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Home for the Holidays?

james — Thu, 28 Dec 2006 05:40:06 +0000

It sucks being alone on the holidays. I’ve been there, perhaps you’ve been there (or are there now), and you probably know someone else who’s been there. More than any other time in the year, it’s when you want to have someone special by your side. It’s when you want to share the festive holiday spirit with someone you care about. And it’s when a little physical intimacy will keep you both warm from the chilly night air…

Not there yet? Well, it’s never too late to kick-start your romantic life. If you’re serious about finding the girl of your dreams TODAY, then why not take advantage of the festive holiday spirit? There are so many women out there who want a man by their side for Christmas and New Year’s. YOU can be that man, if you’re willing to do what it takes to up your attraction meter.

The question then, is, What can you do to attract women in such a short amount of time? How can you ensure that you find someone in time for the big celebrations December 25th and 31st? Here are five great places to go to find women–and what to do when you meet them:

1. Throw a Holiday Party. This is a great way of attracting women. If there’s one thing that gets women emotionally and physically excited during the season of good cheer, it’s a man who surrounds himself with people during a festive time. It gives them the security that this man will show them a good time, and surround her with people so that she’s never alone.

An important lesson to remember with women: They need to have someone for special times like Christmas–even more than you! No woman wants to be alone, so by asserting yourself as the man who has lots of people around him, you automatically establish yourself as a desirable candidate. You tell her that if she hangs around you, she’ll never be alone. Additionally, by throwing a fun, happy party, women automatically associate the positive vibes from the holiday season with YOU, and when you create that kind of emotional arousal, anything can happen. It’s all about creating emotions in women, which I go into much detail in in my audio course.

So invite everyone you can think of–your friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances–to a holiday get-together. Make sure they invite someone. Play some festive holiday music, have some holiday treats ready (cookies, eggnog, candy canes, etc.), and even dress up as Santa. Even better, REQUIRE women to wear a Christmas costume. The naughtier they are, the better!

Have a "Naughty" and "Nice" list, and promise the girls a good spanking if they’re naughty. It may sound sexist, but believe me, women LOVE this: it allows them to be loose and have fun, something they’ll forever connect with you. Mix charm and attitude, and you surely won’t be alone that night or any other. If things go well, you can always invite the girl to be "Santa’s Little Helper"…

2. At Stores and Malls. Hey, unless you’re the type who buys all your presents online, chances are you’re going to have to visit some stores to buy your loved ones some gifts. And when you go to the mall, the department store, or even the little boutique, chances are you’ll see some attractive females while you’re there. So take advantage of this! It’s the one time in the year when you can get away with talking to complete strangers: women are in a festive mood and much more open to conversations with people they don’t know. So take advantage!

Possible openers include: "Man, do you hate Christmas shopping as much as I do?", or if you want to neg a little, "Oh no, please! Don’t tell me you’re buying someone THAT!" Challenge your target a little bit; make her have to defend herself. This, again, gets her emotionally aroused–even if it’s a negative emotion–which she’ll forever connect with you. By saying something more than a compliment, something that forces her to respond, you create a literal chemical attraction:the emotions swirl in her brain, and she forever has an imprint of you that matches her to those emotions.

So be ballsy and show that you’re not too interested, even a bit offended by her: "Wow, that would be a great present for somebody who’s blind" or "Phew, I’m glad I’M not the person you’re shopping for!" She may act offended, even a little angry, but if you stick to your guns, you’ll be conversing in no time and offering her someone who’d be fun to hang around during the holidays.

3. Spread Some Holiday Cheer on the Dance Floor. Teasing is a great way to show you don’t take girls too seriously. Dancing is a great way of showing you don’t take life too seriously. Even if you suck at dancing, the fact that you go out there and have a good time will impress women big-time. They love a man who can have fun and enjoy the holiday season. Going out there and having the time of your life dancing shows a woman that you will show her a good time during the cheery season. And in the end, that’s what they really want. So have fun, loosen up, and ask a woman to dance. If she sees you’re having a good time, believe me, she’ll want to join you–in more ways than one. Seriously!

4. Talk to Miss Lonely. While at any party–your own, a work party, a club-hosted holiday party, whatever–be sure to take advantage of my old "Love Actually" lesson: NOBODY wants to be alone during the holidays! So if you see a girl standing/sitting by herself or looking miserable at a holiday party, be the "knight in shining armor" who goes up to her and cheers her up. Tell her a joke, comment on the party, even tease her with "C’mon, it’s the Christmas season, you can’t possibly be sitting here all by yourself!" Women love a man who cheers them up, and if you can take her from a negative state of mind to a positive one, believe me, she won’t forget that. Just be the man who lifts her mood, and you’ll be sure to see her again.

5. Use the Mistletoe/Midnight! Finally, never underestimate the power of the mistletoe and the strike of midnight on New Year’s. Both are amazing props for setting up a first kiss. They work especially well with women you’ve had at least a few minutes of quality chat with.

You won’t want to use the prop right away–build up the suspense for an especially good kiss–but once you sense things are going well, "conveniently" position yourselves under the Mistletoe. Don’t even hide the fact that it’s an obvious ploy; play it up: "WOW, we’ve somehow managed to land ourselves under the mistletoe. How did THAT happen?" or "Well, congratulations, you’ve managed to trap me under the mistletoe. I knew you were trouble." Believe me, if you add enough humor and charm–and you don’t need a lot to succeed–then women will be glad to comply.

