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Social Studies: The Top 5 Social Skills You Need to Succeed with Women

Monday, January 8, 2007

posted by james

It’s a fact: If you want to score with hot babes, you’ve gotta be the master of your domain.  You have to master your social skills.

It’s easy to believe that looks are all-important, but it’s WRONG.  As Joseph Matthews, author of "The Art of Approaching Women," says, "The single biggest, most limiting belief guys have that keeps them from succeeding is the belief that LOOKS MATTER." 

Much more important to women is how well you interact with others—men AND women alike.  You can be the best-looking guy in the world, but if you can’t muster anything to say to a group of people, or don’t know how to hold their interest and make them WANT to get to know you, then you’re not going to attract women.  Period. 

The good news is, if you do know how to socially interact with people, nothing can stop you from attracting the gorgeous, high-quality women you desire!  Even if you’re short, bald, fat, ugly, or all four, if you know HOW to make people laugh, HOW to captivate an audience’s interest, and HOW to build and share connections and relationships with people…then you’ll have no problem attracting gorgeous women! 

With that said, let’s look now at the Top 5 social skills for impressing and attracting women everywhere:

1. Cocky Comedy–specifically, busting someone’s balls and teasing. 

As I describe in great detail in my 30-lesson attraction audio course, humor is one of the most powerful weapons around for building attraction.  But the purpose of humor isn’t to make people laugh; it’s to show you have control and an ability to make people feel better in your presence.  A guy who makes people laugh improves people’s moods and makes them want him to hang around–a truly awesome power to hold.

As David DeAngelo says,

"If you want to be funny, get a joke book.  If you want to learn how to make a woman feel attraction for you by the way you talk to her and communicate with her, then focus what you’re going to learn on CREATING AND AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION." 

This can be done in several ways, but the best are the funny ways that show that you are ABOVE her and don’t NEED her.  Generally this means being a bit of a jerk and breaking a girl’s balls, especially in front of her friends. 

One example is teasing a girl in front of her friends.  A guy who has the balls to say, "Man, does this girl EVER shut up?" or "Is she always this annoying?" to a girl’s group of friends, commands awesome power.  He will quickly fit into the group, make them laugh, and come off as a very cool, attractive guy, all in one. 

Why?  Because doing something ballsy and somewhat rude makes people remember you.  People are bored everyday: in the morning they wake up, have a boring breakfast, drive their monotonous commute to work, get bored at work, drive the same monotonous commute back home, eat their boring dinner, watch their boring television, hang out with the same boring people, go to bed, wake up, and do it all over again. 

They’re looking for something new…so it’s YOUR job to break their state!  Give them something different, something funny, something that makes them say, "I can’t believe he just said that!"  Breaking a girl’s balls–pointing out her ridiculous skirt, or some weird personality trait–takes people out of their element, makes them laugh, and creates an emotional connection to you.  They remember you, and want to see you again. 

Most importantly, they want their girlfriends to see you again!  So if you can impress one girl in a group, you can impress them all!  And that’s the quickest way to the sexual intimacy and attraction you so desire. 

For more detailed information on how to use these skills for social mastery–and high-powered, sexual attraction–check out "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM." 

2. Story-Telling

Work on your story-telling as much as possible.  A guy who can captivate an audience with awesome stories that draw listeners in impresses the HELL out of women and makes himself very attractive.  It’s a combination of power, intelligence, and social maneuvering, all in one: a very attractive combination.

For more great information on how to tell stories, I recommend checking out Joseph Matthews’ "The Art of Approaching Women".  He has an awesome chapter on how to impress women with the art of storytelling, as well as how to improve your storytelling skills.

But you don’t have to have travelled around the world or scaled Mt. Everest to have an impressive story; what it all comes down to is how you present your story.  That means your tonality, pitch, volume: all kinds of ways in which you talk.  Great story-tellers take an otherwise boring tale and make it spell-binding. 

For more great information on how to tell a compelling story, check out Renee Grant-Williams’ excellent book, Voice Power.

3. Being the Center of People’s Universe

Girls don’t want someone who kisses people’s asses.  They want a guy in control, a guy whose universe only revolves around one person: HIMSELF.  An attractive guy doesn’t need other people for happiness and validation; he only needs himself

As David DeAngelo says,

"A woman wants a man who is strong enough to attract her, hold her in his orbit, and keep her there…but the thing that really keeps her ‘attracted’ (feeling attraction) is the tension that comes from not quite being ‘all the way there.’" 

That is, you have to be able to bring a group of people closer…but not too close.  Keep a girl curious, keep her wanting more.  This can be done through teasing and pushing her away–slap her wrist or make jokes about her in front of her friends.  Tell her to stop following you: "Man, stop stalking me, you’re weirding me out!" 

Even better, walk away just when things are getting good.  Say you have to go check on your friends or go somewhere else.

