Comments on: Getting Mad at Your Man http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/ the ultimate resource to get the relationship you always wanted Tue, 06 Jan 2009 06:39:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Ene http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1428 Ene Wed, 30 Aug 2006 11:25:27 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1428 Thanks a million times for posting this mail to me, it brought changes to my thinking patern. I will definately apply this to my present ralationship which is eating me right deep insight. I have this guy in my life whom I love so much but he has proven himself to be so selfish no matter how much I try to show him care. He is so conservative, so stingy that I don't know exactly how to handle him. I want to be with me everyday, he always want to take from me eventhough he earns a salary that is twice more than what I earn and h knows exactly that. He recently complained that i'm chaning my behavior towards him and I sincerely told him that i'm aware of the change in my behavior towards him. I went ahead to tell him that I have reduse my care for him because he has been selfish. He flared up to say that I have been self-centered. He has asked me to marry him and I accepted. This happened before I got to know that he is so selfish. He has not been spending his money o me with the excuse that he is making plans for our future. But he collect his salary at the end of every months and spend it on his family members. (parent, brothers, sisters)without giving anything to me and he comes back to eat in my house, asking me for little money every now and then. Recently I have also refuse to give him my money but I still cook food with my money for him. He will always want to eat whatever he sees in my refrigerator without leaving some for me or he will leave so little for me. On the other hand; he is faithful, the much I know,his patient and his spense almost all of his free time with me. Finally has promised to marry me evnethough he knows that I have a child and he has none. I'm so confused, not knowing if I should continued with this guy or not. As I write this mail my heart is in pains. This is because I love him and he is not just doing things right. Amy, I need you to advice me on what to do. My heart is in pains. Thank you and God bless as you reach out to me. Here is my E-mail: bridget_ene@yahoo.com Thanks a million times for posting this mail to me, it brought changes to my thinking patern. I will definately apply this to my present ralationship which is eating me right deep insight.

I have this guy in my life whom I love so much but he has proven himself to be so selfish no matter how much I try to show him care. He is so conservative, so stingy that I don’t know exactly how to handle him.

I want to be with me everyday, he always want to take from me eventhough he earns a salary that is twice more than what I earn and h knows exactly that. He recently complained that i’m chaning my behavior towards him and I sincerely told him that i’m aware of the change in my behavior towards him.

I went ahead to tell him that I have reduse my care for him because he has been selfish. He flared up to say that I have been self-centered.

He has asked me to marry him and I accepted. This happened before I got to know that he is so selfish. He has not been spending his money o me with the excuse that he is making plans for our future. But he collect his salary at the end of every months and spend it on his family members. (parent, brothers, sisters)without giving anything to me and he comes back to eat in my house, asking me for little money every now and then. Recently I have also refuse to give him my money but I still cook food with my money for him. He will always want to eat whatever he sees in my refrigerator without leaving some for me or he will leave so little for me.

On the other hand; he is faithful, the much I know,his patient and his spense almost all of his free time with me.

Finally has promised to marry me evnethough he knows that I have a child and he has none.

I’m so confused, not knowing if I should continued with this guy or not. As I write this mail my heart is in pains. This is because I love him and he is not just doing things right.

Amy, I need you to advice me on what to do. My heart is in pains.

Thank you and God bless as you reach out to me.

