Comments on: Do Men Just Want Sex?

By: Tyler

Tyler — Mon, 11 Aug 2008 03:06:39 +0000

I am very young. I have a boyfreind who is a year younger than me and he wants sex. To be honest I hate sex. If a guy asked me to have sex I would just leave them. I am going to do that to him,but I want to see how he will react if i say no. Because I just been making up excuses with him. To me when you are in a relationship how come you cant you know just play games talk ,you know just have fun with each other. I feel kind of hurt when a guy ask me out. Because I know that they will end up just wanting sex from me. I know not all men are like that. The type of guy I would like is soft gentle, kind, nice.It is true alot of girls dont want a nice guy. The type of guy that i would like is strong, smart, kind hearted and knows when to be a man. When I look at some men and boys it makes me just sick.

By: Lynn

Lynn — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 02:46:24 +0000

I’ve found some emails very helpful & enjoyed them. I am 34 years old & have been dating since I’m 17. I firmly believe that no man will stay with the woman he’s dating for long if she is not giving him sex. There is alot of casual sex going on and it makes me sick. I have a strong appetite for sex but I would rather be married so I could be with one man all the time (god bless my future husband, ugh)But in today’s day and age, it is very hard to find a man who will commit. Even if you respect his life/lifestyle/choices! It doesn’t matter. I’ve tried the respect and patience thing. It doesn’t get you far, just them taking advantage of you. And I’m athletic, good looking, work, go to school, I clean, cook, have a good heart…It’s hard out there. I get very disheartened to the point it depresses me. Men are just so different from us. It’s a hit or miss. Plain and simple.

By: KCROC

KCROC — Sat, 26 May 2007 02:02:06 +0000

Hi Ladies,
I don’t usually respond to these things but I came across this statement, and It brought something emotional out of me………It’s something I’ve been saying for………forever, and never could get this from any woman I’ve ever been envolved with.
This is what I have always looked for in a woman but, pusuit of it, and not obtaining it, has caused me to become a different person today.

‘Understand and respect your man’s sex drive, but if he is truly a man (and not a boy), he’ll have a focus and a purpose in life. He’ll want to advance in his career and contribute to his community. He’ll appreciate the stability of a partner who supports, respects, and challenges him in his journey through life. He may even find that he desires the respect and status that marriage can give him.

…….And may I Place emphasis on’Supports,respects, and especially, Challenges him………’, because for me, if these things were what I was getting from my women, sex would have been her last concern. unbelievable,
Not all men want to have sex with everyone they see. Quite a few want to be commited, to one women, but don’t get one or more of the above mentioned………….I’d say, requirements………
A man dose need to feel that he is “The Man” in her life..
Thanks for letting me butt in.
KCROC

By: Gypsy

Gypsy — Tue, 07 Nov 2006 04:46:35 +0000

Hello!

Thank you for the article.

I am very new here but I found the articles very interesting and informative.

Is it possible to give my email address to LRN, Maria, Lala, Lils… I just want to share with them a “technique” that might help….

Thanks!

Gypsy

By: Patty Pereira

Patty Pereira — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 09:31:39 +0000

It trully depends on the guy, there are some that want to feel the desire, that they need to be “the man” and others that need to feel loved, I think is all about personalities, and the most important thing is to find the guy for you…

