Comments on: Love Tactics - The Way to Win?

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 18:59:47 +0000

Love tactics actually revolves around the principles of psychology. Its really what is in the root of your mind and how you and your partner would relate and interact with eachother. If you keep doing the same thing without results, then maybe the thing you are doing needs to be altered.

Best of luck in love, we all deserve it!

By: Bill

Bill — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 12:10:10 +0000

Wow…sounds like you didn’t really spend much time investigating the Love Tactics site. The site does not advocate “gameplaying” as you suggest. It simply lays out the psychological basis of romantic love in an easy to understand way. The idea that you “would not want a man that would respond to Love Tactics” is comical, as all human beings have the same basic psychological make up and respond to the principles as outlined by the authors. You can bury your head in the sand and ignore the principles at your own risk, or get smart and apply them to your relationships. It is easier to not take responsibility for your own love life however by hoping fate will magically bring you the love you seek. Is that what you do when you try to look for a new job? Wait for someone to just hire you for you, or do you do all in your power to make it happen? That is what Love Tactics is all about…

By: Rita Massey

Rita Massey — Tue, 11 Jul 2006 15:44:21 +0000

I think love tactics is a great site.., everyone need to read it CLOSELY! It says to choose wisely, don’t use the methods on someone unloving and uncaring.., do your work on a good and loving man., b/c we can’t make anyone change who they really are before nor after we marry them. Love tactics is great! It’s the way God intended love to be.

By: Monica

Monica — Mon, 03 Jul 2006 16:16:27 +0000

it is really sad how many of us women are having problems with men and yet slightly reaasuring, encouraging, comforting that one is no alone. Its hard who to blame because relationships are a two way process. we only get what we tolerate, right? Honestly i dont blame people that want to use love tactics because after being hurt, played, double crossed, hit and run …, one can only try to their best to protect themselves. it is sad because somewhere deep down, nobody likes playing games but we are forced due to past experiences. As for me, i am tired of playing games. i would love to meet guy who is real (wont we all :)). one things lerant is that we should never give up. we are going to be hurt, yes, but that should only makes us stronger and not give up on love. There are real men out there, and sometimes, it just takes a little patience…
i met a guy i really liked recently, i decided to cut the games, you know, just be me and just get into something amaizing. he is a nice guy but unfortunately, i can already see that he gets corky.I dont know why men do things like that/ cant just a man see and appreciate, love a good woman? Now i dont know whether i should stop being available (have been too much ) and start all these games again. Honestly, sometimes it seems like the only way for him to stay long enough to realise what a great woman he has.

By: smileyes

smileyes — Thu, 29 Jun 2006 12:04:25 +0000

Dear Amy,
I too have checked out the LOVE TACTICS videos. True…those are Ã¢â‚¬ËœgamesÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ to Ã¢â‚¬Ëœown the one you wantÃ¢â‚¬â„¢. Which I feel in some ways might be Ã¢â‚¬Ëœnot being who you truly areÃ¢â‚¬â„¢! That ainÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t good…now, is it?
If the other person want to get you coz u are hard to get…they will successfully build up their ego. And place you sooooo high & unreachable. But once they get what they wantÃ¢â‚¬Â¦its just like a kid who pesters the parents for a new toy, shows initial excitement for having it…once tired of it, will become the Ã¢â‚¬ËœtrophyÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ u mentioned. Its good if they even polish the trophy u know…worse if you are just taken for granted!
Hmmm…seems like you are telling us to be ourselves. All the better Ã¢â‚¬â€œ coz if someone cant accept us for who we are, we are better off without them Ã¯ÂÅ
Treat everyone in our life as how weÃ¢â‚¬â„¢d like to be treated, lovingly…with care, as if they were our near and dear ones. Those who find this Ã¢â‚¬ËœirritatingÃ¢â‚¬â„¢ would be naturally repulsed. Those who remain are within the same wavelength…Good-Bye to immature, game-playing people!

By: Ashanti

Ashanti — Tue, 27 Jun 2006 20:27:53 +0000

I agree with u Amy. My boyfriend tells me stories of bets that he and his friends made when they were young & immature. Bets about which one of them will get the pretty miss, who refuses to talk to anyone of them. How they will literally wear her down, until she gives in to one of them. But that is about it. They never have any real feelings for them. TO them its just a game.

By: Ngozi

Ngozi — Thu, 22 Jun 2006 10:47:51 +0000

Love tactics and love game are rubbish it is a way by which immatured men used to hit and run.I agree with you Amy. I am so tired of meeting men and feeling like I have to play their sordid little man games to “win”. I don’t like playing games. I just like being me. I,too, want someone who wants me for the sweet, kind, wonderful woman that I am, and not because of what I look like. I want a matured man who doesn’t judge his manhood by the eye candy on his arm! I thank you very much for your helpful advice infact your idea on relationship is always the best. Once I personally noticed that a man is coming to me with tactics and game, I will pick a senior race bicos tactics and game signifies that the man is just after use and dump. Thank you very much for your selfless effort to keep our relationship going in a genuine way.

By: Jack

Jack — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 08:34:15 +0000

A guy’s perspective …..

These strategies do work. As a person on whom such strategies have been used, and as a person who in turn has used love tactics, I know they do work. Yes, we would prefer if this was not the case, but as long as we, as humans, decide using our emotions, till then, we will get influenced by such tactics.

Ask yourself, haven’t you ever been attracted to a person who was simultaneously dating 2-3 other people, who seemed busy and unavailable, and was not as interested in you as you were in him (or her). Someone who seemed wild and reckless, who wouldn’t go by the rules.

But there’s more to this. There is a rule that states that you cannot both respect and manipulate a person. Knowing tactics are good, as long as you are happy in being able to see through the tricks of others, and sometimes use the same tricks on other people too. But it is not possible to have a healthy, long-term relationship with a person, and also continue to manipulate him (or her).

Seduction can be taught. But then, it definitely cannot be compared with romance, which cannot be planned out or taught, but which is so much better than seduction.

By: MARITZA

MARITZA — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 06:59:26 +0000

I just want to say that i needed to hear that.. thanks… its extremely frustrating when you meet a nice guy and it seems like nothing you do is good enough to keep him interested. It makes you feel regected and hurt and “not good enough” but a while ago I realized that if that person cant love me for me then he is not what I want… why play games to keep someone interested? You can’t make someone love you… no matter what you do. But sometimes we forget that.. I did. But after reading your article I was reminded again… Thank you

By: Linda Elliott

Linda Elliott — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 00:34:24 +0000

Well I hate mind games and really believe that manipulation is wrong in any relationship. Love tactics embraces manipulation. If a man likes me he likes me and if he doesn’t he doesn’t. I am coming out of a relationship of over 2 years. I was manipulated those years. My ex boyfriend was very controlling and he was very cheap. I should have known this when I saw his apartment. He had absolutely no furniture and he slept on the floor. This man was an investor and had a lot of money but he never spent it. He hoarded it in the bank. He complained about how much our first date cost him. I thought he would change with time but this obviously did not happen. When he complained about seeing me because gas was so expensive, he became more manipulative. I broke up with him and said goodbye. Goodbye manipulation and control. Hello wonderful freedom.