Here is my E-mail: bridget_ene@yahoo.com

]]> By: Marie Jacquelyne http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1410 Marie Jacquelyne Tue, 29 Aug 2006 17:45:15 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1410 OH Boy! Am I guilty at that one! Yep,I did all that and more..but then as I got older, I realized that men just clam up and you get nowwhere so I started doing the opposite. Instead of getting mad, I don't say a word & wait until I get an explanation as what I think happened and what maybe the truth can be a whole different thing. Not easy, but I found out by doing this, I get to know EVERYTHING right down to the very last detail, as by getting mad, I got nowhere. Sure I still get mad, but I get over my madness by writing what I am mad about and then read it over and end up laughing at myself and I wouldn't answer myself either if anyone spoke to me like that.hahaha..Then I just erase everything and I feel much better to handle the situation. Of course, not always can one do this as sometimes things happen on the spot but I am getting much better results and I do this not only with a man, but with everyone. OH Boy! Am I guilty at that one! Yep,I did all that and more..but then as I got older, I realized that men just clam up and you get nowwhere so I started doing the opposite.
Instead of getting mad, I don’t say a word & wait until I get an explanation as what I think happened and what maybe the truth can be a whole different thing.
Not easy, but I found out by doing this, I get to know EVERYTHING right down to the very last detail, as by getting mad, I got nowhere.
Sure I still get mad, but I get over my madness by writing what I am mad about and then read it over and end up laughing at myself and I wouldn’t answer myself either if anyone spoke to me like that.hahaha..Then I just erase everything and I feel much better to handle the situation.
Of course, not always can one do this as sometimes things happen on the spot but I am getting much better results and I do this not only with a man, but with everyone.

]]> By: liz http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1397 liz Tue, 29 Aug 2006 14:07:26 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1397 am a culprit here! infact, that day, i was so mad at my man, yelled at him for an offence. now, i know better. there are better ways of resolving issues than getting mad at each other. Amy, thanks for the insight. liz am a culprit here! infact, that day, i was so mad at my man, yelled at him for an offence.
now, i know better. there are better ways of resolving issues than getting mad at each other.
Amy, thanks for the insight.

liz

]]> By: Lauren http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1383 Lauren Tue, 29 Aug 2006 05:40:55 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1383 Hi Amy, I have read all of your articles everytime you sent to me. Thanks for keep on reminding us don't think that all guys are look after sex. But I have had many experience that to prove that they are really all look after sex, they don't even know what true love is all about. Can you help me to over come this? I know this page is for comment about your article but I don't know how to contact you or will you help me on this? Hope to hear from you and your answer to my email is very much appreciated. Thank you. Regards, Lauren Hi Amy,

I have read all of your articles everytime you sent to me. Thanks for keep on reminding us don’t think that all guys are look after sex. But I have had many experience that to prove that they are really all look after sex, they don’t even know what true love is all about. Can you help me to over come this? I know this page is for comment about your article but I don’t know how to contact you or will you help me on this?

Hope to hear from you and your answer to my email is very much appreciated.

Thank you.

Regards,
Lauren

]]> By: nike http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1379 nike Mon, 28 Aug 2006 19:44:40 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1379 hi amy... very interestn mail i must say.but on the other hand,we'll all admit that guys love this over pampering nature,like one must pet them all the time like an overgrown baby..i understand the fact that pride spoils a lot in most relationships;but if the lady is faulty,let her own up to it...so if the dude is on the wrong side,what stops him frm apologising...we all have the right to flare up at any given time over any given cause...but anyone who is stubborn and sees it as a virtue,has a long way to go in life's sojourn...i've been into a few relationships and i've always been at the recieving end of them all.cos they are all used to me apologising even when they're wrong!!! Enough of all that crap plsssssss!!!!! this cutie aint cut for that anymore... hi amy…
very interestn mail i must say.but on the other hand,we’ll all admit that guys love this over pampering nature,like one must pet them all the time like an overgrown baby..i understand the fact that pride spoils a lot in most relationships;but if the lady is faulty,let her own up to it…so if the dude is on the wrong side,what stops him frm apologising…we all have the right to flare up at any given time over any given cause…but anyone who is stubborn and sees it as a virtue,has a long way to go in life’s sojourn…i’ve been into a few relationships and i’ve always been at the recieving end of them all.cos they are all used to me apologising even when they’re wrong!!! Enough of all that crap plsssssss!!!!! this cutie aint cut for that anymore…