By: Chase

Chase — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 17:31:05 +0000

I think we are who we are. Our religions can somewhat guide us to what we call morality. But one thing I can say is that when we men do get older we tend to stabalize and look toward a future. Where as the young woman goes directley into a relationship with this though. Now we are on different time lines. I now see why men in their 40's tend to want girls in their tweenties and thirties(stated in the above artical), (not always for sex!!! We realize we want a furture together). They are still somewhat wired for a future and life together and are on the same time line. Now the 40 something year old woman is devistated about her fairytale of a long lasting relationship. Now what does she do…start having sex with younger men to get back to a point in time when her young boyfriend told her he would be with her forever, and that she would be treated like a Princess (THE THOUGHT OF HER BEING SOMEONES PRINCESS…this is the fairytale women buy every time, over and over again!…never happens!). This line alone is the most important line though…"I want to take care of you"…Men at that age will tell her whatever they think she want to here. Some women really think that when a man has sex with her and tells her what she wants to hear…she's loved! Tring to go back to that point with someone else and fix things…will hurt her in the same way once again…Going to a young man for that fairytale all over! Men don't do this…we just go along on our natural time line. Ever wonder why a woman keep going for the same type of guy?…she's stuck on her natural time line! My advise to women…who are in new relationships is to avoid topics on sex and sex in general. If you can love someone and they can love you before sex…that is a great start for a meaningful relationship (if this is what you want…a relationship, women just often want sex too). IF YOU HEAR…"don't be so uptight", "you need to loosen up", "ever have a one night stand?", Wow you are too serious, "When's the last time you had sex?", ever have sex with a girl?…a threesome?", So what's the crazyest place you've had sex?", Do you see…sex with men is the foremost topic and goal with a woman. Just sit back and let him unfold his game…Don't lead him too much though…he will get wise. You will be amazed how simple minded we are..watch the ego take flight! He will tell you exactly what he is looking for. You owe it to yourself to see his true intentions with you…The worst thing a woman can do is not want to know the truth. That elusive fairytale is also a womans drive and goal.

By: Lils

Lils — Mon, 25 Sep 2006 04:48:28 +0000

Thank you so much for the article. It is as if someone has directed me to this site. I am in a strange relationship where my partner broke up our conventional relationship over a year ago saying his 13 year old son does not approve of a second marriage. (We are Asians). But because of our mutual love for each other we got back together without any plans for the future. He migrated overseas to educate his son and we now live in two different continents. Sex was good between us as still is when we meet twice a year!!! I was pretty naive to believe him when he said that he is faithful and only assuages his sexual needs by himself!! But just last week I discovered from a couple of sms messages that he is sneaking out at night to sleep with his best buddy’s wife who is also in that country educating her children while the buddy is here back home. It shattered me to no end and I still do not know what to do. But I just can’t seem to give up on the relationship and believe him when he says he is counting the days to come home to me for Christmas. Can someone please help me understand this? He is 45 and I am 44.

By: walli

walli — Tue, 12 Sep 2006 03:09:47 +0000

First, not all men cheat… there are men out there that are loyal and loving, however, many women aren’t attracted to these guys because they seem so “nice.”
(Perhaps they have low testosterone).

As for the woman who wrote that her fiance was addicted to sex with two-somes and three-somes, in spite of the conflict it creates with his Christian upbringing and his outward Christian appearance, that is a problem. The problem is that not everyone equates morality with sexuality.

What I’m saying is that I believe it’s perfectly possible to be an honest, decent person who is caring and loving but who doesn’t want strictly conventional sex. If this is the kind of guy you’re with, I wouldn’t waste my time trying to change him, because my guess he’s probably not going to be happy in a “traditional” one-on-one relationship, and if you think you’re the woman who can change that, you’re probably letting yourself in for a lot of heartache.

Finally, I also agree that many women I know are highly sexed and that includes women well over 45 and 50.

By: Lala

Lala — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 10:14:21 +0000

Thanks for your emails. I find them very helpful in that to me i can see i am not alone in the problems i am encountering.

My husband has been off sex for the past three (3) years and he thinks its just OK. That was after the birth of our second baby.

During the past three years i got tempted at some stage to have an affair. I met a man who according to me, only wanted me for as long as i dished out sex to him everyday and that was just undearable. Without sex, we were never even friends because he would be so furious and sometimes not even talk to me until i had sex with him. So I called it off given that that was clearly not what i wanted.

So, I find myself in a position where i dont understand men altogether. But i am sure my sex drive is normal. I cant go without sex for three years at my age (33 yrs) but at the same time i cant be spanking everyday.

Indeed its unfortunate that we have to have men in our lives, but they are a weird species of humankind.

Thanks,

Lala

By: Nanise

Nanise — Mon, 11 Sep 2006 01:16:56 +0000

Hello Amy,

Thank you for your e-mails. It’s great reading and understanding the male species behaviour. Now I know why my men sex drive is forever increasing!

Thanks again.
Nanise