I am not in a relationship so I can’t say how I feel three years down the track but I think loving someone might mean loving to be with them all the time. Enjoying their company, enjoying listening to them and really liking them so much you never want to be without them.
That’s how I feel about my children and my pets. I couldn’t be away from my son and not talk to him regularly. My daughter calls every day and I see her twice a week at least. That might sound and be a bit claustrophobic and I’m not suggesting you don’t love your son but maybe you could contact him a bit more. It may help you to be less cynical and more in tune with what real, true love feels like.

I was married for 20 years and tolerated my ex for 18years. Was this love? If so, then I am definitely not interested in 2years of insecurity and vunerablility and another lifetime of just tolerating someone.

Please explain ‘love’ to me. Does this exist or does everyone just agree for the sake of not opening a can of worms. The ‘in love’ part I understand and can admit that I have been there a few times. But ‘love’ - I don’t get it. I love my son, very much and I loved my mother, also very much. My mom has passed on and I have not really missed her. My son lives far away and we keep in touch but I don’t want to be with him every minute of the day. In fact, if I phone him once a month, it is a lot! He lives his own life and I live mine. We have not deserted one another and I will do anything within reason for him if needed and so will he. Is this ‘love’?

I might be sinical here but nobody seems to be able to explain to me what they feel for their boyfriends or husbands 3years down the road. All the women that I have approached with this question gave me different explanations. Do we all experience ‘love’ differently?

Linda