This is an eye opener but a tough one. I’m sailing in the same boat as this KSA one but I’m playing it safe, I’m not desperate… I had a very loving childhood and can’t seem to understand where this void of love in me could have erupted from?
However, patience is a virtue and we all are destined to meet our soul mates - so we will. On the way we might just come across a few bumps - meeting the wrong people - to apprecaite the ‘ultimate one’

All I have to say is Amy please be with us in this.

Lov,
Sonu

I also wait 3-4 months before really getting involved with a relationship because in that period of time, the guy shows his “true colors”. So I say, thanks but you are not what I am searching for and move on.

I am 63,(no ones believes me when I say that) good looking woman and more demands of marriage than I can count, but waiting those 3-4 months and hold the no sex before marriage really works for me.

So no disappointments for me. Because giving yourself to a man is no guarantee you will keep him. So rather break up with the satisfaction that I didn’t give it and feel I had been used just for sex.

Well, my girlfriends are doing it too and saying that it sure weeds out the players.

Love to read you…:)

MaJa

I agree with you…One thing I learnt from my folks is that, ‘you can’t give something that you don’t have’. To me, the lady in UEA sounds like she’s looking for fill avoid inside of her by marrying this guy, who she believes will make everything alright. This void, (emptiness) could be lack of self love, or confidence, etc…and she can see clearly, these qualities in the object of her desires, but I think unless, she cultivates her own qualities, she won’t what she wants…

And I know she believes that she’s got alot of love to give…(and I don’t doubt that), but what kind of love does she have to give? You see, I believe that relationships should be ‘added value’ Into our lives. Our cups (of life) Should be full already, (not expecting to be full, when you meet the guy). Then, when such love is complete, the cup will just overflow…..and I think that’s why you here people say ‘Oooh am so blessed!’ or ‘Am sooo lucky!’

Yes, I know, things are easier said than done. But a wonderful write once said, that excellence is a habit, you get to achieve it, when you seek it and learn or cultivate it.

I think every relationship you’ve gone through, had some lessons to be learnt. When we look hard enough, they are indeed blessings in disguise….we become better people, more loving….in preparation for the ‘one’.

In a nutshell, I agree with Amy.

Regards,

Lydia

tempted to agree with you (coz everything sounds so easy in the article), but I cant do that. Indeed the topic is exteremly intersting and the general insights are correct, however, talking about a society the westener has little (or no) knowledge about - is a bit risky.
I am a european, living for years in UAE and i know exactly the issues that this woman faces. Unfortunately none of your advises is applicable here (read again the article about mobiles in KSA you are citing:).
And one more thing - I have asked men from different cultures (a european, an arab, an asian)”When did you know that the woman you are dating is going to be your wife?” and they ALL answer the same: “As soon as i laid my eyes on her for the first time”.
Ladies, just make sure you know what YOU want. Then (as Amy says) step back and observe. it will take you just a few days to find out what the guy has in mind about you and possible development of the relationship.

good luck

I read your article and am sort of captivated by the write up. Thanks for bring such topic up, I totally agree with you. I see it as eye an opener to most of we ladies on actually getting the man we need in our lives. Most times we need to sit down and do our home work correctly before going into an inimate relationship or even marriage with any man.

Thanks once again Amy for the write up. I can’t wait to read more of such inspireing and motivating articles from you.

i just read the artical and its really helpful,but the problem that im facing is that i can c things so clearly for others and advice them …but when it comes to me i know nothing and i feel that im so dumb in reading my mans signes??

i apeared ton every one around me as a highly confident girl and i always tried to reflect it this way ,while im so not >

so,what i got from the artical is that its better to enjoy his company without thinking about marreige and it will happen?

thank

dissparate to know

sara

I just finished reading the article on Getting a Proposal,the whole content sounds great to me,even though my language- understanding is low and making it difcult to catch things up so easily.Thanks that you were born into this modern and full-of-obstacles world.

I just can’t wait for more!!

Yours
Ester