And more importantly, you’ll have a very happy holidays!

Of course, if you’re truly serious about making sure this New Year is better than all the other ones, make a commitment to changing your life NOW. Don’t resolve to make just the first few weeks better…make EVERY day a winning, successful one. Do it with my special "How to Attract Women" course, yours for less than the price of a night out on New Year’s! It’s all available, for instant download, NOW.

Dating Tips 101

james — Tue, 17 Oct 2006 01:13:35 +0000

What makes a good date? Money? Romance? Good conversation?

Those things help, but what ultimately matters is how you make a woman feel. The feelings, the positive or negative emotions she gets from being around you, are what separate you from success and failure. And believe me, if you can make her feel great emotions when you’re in her presence, there’s nothing to stop you from seduction and relationship success!

With that said, how do you summon good emotions into your date? How do you make her associate a positive feeling with YOU? How do you draw out the emotions that make a woman want to take things to the next level of intimacy and relationships? The way I see it, there are three factors to success:

1. Where You Take Her

2. How You Present Yourself

3. How You Handle Your Date

Each of these is crucial. You must not succeed in only one area, but in all of them. Let’s look at each:

First is where you take your date. The great thing about dating is that it gives you a chance to use "props" to make yourself look like a winner. If you take a gorgeous women to a really fun place at which she has the time of her life, it’s not going to matter so much how you look, what you say, or how much money you have. Bring a woman to a really fun place like a salsa class or theme park, and she’ll connect the positive emotions from those places, automatically, with you. It’s a wonderful thing.

One key thing to remember is that you want to choose your date location based on the kind of things you want a woman to associate with you. If you want her to feel excitement and energy, bring her to a carnival or theme park. If you want her to think of you as intelligent and serious (careful with that one), take her to a play or perhaps a poetry reciting. And if you have the time and money, and want her to think of you as daring and adventurous, you can’t go wrong with a bungee jumping or white-water rafting date!

Then there are dinner dates. I discourage dinner dates because unless you’re a gourmand or a chef who has a passion for food, dinner dates don’t say much about you. On top of that, they can be very expensive and yield no results. Who wants to spend $200 on a girl only to get nothing out of it? All she sees out of a guy who takes her out to dinner is someone who’s unoriginal and plays by the book; he’s not a risk-taker. So try something more daring and engaging. Something like indoor rock climbing doesn’t cost that much at all, and will yield much better results.

As Leil Lowndes, author of "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You," writes, "someone is more likely to be attracted to another if he or she is emotionally aroused-even if the arousal does not come from the person."

Next, let’s look at how you present yourself. Now, with this, I’m not talking about how good-looking you are to the woman, but more about how you position yourself: what you say about yourself through your clothes and hygiene. You can’t expect a date to go well if your clothes look frumpy and your teeth have gunk in them. But if you wear nice clothes that are clean, ironed, and a bit funky or sophisticated, then you’re communicating to women that you care about your appearances. You give her the feeling that she’s with a guy who pays attention to appearances and wants to convey success. A guy who wears a suit does not look trashy or poor. But a guy who arrives at a date wearing ripped-up jeans and has hair like he just came out of bed…well, how is she supposed to feel anything other than disgust at that one? What you wear, how you style your hair (even if you’re bald!), and how clean and fresh you come across: these are the things that INSTANTLY create emotions in women. Make sure you stir up the right emotions!

Finally, let’s talk about how you handle your date. That is, how do you manage the date as it moves along? With confidence, the actions that suggest you are of high status, and a bit of cockiness…or with hesitation, treating the date with more respect than yourself, and low confidence? To me, there are three "checkpoints" in every date:

1. How you greet your date. Do you act like you’re lucky to see her? Do you say, "Wow, great to see you, you look beautiful!" or something to that effect? If so, stop. That just make a woman think that you feel lucky to be with her. She doesn’t want to feel like she’s with a guy who’s not good enough for her. She wants to feel like she’s not good enough to be with YOU. Doing little things that force her to respect you, like calling her out for being late or simply greeting her with a laid-back, "What’s up?" accomplish that.

2. How you move things along. Nothing makes a girl more uncomfortable–and lowers her association of things with you–than an awkward pause in the date. This doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to let things die down a little; it just means that you have to know how to handle these pauses. In my e-book I discuss a lot about control–how to handle situations and make the most of them. In a date, you want to be able to go from silence one second to laughter and excitement the next. There are many ways to do this, including teasing a girl about something or bringing up something interesting she said earlier (showing her that you listen to what she says, which makes her feel valued).

3. How you end it and set things up for next time. Do you end a date leaving a girl wanting more? Do you reveal everything about yourself in the first (or second or third) date, or make her curious for next time? Do you seek validation from her…or have her seeking validation from YOU? These are the things you want to think about…the areas that show you have confidence in seeing her again, and confidence that you can direct her where you want.

Naturally, there’s much more to a date than this. What do you say? What specific strategies can you employ to make her interested in more? What are the very best places to take a date?

Fortunately, there are answers: My How to Be Irresistible to Women course. Find it now at:

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I’ve got a whole, extensive section on setting up the first date, where to go, and what kinds of actions and attitudes work towards raising the attraction levels to insane levels. It’s all in there, along with dozens of articles that will help you in the specific areas you want to address. Not to mention my free Members Consulation, where you can ask me anything you want about how to get the women you want.

Hey, if you’re serious about getting more dates and making them successful ones, you need look no further. This is the place:

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