:27 pm

its self love. A man who loves himself is a powerful force to be reckoned with. When a woman is with someone who loves himself, she starts loving herself. This is bound to happen because people get a glimpse of who the other person is when relating. I remember the times when I actually ‘fell’ into the same state of mind of the other person when conversing. I like being with one of my uncles. This man is totally a life loving man,and you can actually feel the good vibes in his company. Just being with him burns my worries,bitter feelings to ashes. The women flock around him even if he is not very rich,and im not surprised.

Comment by Derek

October 31, 2007 @ 1:40 am

‘Personality’ is the greatest. This is because most girls who think about a family would want to be with a man who would always be there to care and love both her and the kids.