For example, if you’ve told a great story that has everyone laughing, leave just when they’re all cracking up.  Show that your universe is so big that you have bigger things to do.  This will give people–particularly your target–time to reflect on what a cool guy you are, and make them come chasing to hear more.  They’ll beg you to stay, but insist that you have to go.  This will make them want you all the more, and have your target chasing after you and throwing herself at you.  Attraction gold!

4. Vocal Celibacy

This is an excellent, oft-overlooked skill that relationship expert, Carlos Xuma, recommends in "Secrets of Becoming the Alpha Man."

Believe it or not, sometimes the best skill is actually just to shut up.  That’s right: a man who listens draws people in.  Ever notice how women, and even men, flock to the guys who sympathize and listen to them?

Well, you don’t have be a soft, Dr. Phil type to be a good listener.  In fact, listening brings with it a large amount of POWER.  By pausing for a few seconds after someone says something, making them wait for you to respond, you make them feel uneasy, expecting…and, in the case of women, more attracted to you.  Because you show you have the upper hand.  You have control.

As Xuma writes,

"The next time a woman asks you a question, PAUSE for a little bit.  Keep pushing the limit until you cannot answer the question at all.  She’ll try to make you feel uncomfortable, but if you can handle that it’ll increase your confidence immeasurably." 

More importantly, it will make HER more confident in you…she can’t help but want to be drawn into your universe.  You’re unlike anyone she’s ever met before!

What is the fifth social skill you need to attract women? 

Well, I can’t tell you it all here.  This last one is so good that it would be a crime for me to only write a few paragraphs about it on a blog!  This is the real deal, the make or break, the skill that all the naturals, all the gurus, all the pick-up masters MUST use to get into a woman’s heart.  It will make not only your target attracted to you, but her whole group of friends, as well!

You can find out all about this vitally important social skill in the "Projecting Value" and "How to Impress the Hell Out of Every Woman You Meet" lessons, available on my spectacular "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM" interactive audio course.  Along with these lessons you’ll learn the essentials of story-telling, cocky comedy, listening power, body language, and the other essential social skills YOU need to sexually attract women everywhere

This is great stuff that you can’t miss out on.  So why not get started today?  Become a master of social skills, and see your popularity and attraction soar.


Comment by Girald

January 9, 2007 @ 12:15 pm

This is truly amazing stuff. Thank you, thank you, thank you james!

Comment by Ringo

January 9, 2007 @ 4:01 pm

Fantastic, really fantastic. I have been to other sites and havent read anything liek this. James, you really show us men the stuff we need to know, not just for “seduction” and “sex” but just in growing as people and improving our lives. I am so glad I came across your course, it is the best value I’ve had and I can’t wait for new information.
James, please keep up the great work!

Comment by Semion -Uganda

January 9, 2007 @ 6:23 pm

James, your work is real.It is what every man ought to get across to really get there.Your skills are indeed superb.I have used most of them you recommend and I have always been sucessful in keeping my relationship with my girlfriend lively.Good work James.Keep it up

Comment by kuulemiin

January 10, 2007 @ 1:47 am

some very good tips here.
how i wish i knew them before… but hey…it is never too late to learn….right!
Thenks….Jake’s Data!

Comment by kurt

January 10, 2007 @ 2:24 am

Hi, I’m interested in your materials; however, I have
already purchased Dave D’s course. I found it very helpful. How would you say your material is different?
Just curious.


Kurt Militano

Comment by Dan

January 10, 2007 @ 1:43 pm

I appreciate your blog. The information I gather here, has convinced me to buy your course. So far it has helped me a lot..last night i went to a bar and talked to 5 hot women. Got the phone numbers of all of them and went on a date last night. Won’t say what happened, because a gentleman never tells, but let me tell you, it was AWESOME! ;0
Cheers to you James. guys, go get this book!

Comment by amerigo perrella

January 10, 2007 @ 3:50 pm

hello james amerigo perrella here i have trouble atracting, dating and meeting women due to some problems i have with anxiety, stress,nervousness, ocd,i am on antideppressants and see a psychologist, i am 38 years old and never dated or made love to a woman before. could you please give me some advice and information on what i can do about this thankyou sincerly amerigo perrella. ps your website and emails i recieve from you is really cool and great keep up the great work thanks again.

Comment by Sam

January 10, 2007 @ 8:24 pm

hi i really enjoy reading your stuff James!!Good work done and keep it up!!

Comment by Xiyaan

January 11, 2007 @ 7:13 am

What is the fifth social skill?
Where I can find it?
What is it about?

I really want to see that one

Comment by B-Boy

January 11, 2007 @ 7:41 am

Xiyaan, I found the fifth social skill in his course. It was actually quite good, worth checking out. he actually has more than 5 social skills in the course, I really liked all of them. worth checking out, I think the sign-up page is something like this



Comment by chris

March 22, 2007 @ 5:12 am

please how do i get a copy of your books posted to me since i leave in far away nigeria, in africa. please let me know as soon as possible. thanks

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