How to Attract and Seduce Women

Reading Female Body Language, Part 1

April 26th, 2018
From James:

How to Be Irresistible to Women Webcast What's up? Thanks for joining me. In today's edition of the How to Be Irresistible to Women Newsletter Series, exclusive to members and newsletter subscribers of, I share with you some of the keys to body language: how to recognize good, winning posture, how to spot bad body language, how to read female body language for success, and so much more. You'll definitely want to check out some of my secrets to success in today's lesson. Click on the button below to learn more about winning body language!

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Today’s lesson is called “Body Language Secrets 101, Part 1." In this lesson you'll learn

  • The importance of body language,
  • What body language works, what body language doesn't
  • and finally, Great Body Language Resources

You'll definitely want to stay tuned for Part 2 next week, when I'll go over:

  • How to read female body language: when she's interested, when she's not,
  • 7 Great Ways to Flirt, and
  • Positioning yourself for success: the importance of correctly positioning in a bar

For now, let's get on to some interesting body language facts. Just to show you how important body language is, consider these stats:

  • People form 90% of their opinion about you in the first 90 seconds
  • Communication is 60% nonverbal and 40% verbal.
  • Of the verbal portion, only about 7% is accomplished by the words themselves!
  • The other 30% is done by how the words are spoken, inflection, and tone of voice
  • Nonverbal signs (eye contact, gestures, position relative to the speaker, etc.) have five times more impact than verbal signals!

Pretty impressive, ay? So lest you think you can play the game without knowing how to show or read female body language, think again! If you can master your body language, other areas, such as looks, height, and wealth, just won't matter. So let's delve into this fascinating topic. It's time for "Body Language Secrets 101, Part 1" right here, on "How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Newsletter Series!"

Let's start with Part 1: Good and Bad Body Language.

First thing you need to know about body language, it's not rocket science. When you think about it, it's really common sense. If a woman is looking at you intensely, or fidgeting around with her hair and makeup, clearly she's into you. Things are not much different than they were in grade school; if someone acts bashful and nervous around another person, he or she is very much interested. Conversely, if her legs are crossed and she's not looking at all in your direction, clearly she's not into you. If the focus isn't on you and is instead on her drink or other people, it's time to move on. Don't give up on the girl, just tell her you're busy and have to go talk to your friend Jasmine or any other sexy name. When you say that you've got to talk to other girls, just watch as her body language changes. Don't hesistate; just move on. She'll come chasing.

The second thing you need to know about body language is that generally, slow is cool, and the less movement you make, the better. Think about it: If you're rushing around the club like you've got something stuck up your butt, what kind of message is that going to send to women? Furthermore, if you're fidgeting around, turning your neck everywhere and flapping your arms around, what do you think women will think of that?? Your body language should reflect how you want a woman to think of you. If you want to come off as calm, confident, and assured, you have to use calm, confident, and assured body language. Generally that means taking things slow, like you have all the time in the world, and remaining open and relaxed. Don't move around a lot, just be at ease with your surroundings, even if they're not perfect. Believe me, women will catch on that you're a guy they should check out.

So, quickly, 5 signs of really bad body language, and how to reverse them, include:

  1. Fidgeting and Flapping Your Arms. This shows insecurity and unease. Bad traits to communicate. Instead, put your thumbs ONLY in your pockets (which is actually a sign of male virility!), or failing that, just
  2. Leaning In a lot. If you're constantly leaning into a girl before you really get to know her, you're showing dependence and a lack of control. Instead of having control of the conversation, SHE has it, because you're leaning into her, a move that shows she's on top. It'll appear as if you're actively seeking her approval, and not sure in yourself enough to conduct the conversation yourself. So instead, lean back and let HER draw into you. This subtly gives you control of the situation, and forces her to lean into you to hear what YOU, the controller, have to say.
  3. Slouching. Definitely a no-no. Practice good posture: ALWAYS have your back up and your straight. Slouching says that you're lazy and unconfident; good posture suggests confidence and masculinity. Which one do YOU think works better?
  4. Looking Down or Away From Her. If you're not meeting her gaze, you're coming off as weak and unsure. Reverse this by giving her a constant eye gaze. Don't worry about coming off as creepy; in fact, if she shies away from meeting your eyes, chances are it means she's really into you and too shy to show it!
  5. Closed Arms. Closed arms are a closed door. Don't kick her out of your world, invite her in! Make sure your arms are apart, not together. Put your arms at your side or in your pocket instead.

Now let's look at what makes good body language. GOOD BODY LANGUAGE communicates that you are at ease and independent; you don't need a woman's validation to feel confident. Leil Lowndes, author of the outstanding book, "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You," uses the "SOFTEN" acronym for guidance. This is how it goes:


S is for SMILE. A smile makes you look fun and confident.

O is for Open body. Face your target, nose to nose, belly to belly. Don't close or cross your arms; keep them open in a relaxed, inviting manner.

F is for FORWARD lean. Don't lean back lean INTO your target. Stand or sit just a liiiittle too close, to show you are physically attracted. Believe me, she'll appreciate it.

What are T, E, and N? Well, I can't give away all the good information here. If you'd like to find out, just check out my lesson on Body Language and Tonality in "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM," my dynamic, 30-lesson audio course. You can get it for less than the price of a tank of gas right here:

I teach you lots about how to read female body language, awesome techniques for practicing your own body language, and so much more. So check it out today:

Got it? Good. 

Finally, I want to share with you some great body language resources. There are lots of great books and websites that describe and display good and bad body language. The best one, by far, is Allan Pease's "Body Language." It has lots of pictures, descriptions, and more on what body language works, what body language doesn't.

Next is How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You, by Leil Lowndes, which I mentioned before. It's an excellent book that really empowers you to use your body language for attraction. Words alone do not attract women; you have to remember that 60% of communicate is through non-verbal signals. Lowndes shows you what are the best signals to give, so check out her book, How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.

If you're interested in the role of body language from an evolutionary standpoint, then check out The Anatomy of Love, by Helen Fisher. It's a famous book that delivers some really fascinating information about how attraction works.

If you want a GREAT e-book, The Tao of Dating, by Dr. Alex Benzer, is for you. I highly recommend this fascinating read. In addition to all the great body language Dr. Alex shares, he also teaches you some great pearls of wisdom, particularly for your inner game. You'll learn some great self-hypnosis methods, and how to easily interact with women. I HIGHLY suggest The Tao of Dating.

And finally, check out The Importance of Body Language, by Wes Mantooth and Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship and Dating, by R. Don Steele. Both are great guides to body language.

That's it for this lesson on "Body Language Secrets 101, Part 1." In this lesson I shared with you some of the things you need to know to use body language for your attraction advantage, including:

  • The importance of body language,
  • What body language works, what body language doesn't
  • and finally, Great Body Language Resources

If you really want to learn more, check out my "How to Be Irresistible to Women PREMIUM" interactive audio course. It's got all the information you need to read female body language, flirt, use your voice for maximum effect, position yourself in the right spots at a bar, and make the signs that will give women an inner gut attraction for YOU. It's all available now, for instant download to your computer or I-Pod, at:

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Thanks for listening to this lesson on "Body Language Secrets 101." I'll see you next time here on "How to Be Irresistible to Women: The Newsletter Series."

Because it's YOUR turn!


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