{"id":45,"date":"2006-10-31T04:33:45","date_gmt":"2006-10-30T16:33:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/2006\/10\/31\/what-to-say-to-women\/"},"modified":"2006-10-31T13:33:39","modified_gmt":"2006-10-31T01:33:39","slug":"what-to-say-to-women","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/2006\/10\/31\/what-to-say-to-women\/","title":{"rendered":"The Truth Hurts"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>&ldquo;The truth is rarely pure and never simple.&rdquo;<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Oscar Wilde<\/em>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Trust and honesty are two things that are&nbsp;talked a lot about in relationships.&nbsp; Certainly, a strong relationship is one in which both partners communicate in an upfront and honest manner.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>But sometimes, the truth is the last thing your partner wants to hear&#8230;and it can get you into a <em>lot <\/em>of trouble!<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s look at some topics you <em>never <\/em>want to talk about with your girlfriend, fiancee, or wife!:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Never talk about&nbsp;physical intimacy&nbsp;you had with ex&#8217;s.&nbsp; <\/strong>Nothing will get you into more trouble than giving too many details about your ex&#8217;s.&nbsp; Your lover may ask you about how it was&#8230;but don&#8217;t give her the answer!&nbsp; Simply move the conversation along to other topics.&nbsp; You can do this by teasing her and complimenting her simultaneously, making the whole question look silly: &quot;What?&nbsp; Are you jealous?&nbsp; C&#8217;mon, you know you&#8217;re the best, why do you even need to ask?&quot;<\/li>\n<li><strong>Never talk about your partner&#8217;s poor finances. <\/strong>This is a big no-no, an absolutely big mistake.&nbsp; Even if you&#8217;re paying for everything and your girlfriend doesn&#8217;t make nearly as much money as you do, don&#8217;t make the mistake of saying you pay for everything and contribute to all the purchases.&nbsp; This is a quick way of getting into a big fight that goes nowhere!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Never discuss your partner&#8217;s faults in a negative way.&nbsp; <\/strong>Nothing wrong with letting your partner know that she&#8217;s doing something wrong or needs some help, such as if she gets boozed up every night and offends people, or is too sloppy around the house.&nbsp; But bringing up your partner&#8217;s faults day in and day out, especially in a sardonic, bitter, or just plain mean fashion, will not accomplish anything.&nbsp; Not only will your partner come to resent you for always picking on her flaws, but she&#8217;ll never change and very likely leave you, as well.&nbsp; Girls need to be understood, not criticized.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Never, ever talk badly about her weight!<\/strong>&nbsp; In fact, don&#8217;t even bring up the subject at all unless you can say nice things about her, such as, &quot;Oh, have you lost weight?&quot; or &quot;Wow, your body&#8217;s looking really great today!&quot;&nbsp; Too skinny, too fat: doesn&#8217;t matter.&nbsp; Either way, girls will be hurt by what you say, so stay away from this topic unless you can say something positive.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Of course, there is a certain place for the truth; no relationship is complete without it.&nbsp; While you shouldn&#8217;t talk&nbsp;about <em>sex <\/em>with past lovers, that doesn&#8217;t mean you can&#8217;t describe your relationships with her.&nbsp;&nbsp;Showing that you have nothing to hide is a big element of trust.&nbsp; Even if you had a bad break-up with a past girlfriend, it&#8217;s up to you to let your present lover know about it.&nbsp; The more&nbsp;you hide from her, the more&nbsp;trouble you&#8217;ll get into later.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So give your partner the truth&#8211;just not the <em>painful <\/em>truth.&nbsp; As Pietro Aretino says:<\/p>\n<p><em>&ldquo;I love you, and because I love you, I would sooner have you hate me for telling you the truth than adore me for telling you lies.&rdquo;<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&ldquo;The truth is rarely pure and never simple.&rdquo; &nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; -Oscar Wilde&nbsp; Trust and honesty are two things that are&nbsp;talked a lot about in relationships.&nbsp; Certainly, a strong relationship is one in which both partners communicate in an upfront and honest manner.&nbsp; But sometimes, the truth is the last thing your partner wants to hear&#8230;and it [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[45,25,49],"class_list":["post-45","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-advice-relationship","tag-dating-tips","tag-what-to-say-to-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}