]]> By: swettha http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1356 swettha Sat, 26 Aug 2006 06:28:37 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1356 hi, its such a wonderful mail.i was really one of dem who gets mad at my guys for his carelessness.n it many times made me feel im going to loose the relationship too.but godforbidden it never happened or it should.but after reading your mail i feel how important he is to me dan his carelessness,for he loves me so much n i know dat.guys r such who need more gap in a relation dan we girls.n its nothing wrong i really understood many things by ur mail.thnks a lot for ur advice n im sure our relation will last forever.thaks again for this wonderful advice.n u know wat i love him a lot. hi,
its such a wonderful mail.i was really one of dem who gets mad at my guys for his carelessness.n it many times made me feel im going to loose the relationship too.but godforbidden it never happened or it should.but after reading your mail i feel how important he is to me dan his carelessness,for he loves me so much n i know dat.guys r such who need more gap in a relation dan we girls.n its nothing wrong i really understood many things by ur mail.thnks a lot for ur advice n im sure our relation will last forever.thaks again for this wonderful advice.n u know wat i love him a lot.

]]> By: sibo http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1342 sibo Fri, 25 Aug 2006 10:59:32 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1342 waal this is juss good advice coz i have juss got angry with my boyfriend so ihave not been talking to him for three days so now ithink iwould swallow my pride and go talk things over with him .what do u think about that but ,the problem that ihave is he is not phoning me as well waal this is juss good advice coz i have juss got angry with my boyfriend so ihave not been talking to him for three days so now ithink iwould swallow my pride and go talk things over with him .what do u think about that but ,the problem that ihave is he is not phoning me as well

]]> By: Riley http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1339 Riley Fri, 25 Aug 2006 00:05:11 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1339 This article is everything i needed!! Me and my fiance were just in a yelling match earlier in his car. Sometimes, when im mad, i stop to think about how good it feels to just yell...not thinking about WHO im yelling at. Im also a girl that has sooo many insecureties, that sometimes i feel good and empowered when i yell at him....but when i think about it later, i realize i felt empowered, but i make myself look weak, like i cant handle things properly...i love you for posting this!!!!!!! This article is everything i needed!! Me and my fiance were just in a yelling match earlier in his car. Sometimes, when im mad, i stop to think about how good it feels to just yell…not thinking about WHO im yelling at. Im also a girl that has sooo many insecureties, that sometimes i feel good and empowered when i yell at him….but when i think about it later, i realize i felt empowered, but i make myself look weak, like i cant handle things properly…i love you for posting this!!!!!!!

]]> By: Jane http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1336 Jane Thu, 24 Aug 2006 15:43:48 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1336 Hello Amy, Thanks very much. You made my day. Am glad to have read this write-up. You know what, this morning I was just angry with my partner and was kind of having a hard time overlooking his behaviour, I sent him a text (not offensive text), and later we talked and sorted things out. And when I read through your article for the week I can't help but smile. I agree with you all the way. It's good to be angry with your partner but it's not good to scream or shout at him. Because you do not know what prompted his behaving in the way/manner he did. Although sometimes, its difficult to overlook but if only one can take a deep breath before reacting, you will be able to win him over and over to yourself and make it easy for your partner to trust you and want to share his feelings all the time with you. Amy thanks once again. Love. Hello Amy,

Thanks very much.
You made my day.
Am glad to have read this write-up.
You know what, this morning I was just angry with my partner and was kind of having a hard time overlooking his behaviour, I sent him a text (not offensive text), and later we talked and sorted things out.
And when I read through your article for the week I can’t help but smile.

I agree with you all the way.
It’s good to be angry with your partner but it’s not good to scream or shout at him. Because you do not know what prompted his behaving in the way/manner he did. Although sometimes, its difficult to overlook but if only one can take a deep breath before reacting, you will be able to win him over and over to yourself and make it easy for your partner to trust you and want to share his feelings all the time with you.

Amy thanks once again.
Love.

]]> By: Marie http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1326 Marie Wed, 23 Aug 2006 06:13:21 +0000 http://www.000relationships.com/tomen/live/2006/08/22/mad/#comment-1326 Reading this just put me back about 4 years ago, when my mother inlaw told me to YELL! at hem. That is the only thing he knows. We are divorced. And I love hem still. Trying to move on is hard. Reading this just put me back about 4 years ago, when my mother inlaw told me to YELL! at hem. That is the only thing he knows. We are divorced. And I love hem still. Trying to move on is hard.

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