{"id":15,"date":"2006-06-04T12:30:44","date_gmt":"2006-06-04T00:30:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/2006\/06\/04\/got-to-be-real\/"},"modified":"2006-10-02T09:29:41","modified_gmt":"2006-10-01T21:29:41","slug":"got-to-be-real","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/2006\/06\/04\/got-to-be-real\/","title":{"rendered":"Got To Be Real"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You know that Coca-Cola&nbsp;slogan, &quot;Always the real thing&quot;?&nbsp; It doesn&#8217;t just apply to soft drinks.&nbsp; It also applies to relationships.&nbsp;No matter how many dating seminars you attend, how many books you read, or how many seduction services you subscribe to, none of the lessons are gonna matter if they don&#8217;t fit with YOUR&nbsp;personality.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In his interview with dating guru DeAngelo, relationship expert Carlos Xuma says, &quot;I feel like an idiot if I&#8217;m just reciting somebody&#8217;s regurgitated lines.&nbsp; I have to make it personal to me.&quot;&nbsp; I think a lot of guys can relate to that.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So you have to make&nbsp;your approach, your style,&nbsp;personal to you.&nbsp; But you also have to make it personal to a woman.&nbsp; Xuma makes the excellent point that if you use standard, recycled lines on a woman, you make HER feel standard and recycled, as well!&nbsp; It&#8217;s as if she&#8217;s a carbon copy of every other woman who&#8217;s been branded with the cow-poke of pick-up lines.<\/p>\n<p>Treat her specially, like someone unique, and she&#8217;ll treat YOU as someone special and unique, as well.<\/p>\n<p>But how can you expect her to respect you, if you <em>dis<\/em>respect her by treating her like all the other woman out there?&nbsp; There&#8217;s the failure of overused pick-up lines: They&#8217;re not original.&nbsp; And they&#8217;re usually not part of who YOU are.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>As Xuma points out, in deciding how to approach girls, sometimes the best &quot;style&quot; is actually <em>no<\/em> style.&nbsp; Don&#8217;t do what works for other guys; do what works for <em>you<\/em>.&nbsp;&nbsp;I hope that the methods I teach in &quot;How to Be Irresistible to Women&quot; will work for you.&nbsp; In fact, I&#8217;m confident they will.&nbsp; But if they don&#8217;t fit your personality, then don&#8217;t use them!&nbsp; Instead of prescribing to just one method&#8211;or worse, to ALL of them&#8211;try to use pieces of <em>each<\/em> of them,&nbsp;until you&#8217;re totally prepared for anything.&nbsp; It&#8217;s nice to have a Plan A, but having a back-up Plan B, C, D, and E is even better!<\/p>\n<p>Xuma suggests being like Bruce Lee, who didn&#8217;t just one martial art style for himself, but a collection of various ones.&nbsp; In the end,&nbsp;when he became a star, Lee&nbsp;didn&#8217;t practice just one style; he practiced so many, that he didn&#8217;t really have any one style.&nbsp; He just did what fit him.<\/p>\n<p>So it should be for you.&nbsp; You should be the Bruce Lee of relationships!&nbsp; And, just like Coca-Cola: &quot;Always the real thing.&quot;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know that Coca-Cola&nbsp;slogan, &quot;Always the real thing&quot;?&nbsp; It doesn&#8217;t just apply to soft drinks.&nbsp; It also applies to relationships.&nbsp;No matter how many dating seminars you attend, how many books you read, or how many seduction services you subscribe to, none of the lessons are gonna matter if they don&#8217;t fit with YOUR&nbsp;personality.&nbsp; In his [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[43,13,14,21],"class_list":["post-15","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-attitude","tag-inner-game","tag-relationships","tag-what-women-want"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=15"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/15\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=15"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=15"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.000relationships.com\/towomen\/live\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=15"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}