"How to Be Irresistible to Women" 6-Part Mini-CourseDAY 5: What to Do if You're Not Her "Type"June 16th, 2026
Hey, welcome back to the How to Be Irresistible to Women 6-Part Mini-Course! Yesterday we looked at:
And over the next two days we’ll be covering:
The first thing you should know is that women are almost always willing to let their preferences slide. Women are not as logical in their thinking as men and don’t usually specifically know what they want. They might think they know … but I’ve seen over and over again that they don’t. I want to start by telling you a true story… A female friend of mine, Jessica, used to tell me that she was only attracted to blond-haired, blue-eyed guys. Then she met Lee, a half-Chinese guy, who blew her away from the moment she met him. I asked her, "But what about the only blondes thing?" "Who cares?" she said, with a huge grin on her face. "Lee is cool. Why would I even think about his hair color?" Jessica, like many women, had some idea of what she found attractive in guys, but she was willing and open to let those preferences slide when she found someone with the perfect personality for her. Jessica found that what she thought she liked and what she actually liked were two different things. Some women may think that they have to have a guy with a certain trait. They may only date jocks, or guys with black hair, or guys with a certain height. But attraction doesn't work that way. The lesson of the story is this. DON'T LET A WOMAN'S PREFERENCES AFFECT YOU IN ANY WAY. Bald? Too short? Freckles? Not rich enough? It doesn't matter! Women love to be surprised, and falling for the guy that they never thought they would is a great one! You know that you are an attractive, desirable guy with a lot to offer the woman you want. So what if she never thought about dating a plumber? So what if she's used to blond guys? What you have to offer her is something DIFFERENT, something adventurous, something against her usual predictable type. That's a selling point – not a downer! But you've got to have the confidence to erase from your mind any doubting thoughts. Forget any preconceived image of the guys she usually dates. You can give her what she hasn't had from any of those other guys – because you're not like them. Now you've got to make her aware of what she's missing. If you play music and she always dates guys who plays sports, drop hints about the cool things that you and your buddies do. Invite her to come along to a jam session. Intrigue her about this aspect of life that she hasn't experienced. If you come from a different background, talk about the cool traditions you have in your culture. Get her excited about this whole other world that she's never known. Whatever you do, DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF and DON'T WAIT FOR HER APPROVAL. Never think for one second that you're not good enough for her because she only dates rich guys. Men who require validation are UNATTRACTIVE to women. A woman will notice if a guy changes himself to fit what he imagines her type to be. So DON'T DO IT. You'll only embarrass yourself, and you'll often find that she'll keep ignoring you anyway. Remember: if a guy is right, a girl will throw her preconceived notion of her “type” straight out the window. That guy could be you! You just have to have the CONFIDENCE to ignore the "type" and the PERSONALITY to be who you are and let her in on the great stuff she's been missing all this time.
What to Do If You're Much Older/Younger A lot of guys psych themselves out by thinking that a woman who's a lot younger (or older) than them wouldn't be interested. Instead of showing up as themselves, they let the age difference make a difference in how they act. They make comments like, "I saw this great band the other night - but you wouldn't know who they are, 'cause you're too young," or, "I just can't stay out all night like I used to," or, "This was before your time, but...." Don't draw any attention to the age difference. If it doesn't matter to you, it won't matter to her. But the minute you become self-conscious about it, she'll pick up on your feelings and start to think that it isn't right to enjoy being with you. The worst thing you can do, on the other hand, is to act like you're her age. You're not, so don't go changing how you dress or picking up words she uses. Instead, draw attention to the cool aspects of your life that she may not have access to because of her age. If you're a lot older than she is, you've probably had life experiences that she can only dream of. The places you've lived, the accomplishments you've achieved, and the wisdom you've learned can be highly attractive to a woman and give you higher social status in her eyes. Being stuck in an earlier decade isn't attractive, so make sure that you stay physically fit, keep up on current trends in fashion and the media, and hang out with a wide range of people. You'll want to be able to mix easily with her social group. Remember that a woman will think of you what you think of yourself. So if you feel like you're getting old and out of touch, she's going to think you're an old guy without much to interest her. If, on the other hand, you're in a really good place in your life and feel great with what you've achieved, she's going to pick up on that. And for those of you who think Donald Trump has it all, just remember: he did it in spite of his comb-over, not because of it.
What to Do If You're Better with Computers than Women You should already know that male brains are wired differently than female brains. Men have a larger area of their brain dedicated to spatial reasoning, which is why there is still such an imbalance in the proportion of men to women in fields like engineering and computer programming. If you're better with computers than with women, it just means one thing: you're a guy. Female brains, on the other hand, have a unique advantage: they're much better at utilizing the left and right spheres simultaneously, which means women tend to excel in multitasking, language, and making intuitive judgments. So if you're trying to improve your skills with women by focusing on just one aspect of your identity - like communication skills or improving your appearance - then you may find that your success rate with women isn't improving at all. Why? Because of an important quality called "congruence." A woman will look at your appearance, your actions, your words, and what she knows about you from other sources to create a picture of you in her head. If any of these elements aren't congruent, then she's going to hold back. For example, if you dress like a rock star but talk about your stamp collection, she's going to wonder whether you're cool or just a geek. If you talk about hanging out with celebrities, but her friend has just told her that you're at the bar every night trying to pick up women, she's going to wonder if you're a liar. Earning a woman's trust is an essential part of gaining rapport with her, so it's essential that you present a congruent identity. Develop a plan to address all areas of your identity - appearance, actions (including body language), words, and social identity (e.g., what other people say about you) - simultaneously. For example, your plan might include going to the gym, learning the Alexander Technique, making new friends, and learning some jokes to tell in a conversation. Another extremely important secret in becoming irresistible to women is to become a master of creating chemistry and sexual tension. We’ll talk about that tomorrow. Don’t miss it!
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